What are your faults? - Page 7

wahya · 04-20-2013, 12:12 PM

I believe I have a bit of adhd..
I can talk too much
I lose things
I can be too affectionate
I used to have a short temper but I have learned to tame it.
I smoke with something major( bad) happens in my life.
I used to be a slob. but I took control of that.
My daugher says I don't always have a filter. (workin on that)
I better stop here..lol

DJ Bear · 04-20-2013, 03:46 PM

I don't ask for help.

Not loving myself. I finally "like" myself and I'm working on loving myself.

Going into my head and not staying in the now.

I am my toughest critic

Not assertive enough

I act first and afterwards think it through. Like grabbing 2 leashes on big dogs and not thinking that they might just pull me off my feet, which they did.

I forget my limitations and still think I'm in my 20's, then I'm hard on myself when I fail

I have traveled a long way these past few years making positive physical and mental changes. I am always striving to be a better me.

If anyone ever says life gets better or easier with age, run, they're lying through they're fucking teeth.

If anyone ever says that you are never too old to find love, listen to them, they really know what they are talking about.

Allison W · 04-20-2013, 08:15 PM

Life-destroying, all-consuming sloth.

Velvetkitten · 04-20-2013, 09:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by wahya

I believe I have a bit of adhd..
I can talk too much
I lose things
I can be too affectionate
I used to have a short temper but I have learned to tame it.
I smoke with something major( bad) happens in my life.
I used to be a slob. but I took control of that.
My daugher says I don't always have a filter. (workin on that)
I better stop here..lol

Too affectionate

I don't think that's a fault....

PurpleQuestions84 · 04-24-2013, 12:07 PM

Im fat

Happyfemme · 04-24-2013, 02:20 PM

I sometimes feel the need to put others before myself.
I can be a bit of a workaholic.
I am not very spontaneous but I would really like to work on this.
I might over analyze a situation.
I am very independent and sometimes shut others out as a result.
I am very private about certain parts of my life even with my family, friends and coworkers however I am an open book with someone if I am in a relationship with them.

TheMerryFairy · 04-24-2013, 02:24 PM

I misplace things, I can overanalyze when I am trying to understand something and if I am uncomfortable/nervous/confused , I can't always communicate as well as I can when my head is clear or when I know exactly how I feel/what I am thinking.

Velvetkitten · 04-24-2013, 03:00 PM

I speak before I think sometimes
I can be jealous(have got a whole lot better) but she still rears her ugly head from time to time
I can be demanding and bossy(think that's the Taurus in me which is why I need a "strong hand")
I can give to much of myself to others

~baby~doll~ · 04-30-2013, 04:00 PM

Oh uh, *tries not to faint*

Let's see,

I am called a doormat. I am it is my nature but I really need to grow a backbone when dealing with others outside of my close family.

I am over emotional and spend much of my time crying over ant little thing.

My opinion counts for nothing. You someone says I am wrong I guess I am. I cry.

I am terrorized by compliments and run from them. I am never worthy.

Our house is spotless but I can always spot the flaws.

I will do anything to keep from hurting someones feelings, even to the point of backing down when I am right which I never am.

I should stop now dinner needs to be done by 5:15.
Hugs

Allison W · 04-30-2013, 04:18 PM

A friend of mine showed me this the other day and said it reminded him of me: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hybristophilia

I didn't argue too hard. I'm pretty sure that in this case, that qualifies as a fault.

~baby~doll~ · 04-30-2013, 04:37 PM

I crush on everyone and get lost in this mental love affairs.

I attach very easily.

Allison W · 04-30-2013, 05:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by fayedoll

I crush on everyone and get lost in this mental love affairs.

I attach very easily.

I've been there. It's pretty shitty. Do you especially attach to people who were there for you at a bad time in your life or who brought positive change to your life?

~baby~doll~ · 05-01-2013, 09:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Allison W

I've been there. It's pretty shitty. Do you especially attach to people who were there for you at a bad time in your life or who brought positive change to your life?

I think I attach harder to them than anyone. I get like glue, clingy. My brain runs through relationships and loves. Sometimes it's like sick.

Ascot · 05-01-2013, 10:04 AM

Today...crabbiness.

Apocalipstic · 05-01-2013, 10:08 AM

The Adult Children of Alcoholics Laundry List covers many of my less than favorable traits nicely.

14 Characteristics of an Adult Child

These are characteristics we seem to have in common due to being brought up in an alcoholic household.

1. We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.

2. We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.

3. We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism.

4. We either become alcoholics, marry them, or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs.

5. We live life from the viewpoint of victims and are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.

6. We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc.

7. We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others.

8. We become addicted to excitement.

9. We confuse love and pity and tend to “love” people we can “pity” and “rescue”.

10. We have “stuffed” our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (denial).

11. We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem.

12. We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us.

13. Alcoholism is a family disease and we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink.

14. Para-alcoholics are reactors rather than actors.– Tony A., 1978

Allison W · 05-01-2013, 04:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by fayedoll

I think I attach harder to them than anyone. I get like glue, clingy. My brain runs through relationships and loves. Sometimes it's like sick.

I've had the exact same thing happen to me more than once. One of them I pushed away because of it.

Yard · 05-01-2013, 05:15 PM

Very honest and candid response.

girllikeu2 · 05-01-2013, 05:50 PM

I am a big jerk. I am not even ashamed about it.

Vivacious1 · 05-02-2013, 06:51 PM

1) Stubborn
2) Bitchy
3) Bossy
4) OCD
5) Over anyalyze everything!
6) Jaded
7) I take in strays
8) I am very hard on myself, others

Tuff Stuff · 06-03-2013, 08:46 PM

I want to be there 24/7 for my family,my lady,my two baby chihuahuas,my two baby kittens and I CAN'T!

My fault i have to work

04-20-2013, 03:46 PM	#122
DJ Bear Member How Do You Identify?: Daddy, Papa, just Me Preferred Pronoun?: he, him, sir, bro, hey you Relationship Status: Married to library_girl Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Illinois with my baby girl Posts: 144 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 404 Thanked 552 Times in 138 Posts Rep Power: 8324586	I don't ask for help. Not loving myself. I finally "like" myself and I'm working on loving myself. Going into my head and not staying in the now. I am my toughest critic Not assertive enough I act first and afterwards think it through. Like grabbing 2 leashes on big dogs and not thinking that they might just pull me off my feet, which they did. I forget my limitations and still think I'm in my 20's, then I'm hard on myself when I fail I have traveled a long way these past few years making positive physical and mental changes. I am always striving to be a better me. If anyone ever says life gets better or easier with age, run, they're lying through they're fucking teeth. If anyone ever says that you are never too old to find love, listen to them, they really know what they are talking about. __________________ “Named must your fear be before banish it you can.” Yoda

04-24-2013, 12:07 PM	#125
PurpleQuestions84 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Super Girly Preferred Pronoun?: Miss.Lady ;) Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: So.cal U.S.A Posts: 62 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 53 Thanked 153 Times in 43 Posts Rep Power: 1365539	Im fat __________________ It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. ~e.e. cummings "if you end up a life you never wanted because u listened to your parents, your priest, your friends, and your spouse, you deserve it." PurpleQuestions84 AKA Barbie Dyke

04-30-2013, 04:00 PM	#129
~baby~doll~ Member How Do You Identify?: femme-bottom, lesbian, queer Preferred Pronoun?: feminine ones Relationship Status: Leather polyamorous family Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: with HER Posts: 1,110 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,494 Thanked 2,856 Times in 905 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Ewww Oh uh, tries not to faint Let's see, I am called a doormat. I am it is my nature but I really need to grow a backbone when dealing with others outside of my close family. I am over emotional and spend much of my time crying over ant little thing. My opinion counts for nothing. You someone says I am wrong I guess I am. I cry. I am terrorized by compliments and run from them. I am never worthy. Our house is spotless but I can always spot the flaws. I will do anything to keep from hurting someones feelings, even to the point of backing down when I am right which I never am. I should stop now dinner needs to be done by 5:15. Hugs __________________ i will wait to love You. i will wait another day For You i'd leave all this behind. i will wait for you tonight. iwill waste another dream on You Always run to You. Uh Huh Her

04-30-2013, 04:37 PM	#131
~baby~doll~ Member How Do You Identify?: femme-bottom, lesbian, queer Preferred Pronoun?: feminine ones Relationship Status: Leather polyamorous family Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: with HER Posts: 1,110 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,494 Thanked 2,856 Times in 905 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I crush on everyone and get lost in this mental love affairs. I attach very easily. __________________ i will wait to love You. i will wait another day For You i'd leave all this behind. i will wait for you tonight. iwill waste another dream on You Always run to You. Uh Huh Her

05-01-2013, 10:04 AM	#134
Ascot Member How Do You Identify?: Preppy Butch artist Relationship Status: Riding solo Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: North of the Emerald City Posts: 1,135 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 179 Thanked 2,487 Times in 549 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Today...crabbiness. __________________ Now, if I could just find a way to get paid for what I can do with my tongue and a cherry stem.

04-20-2013, 12:12 PM	#121
wahya Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: Me Relationship Status: im good Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 296 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 506 Thanked 857 Times in 240 Posts Rep Power: 0	I believe I have a bit of adhd.. I can talk too much I lose things I can be too affectionate I used to have a short temper but I have learned to tame it. I smoke with something major( bad) happens in my life. I used to be a slob. but I took control of that. My daugher says I don't always have a filter. (workin on that) I better stop here..lol

04-20-2013, 08:15 PM	#123
Allison W Member How Do You Identify?: TG Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Loner Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 366 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,414 Thanked 1,195 Times in 319 Posts Rep Power: 12203815	Life-destroying, all-consuming sloth.

04-24-2013, 02:20 PM	#126
Happyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Engaged Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: United States Posts: 1,666 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,303 Thanked 4,943 Times in 1,496 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	I sometimes feel the need to put others before myself. I can be a bit of a workaholic. I am not very spontaneous but I would really like to work on this. I might over analyze a situation. I am very independent and sometimes shut others out as a result. I am very private about certain parts of my life even with my family, friends and coworkers however I am an open book with someone if I am in a relationship with them.

04-24-2013, 02:24 PM	#127
TheMerryFairy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pansexual/Sapiosexual femmey dyke who likes to crossdress now and then Preferred Pronoun?: She/her OR ze if I'm crossdressing Relationship Status: Floating and walking My path, happy in life. Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: On my Merry Fairy way! , Canada Posts: 3,630 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,727 Thanked 8,694 Times in 2,987 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I misplace things, I can overanalyze when I am trying to understand something and if I am uncomfortable/nervous/confused , I can't always communicate as well as I can when my head is clear or when I know exactly how I feel/what I am thinking.

04-24-2013, 03:00 PM	#128
Velvetkitten Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Bratty Daddys girl Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Girl,Girl, friend Relationship Status: My soul is torn leave be Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Boston Posts: 217 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 303 Thanked 350 Times in 100 Posts Rep Power: 0	I speak before I think sometimes I can be jealous(have got a whole lot better) but she still rears her ugly head from time to time I can be demanding and bossy(think that's the Taurus in me which is why I need a "strong hand") I can give to much of myself to others

04-30-2013, 04:18 PM	#130
Allison W Member How Do You Identify?: TG Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Loner Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 366 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,414 Thanked 1,195 Times in 319 Posts Rep Power: 12203815	A friend of mine showed me this the other day and said it reminded him of me: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hybristophilia I didn't argue too hard. I'm pretty sure that in this case, that qualifies as a fault.

05-01-2013, 10:08 AM	#135
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	The Adult Children of Alcoholics Laundry List covers many of my less than favorable traits nicely. 14 Characteristics of an Adult Child These are characteristics we seem to have in common due to being brought up in an alcoholic household. 1. We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures. 2. We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process. 3. We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism. 4. We either become alcoholics, marry them, or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs. 5. We live life from the viewpoint of victims and are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships. 6. We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc. 7. We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others. 8. We become addicted to excitement. 9. We confuse love and pity and tend to “love” people we can “pity” and “rescue”. 10. We have “stuffed” our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (denial). 11. We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem. 12. We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us. 13. Alcoholism is a family disease and we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink. 14. Para-alcoholics are reactors rather than actors.– Tony A., 1978 __________________

05-01-2013, 05:15 PM	#137
Yard Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Homo erectus Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 55 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10 Thanked 24 Times in 6 Posts Rep Power: 516681	Very honest and candid response.

05-01-2013, 05:50 PM	#138
girllikeu2 Member How Do You Identify?: Dingbat Relationship Status: Facebook Official Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: *** Posts: 699 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 720 Thanked 1,099 Times in 288 Posts Rep Power**: 15433228	I am a big jerk. I am not even ashamed about it.

05-02-2013, 06:51 PM	#139
Vivacious1 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme Relationship Status: taken Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Louisiana Posts: 220 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 195 Thanked 795 Times in 178 Posts Rep Power: 6042525	1) Stubborn 2) Bitchy 3) Bossy 4) OCD 5) Over anyalyze everything! 6) Jaded 7) I take in strays 8) I am very hard on myself, others __________________ Well behaved women rarely make history ... Last edited by Vivacious1; 05-02-2013 at 06:52 PM. Reason: forgot something

06-03-2013, 08:46 PM	#140
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,315 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9408454	I want to be there 24/7 for my family,my lady,my two baby chihuahuas,my two baby kittens and I CAN'T! My fault i have to work