what NOT to do in a relationship.......

[Diva]

Originally Posted by socialjustice_fsu

when adding anyone to your most important asset such as your home deed. Regardless of the certainty both feel that the relationship is a 'forever one' - people change for a number of reasons. Trying to remove a name off of a home deed is costly not just financially but emotionally. Consider prenuptials. It only makes good business sense. I speak from first hand experience. So does my well-paid attorney.

One thing that won't happen.....if I'm ever in a relationship again.....

This is my childhood home. It will go to my daughter. Period. The end.


Unless I decide to sell it and write her out of the will...in which case, I will move to Belize. Or Paris. (That's Paris, France, Europe...not Paris, Texas.)

[SuperFemme]

don't use the last of the creamer.
or the last of anything, offer it first.

don't touch my remote.
uh.

i mean share the remote nicely.
having an inoperative decoy remote is
BAD.
BAD.
BAD.

[WolfyOne]

Never remove batteries from remote to use in toys

I mean, never remove batteries from toys to use in remote

or the sharing will stop and no pleasure can come from that

[asphaltcowboi]

never go to the lumber yard to get fence wood and come home a few hours later with you best bud at your side swearing that home depot was out of lumber
never piss your girl off when you real tired an could sleep threw anything.... you may wake with your toe nails painted

[Rockinonahigh]

Where I dont have a prob with most things but I will share my kitchen if whom ever im with dosent rearange it..its all where I want it.I know some cutlry is thrown in the cutlery drawer..I ran out of space to put them so in they went anyway they landed.All the knives go in a knife block or on the magnetic strips...please...I know spoken like a grouchy italian chef.

[Jesse]

If you do not know/love yourself, do not get involved in a committed relationship...go do your emotional work first. If you do not know who you are then you cannot know what you need or what you have to bring to the table.

Jesse

[Ashton]

DONT do unto the other as you would have the other do unto you!!

[sweetcali]

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

please don't put the lube and the ben-gay next to each other in the nightstand.

Oh heavens to betsy I agree except don't place the ben gay next to the lube but please please please place the icy hot or ginger next it thank you.

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

never be a jealous control freak.
it's not seksi.

you know right?
phone rings: who are you talking to
you're on the computer: looking over your shoulder
you go out with the girls: guess who shows up.

1+1=2 and I am not 50% of anything.

I thought 1 + 1 = 3

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

oh.
never get jealous of the love a potential mate has for their fur babies.
you will lose.

I never have understood how someone could be jealous of their partner's pet.

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

and for god's sake, don't ever fuck whilst wearing nothing but socks.

Oh heaven's to betsy please do NOT come out wearing snoopy tighty's and Mr. Bendy then get insulted because I am double over with laughter to tears.

sweetcali

[bright_arrow]

People get jealous over a pet(s)? Really?

- don't compare your partner to your ex, or vice versa. everyone is different. and if by god you do, DON'T say it to them. whether good or bad, no one likes hearing comparisons. we don't want to know your ex crosses your mind. at least i don't. some people might not have a problem with it, but i have a big problem with it.

- don't go to bed angry (i mean it!)

- don't offer advice unless asked. sometimes your partner just needs to vent it out.

- don't violate privacy.

- don't forget special occasions (even if they're not special to you, they may be to your partner)

- don't be condescending. you can comment on something without being harsh about it.

- don't use sex as a bribe or punishment

- don't try to change your partner. respect, love, appreciate and cherish them for who they are. that is, after all, why you're with them, yes?

(do communicate, compromise, and have the ability to laugh at yourselves ~ that goes a long way!)

[Kenna]

Don't "force" the other person "into a little gray box" filled with YOUR ideas or dreams of what/who they should be, who they should interact with, what they should do and how they should CHANGE or ID to fit your specifications. Don't go into a relationship with the intention of changing the other person... don't place unrealistic or non-agreed upon expectations or limitations on the other person [or relationship in general] that will make them feel claustrophobic and restrained. Before long, they will want to break free of their restraints. (I HATE little boxes... they remind me of limitations and restrictions.)

Do not strip anyone of their dignity. Do not insult or make back handed comments about their heritage, "up bringing", culture, where they were raised, or any of the people that are important to them. (I am proud I spent most of my childhood/young adult years in the Appalachian Mountains and know whole communities of very hardworking, respectful, honorable, compassionate people... it PEEVES me beyond anger and outrage to hear someone I'm dating call us "damn hillbillies!"!!) DO NOT belittle someone. Their heritage is just as valid and important as yours.

And a big deal breaker for me.... Domestic Violence of any kind that makes anyone feel unsafe, threatened, confined, stalked, afraid to leave or afraid to come home, afraid to say "no", etc etc... (I can add to this list, but it comes from my own experience. Domestic Violence is very personal and comes in many different forms.)

[TenderKnight]

Don't get into the trap of saying or doing what you *THINK* they want or that you *THINK* you should do.. Like lots have said already.. Communicate so that you *KNOW* and aren't guessing... (has been guilty of the thinking and not knowing thing..)

Don't be a role.. be a person who has a dynamic with another person.. (huge pet peeve..)

[Kenna]

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

oh.
never get jealous of the love a potential mate has for their fur babies.
you will lose.

And Gee Wiz Willy Wonkers... If the fur baby's Momma say's "get out of my kitchen, you KNOW better!"...BACK HER UP! Don't sit there and giggle when said fur baby pouts and hides beside your feet with a sweet little look of "but Daddy said I can stay". He may be cute... but he's playin' you and Momma's gonna get pissed that her rules are broken by two "little hams" that think they are gonna get away with it!!

Momma + in Femme Stance with hands on hips + multiple dog crates in house = pay backs

[BullDog]

The minute you start getting falsely accused of stuff, get out then. Things are not going to improve. It's their issue not yours.

[tuffboi29]

Originally Posted by dixielady

OMG! Agreed!!! LOL


Don't call me at work telling me how you love and adore me, then deny that you know anything about the unfamiliar cigarettes and freakin' underwear beside my bed when I get home...I don't smoke menthols, I don't wear underwear, and I wasn't born yesterday....grrrrrrrrrrrrr

How about the phone call saying "Hey honey...Last night was great...What time does your gf go to work tonight?"

I was like ..."I don't think I'm going to work tonight, buddy."

[RadiantYearning]

Don't spend the entirety of the honeymoon phase showing her how sexually compatible the two of you are, only to lay the cease and desist order on the nightstand the evening after you both sign papers on the house.

Never confuse needing someone with neediness. One is endearing, the other is obnoxious.

Don't waste your energy on jealousy, snooping or stalking ... there are so many better uses for that energy.

Never forget to tell her how you feel, don't assume she knows and/or it's obvious in the things you do. She wants to hear it AND you never know what tomorrow will bring.

Don't cheat. End it if you're seriously considering it ... and don't forget, the grass is seldom greener.

Don't forget to mention that you have more diagnoses than the DSM-IV.

[Daywalker]

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

and for god's sake, don't ever fuck whilst wearing nothing but socks.

Oops.

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

oh.
never get jealous of the love a potential mate has for their fur babies.
you will lose.

And Oops.


This is what mah boi told the Mrs. Day the first month we was meshing.

Hy said
"...oh, and the kittehz will always come first, music will be right behind it."

[Daywalker]

Might wanna let em know ahead of time that all of
your home decor...may or may not be kinda creepy.


Never tell them you're getting frisked by airport
security because you were once famous.

[Gemme]

Do not:

Never negotiate, whether it be sex or personal boundaries, future intentions, etc. Negotiation keeps everyone on the same page.

Be, or expect to be, someone's world. It's too hard to live our lives as ourselves, much less carry the weight of another.

Go to the bathroom in front of me. Been there, done that and it does something to the relationship that I don't like. Familiarity can breed contempt in situations like this.

Do the usual deal breakers: lying, cheating, drugging, stealing, stalking, murdering, embezzling, being a controlling pompous ass, etc.

[Dylan]

Originally Posted by betenoire

If your lady fair does not answer the phone, do not call her work, her mother, her best friend, her favourite cafe, and her dentist in an effort to track her down. Leave a message and wait for her to call you back. Lordy!

And if she still doesn't return your call, DON'T leave a message on her voicemail saying you're going to call the police to find her if she doesn't call you back.


If She Hasn't Returned Your (countless) Calls, She (obviously) Does NOT Want To Talk To You,
Dylan...aghast at the lengths some people will go to

[Glenn]

[QUOTE=RadiantYearning;163604]Don't spend the entirety of the honeymoon phase showing her how sexually compatible the two of you are, only to lay the cease and desist order on the nightstand the evening after you both sign papers on the house.

Hm. So that's what they used to cap the oil well.