02-26-2014, 11:09 AM | #1 |
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you dying wish's / living will
i could of sworn there was a thread on this ...
BUT . i couldn't find it anyways......... interesting topic ..... ok i have a question . and hopfully this will NOT offend anyone ... Butchs / trans guys ..... do you have anyone you trust to follow your wish's if something were to happen to you ??? I know i would make sure ..... I would follow your wish's and have you dressed accordingly and respectfully ......
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I can count on my son to do the things I need and want done,I also have a will made in case anyone wants to doubt those request.James also has power of attorney in case he needs it for whatever reason,he is also ex of my estate and I have the same will,p.o.a. ect. for him.In case both of us are not able to do this for each other I have a cousin who will step in to take care of this .
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Good question and one I hadn't thought of. I've recently discussed financial wishes with my sister telling her how I wanted money divided among my nieces & nephews. This is something else I need to discuss with her and I'm fairly confident she'll honor my wishes.
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First and foremost, I'm an Organ Donor. I want to be cremated when I pass on from this life. My family knows my wishes, and I'm sure my younger sister will take care of it for me, I've spoken to her about it long time ago, she was agreeable to it.
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It's in the butch zone called End game for butches
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ahhh yesss .. ha ty Kobi. i remember that thread.. but forgot what it was called and couldnt find it .... ty
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I'm a donor also and want to be cremated. The thought of being in the ground kinda freaks me out
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So now it's on my mind.I witness my own parents go through old age.I don't want to end up like that..I don't..and if I have any say in it,I won't.
It's still hard to think about it,and how they passed on..which was the best thing,for both,I guess. I still miss them. My dying wishes here... http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...ead.php?t=6993 |
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I have done my will and power of attorney,with the Govenor generals office who become executor of my estate,I have 3 young transguys legally as my power of attorney,mainly that my family is to be removed from the hospital,and have no claim on my body,I have left my body to science,I'm an atheist/Agnostic,so when I'm dead i'm dead,I have told them in detail my wishes,and being they are gen Y,they are young enough to be around.
Having just had cancer,this has made my fear of losing my own voice,much easier and given me peace of mind,for me they are like my sons,I feel honoured that they have taken on this responsibility.
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My mother and I were just discussing this topic, earlier this morning.
I need to get a living will made just in case, something happens to me before they pass on. I am an organ donor as well, am to be cremated and they know my wishes on where I want my ashes scattered. I can only trust my family with this, not anyone else so my siblings are aware of what to do, just need to get paperwork done. |
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For me that's easy, I still have my mom and sister with me...
I need to out live them and fulfill there wishes... I will donate my body to science...its easy and free If I do find that special femme to spend the rest of my life with then we could talk about this subject...
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sometimes my health causes me to think of my mortality...
i have in place an anatomical donation set up..when i go, call the medical school i've already spoken to my family to ask what they need when its my time to go... if they need a grave, or an urn or whatever they may need to grieve and move on... we had *the talk* long ago... they said they are happy with whatever i wanted to do.. i believe dying is about the living... So after all of these years of relying on medical science to keep me alive, they can have my old worn out self when i am done with it..... |
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I really want someone to state that I am gone on my page so that friends here will know.
I have a will that my son will administer when I am gone. I hope to be here for several more decades. |
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Lambda Legal has great information on their website in order to add your specific wishes to your healthcare directive.
http://www.lambdalegal.org/sites/def...are-wishes.pdf As a human being and an RN, I am embarrassed to admit that that I don't have a healthcare directive and I don't have a will, either. I have had a couple of instances over the past few years in which things could have turned out the ultimate worst for me medically. That is a convoluted sentence to try not to say that I could have, and was sick enough; to leave this earth. I need to make the time now that I am working part-time, to take care of this ultimate and most important business. I want each of my daughters to get my invested money, my 401k's and my life insurance. I surely don't want it to have to go to probate. Nor do I want to have a vent or feeding tube if there were no chance of recovery. My oldest daughter would not want them removed but my youngest would honor my wishes. The old adage is true: If it is not written, it does not exist.
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Im going to work on my living will very soon. Mainly because if i have another surgery and dont make it. Plus i dont want any debt that i have to bog down my parents.
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I have all the paperwork sitting in a folder for living will, health care derivatives, and power of attorney on $$$$ matters unsigned... some require a notary others don't, just a witness to the signatures. Mary knows my wishes and I have no doubt she'll carry them out... |
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Dying wish...for my two boys to have a secure future and live long and happy lives.
Second wish...for the universe to let me go. Im tired of the pain...im just plain tired.
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My dying wish is to not see my family be sad or distraught after I cross over into another realm. I don't know how others in our community plan for the "end", but here's what I've done:
I just designated my BFF (sil) as executor of my estate and as primary beneficiary of my assets (to administer according to my legal will). Co-chair of my estate is my long time friend who primarily deals wit banking, financing and asset portfolios. My BFF and my mother share medical power of attorney, over my health and subsequent decisions, should I not be able to articulate my desires or make decisions in case of incapacity (stroke, comatose or whatever health condition I'm in that prevents me from saying what I want). The last thing I want to happen is for my loved ones to be worried about having access to my estate after I'm gone. It brings peace to my heart that I've got legal instruments to protect me and members of my family. |
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For me,I'm facing this now
I had very early stage overian cancer 3 yrs ago,I also was dealing with a bone desease that wound up with me being in a wheel chair for 9 mths as well I spent 4 yrs in a chair,being poked proded medicated and operated on. I have just found out I have 2 tumors,one in my neck,one under in my arm pit,this makes 5 tumors ive had. ,I havnt seen the doctor yet,but MY choice is no treatmeant,I would have a scan,but other than that,nothing more.That is my decision. ATM,im very healthy,I eat well,just stopped smoking again,do a lot of exercise,weights and power walk 90 mins a day. My wish,when I get sick,is I dont want to die here, I want to die in the States. My carer lives over there now,and is doing ok and is happy to help me achieve this,I would rather go out with a bang than be sick for years then die,Ive seen it.............my ex had bowel cancer she was not sick until chemo,but oops she already had secondries in liver,so her last 2 yrs were spent sick and then died. So he will come over and work out all the legal stuff,with a view of the last stages I come over and be with him,he is trans as is his partner,he is 32. I just sell everything here and come and live over there,I am an athiest so Im not into funerals or shit like that. when I was young I loved the song everybodys talkin,I wanted to get out of here and hitchike across the US. I have found a lot of resistance from people,with platateudes and really dumping their fear on me,mainly I think it chalenges mortality and death has never frightened me. For anyone surviving cancer,I think you notice more,like the light burns brighter and also I have lived one hell of a life,having being a socialist organiser from 19,ive done lots of amazing stuff,ive lived a good life. My birth family is not my family,although finding out that my great g mother is first nation has had an impact,but only one of how we had to hide the shame of being black. Im sorry,if this is in the wrong spot,I just saw it,and this is just happening. ta for the space to go blahhhhhhhhhh sorry bout the spelling
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