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when you mention you are stone...some women just head for the hills....
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But, the alternative is doing/allowing something that doesn't fit for you, right? I say it is much better that a woman be with me if she is stone, as well, not someone who tolerates my stoneness. Ya know?
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I had a date with a stone butch who hadn't previously identified herself as such to me. When I told her I was a stonefemme and explained what that meant to me, she said, "I'm LOVING this". I wish it could always work out that way.
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I agree. I want to be with someone who seeks a stone butch, not tolerates it. I have been fortunate in that regard.
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11-28-2011, 07:07 AM | #225 |
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I totally agree with this statement. Its hard to find a Stone Butch who "gets it" not just tolerates it
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A stone butch is a woman who is strongly masculine in character and dress, who tops their partners sexually (and sometimes emotionally), and who does not wish to be touched genitally. Not all stone butches identify in female terms, some are known to identify with male pronouns, and many stone butches - not all, but many - do not identify themselves with lesbian or within the lesbian community. A common partner for a stone butch is a Stone Femme, who is a femme who bottoms sexually or who wishes not to touch the genitals of her stone butch partner. This is not one hundred percent of the former or latter but is a overall old school pattern. Butches are very diverse in emotion and sexual expression.
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well...she hasn't run, as it happens......so we will see..
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As an aside, I do understand why it would be hard for someone of a non stone nature to understand how the way we stones have sex could meet someone's sexual needs.
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I am femme but not stone femme. I have never had a problem with dating a stone butch and have dated more than one. I do not mind that someone identifes as stone and has personal preferences about how/if/where they are touched. I have always been of the mindset that if my needs are met then I am happy; it is actually a good fit because I tend to "crash" if those needs are met well. However, if I am dating someone that enjoys being touched, I am good there too. I think I am flexible based on my partner. I believe that if everything is good out of the bedroom and I get what I need in it, then the rest (ie, their personal choices) is 100% negotiable. So, I want to know, does this make me seem that I "tolerate" someone's stoneness or does it show that I "accept" it?
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Its here....Friday! Have a wonderful weekend all you handsome Stone Butches and Femme's that adore Stone Butches!
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For me, in thinking about it, if I was with someone who could go either way, I think there would be a part of me that would always wonder if they were getting their needs met...or if they could get their needs met long term. Granted, I am a "no touch", stone butch. Maybe if I were a "no penetration, but everything else is fine", stone butch, or a "don't touch me up top, but touch me everywhere else", stone butch, I would struggle less with understanding how one could go either way. Get what I am saying? If one enjoys touching/licking/sucking female genitals/breasts, then how could they possibly be able to get all of their sexual needs met without being able to have at least some contact with their partner's breasts/genitals? Is it analogous to the bisexual person who can be satisfied with only dating one sex (rather than the bisexual person who needs to have both sexes in order to be satisfied)? Interesting subject, thanks for raising it.
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I kind of have to agree with Dapper on this... I would also wonder if her needs were actually being met, because what I'm getting from this is that, if you can go either way then somewhere inside you wants to touch, etc. I cannot provide that for the other person so I would have a sense of guilt because deep I would think that I am not fulfilling their needs fully.. which for me.. being the extreme stone giver, is what gets my needs met. I guess if you have someone who is okay with a partner willing and accepting of going either way then that is a good fit... it's just not a good for me. Thanks for asking... |
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Thanks for this thread. It took me awhile to realize that I was a stone femme but finding that identity freed me and explained a lot of things in my life. Stones need their counterparts---stone butch and stone femme--because we understand like no other what it's like being stone or how much pleasure there is in finding that right complement to us.
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.....gets high powered binoculars and telescopes out to look for single, sane, (well, somewhat sane), honorable stone butches! Maybe I need to shake the bushes a little and see what I can find there!
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I am curious about myself as well. Do you think it is strange that when I am dating a ftm or someone who is stone that my mind just automatically "avoids" the areas that are off limits or in the case of a ftm, I just naturally associate that person as male-just like they present themselves as there is nothing feminine or feminizing about them? I have had many conversations where I have defended myself that "I couldnt possibly see someone as something other than what they are born as." It really offends me. Does this make me "strange"?
Dont get me wrong, I am all about pleasing my partner and making them feel good, but its almost as if its instilled in me that I *know* how to accomplish this without making them uncomfortable, overstepping boundaries or trying to do something they don't appreciate.
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