Top 10 Lesbian Myths

[BullDog]

Originally Posted by Metropolis

Top 10 Myths About Lesbians

1. LESBIANS HATE MEN

No, actually I found most lesbians love men, and have many men in their lives. Many have been married to men, though perhaps not in love they loved their spouse as friends. Lesbians also love their fathers and brothers, sons, and friends. There are some people who hate men, just as often it's straight women (even some men do). Actually to be frank, I've found in my experience more men hate lesbians, than the opposite (ironically these people are probably most readily identified by their statements about "lesbians hate men").

Some gay, straight women and men do hate the violence that men commit against women, and many have first hand experience with that, and the condition of the world and second class status of women under the current patriarchy. These things could result in hating men. But lesbians are more often said to be man-haters because it is not understood that females can love other females because they are naturally attracted to the spirituality, emotional make-up, and unique sexuality of other women. It's also used as a way to discredit the ability of women to live lives outside of the need for men. But just because you're not attracted to someone, doesn't mean you hate them, that's kindergarten thinking. People who hate men are called "Misandrists", not "lesbians".

2. LESBIANS WANT TO BE MEN

No, this one is especially attributed to "butch" lesbians. In reality people who are brave and brazen enough be a non-conformist against the hetero-normative expectations of sexual orientation are also more prone to non-comformative behaviors in social sexual dress codes. Many in this choose to dress in more androgynous or more masculine ways that make them feel comfortable in who they are. In reality many heterosexual people dress in more non-conformative ways as well. People who's minds are the opposite sex of their body are called Transsexuals, not lesbians.

3. LESBIANS SHOULDN'T WORK WITH CHILDREN

Lesbians should work with children. Perhaps the next generations could learn from the get-go what normal, loving, caring everyday people we all are no matter our sexual orientation. Lesbians aren't interested in children sexually, that is called a Pedophile, and 98% of them are straight men abusing young girls.


4. LESBIANISM IS OK, AS LONG AS THEY KEEP QUIET AND KEEP IT OUT OF SIGHT

Ahhhhhhh no, lesbians are A-ok all around. Homosexuality is not abnormal, it is not a "human deviation", it is found regularly in nature in animals of all species. What's not ok is discrimination and violence against them because of their visibility, what abnormal is lobotomy's and shock treatments that were given to people because they fell in love with someone that wasn't the opposite sex. It's not ok to deny housing, jobs, hospital visitation of dying spouses, it's not ok to kill, rape and beat people because of their sexual orientation... maybe if all that stopped you'd get your wish and we'd be more quiet.

5. ALL LESBIANS ARE JUST ANGRY FEMINISTS

Not all lesbians are feminist, there are some lesbians are in the feminist movement in an effort to further the rights of all women lesbian or not. The feminist movement has greatly improved the lives of all queer females and straight women alike. Lesbians who are feminists have also been a huge part and greatly furthered the LGQBTI movement for all homosexuals and trans persons as well. It's called fighting for equal rights for everyone... not we want more than you... we want the same as you. If you're experiencing "angry lesbian feminists" perhaps they're just mad at you for calling them that or something else you did.

6. LESBIANS HAVE PENIS ENVY.

First of all sexuality and sexual orientation is about the person and not a sex organ. A person may desire the experience of penetration or giving another that experience through the use of sexual toys. Second not all dildos are penis replica's, some are some aren't. I know it may be difficult to comprehend but there is more to sexual orientation than fixation on genitals, and really most lesbians aren't thinking about a lot about penis's, that's probably important to try to remember.

7. LESBIANS WHO LOVE BUTCH LESBIANS SHOULD JUST FIND A MAN.

This is an easy one, one word... L-E-S-B-I-A-N. But to be even clearer, butch lesbians aren't men... wait (checks and cleans my spectacles and looks again) nope, still not men. With that I'll leave you with one more deep sobering thought to ponder...L-E-S-B-I-A-N

8. LESBIANS ARE UGLY WOMEN WHO CAN'T FIND MEN

Nope! Lesbians are women with all different types of physical characteristics, just- like- any- other- group- within- the- human- sexes. Blond, brunette, red heads, raven haired, short, tall, fat, skinny, long haired, short haired women of all colors and races that simply don't desire men. Again, many lesbians have been married and had boyfriends. If it was about being ugly, there are some of ugly men out there to pair up and not so hard to find that anyone would need to change sexual orientation over it.

9. LESBIANS ARE OUT TO CONVERT YOUNG GIRLS (RECRUITING)
Lesbians are not interested in conversion or force. As lesbians they know well the feeling of having another's ideas of sexuality force fed to them. They are acutely and especially aware sexual orientation isn't something somebody can talk you into. There is no "lesbian dust" we sprinkle on people... get real (but if there was I'd throw it on you).

10. LESBIANS JUST HAVEN"T FOUND THE RIGHT MAN YET

Really, no, some haven't found the right woman yet, and if they haven't found the right man it's because there isn't one... the important thing to remember here is, they're gay, so stop hitting on them stupid.

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Lesbians and Dykes (I prefer "Big Ol' Damn Dyke" if you're name calling, thank you) often do have an agenda. I know, see you were right, we want something. I found most of us seem for the most part hell bent on finding a life partner, someone to share the daily grind with, to love, laugh and cry with. Some would like a family, a home and a dog or cat. They may also seek community... not always successfully.

And yes, they also seem to often care about equal rights for themselves and their families, and sometimes just want to be safe.

But if you find all this lacking, and want to hear me say something really awful about lesbians... there is this.

Lesbians in South Africa today are being murdered and raped daily by men trying to "cure" them of their sexuality. The sexual attacks are called "corrective rape" of which 10 new cases are reported each week. Of the men who are brought to trial, only 1 in 25 will be convicted.

Though it's far away, and an extreme example, this is not something that's isolated and far away. Lesbians are raped, beaten and killed for there sexuality on every continent. If you Google "lesbian raped" you'll receive over 40,000 hits... admittedly these are not all real cases... many are ads for porn videos depicting lesbians being raped. Yeah I know, not so funny.

The purpose of the thread is for debunking myths about lesbians, not to perpetuate them.

[Kobi]

Lesbians are notorious bad dressers.

This always makes me chuckle. Tho, I did finally order my first ever fleece lined flannel shirt.

And sneakers can be formal footware - requires an attitude but can be done!

[LipstickLola]

I am not a bad dresser, casual most of the time, but not bad.......
I do not 'hate' anyone, some men aggravate me, but so does the toilet paper being hung wrong.
I do not have penis envy.
I had a wonderful senstive man, (I even said he had one ovary), still, he wasn't "right" he is a man. I like women, period.
LesbyLola

[Diva]

Originally Posted by Kobi

Lesbians are notorious bad dressers.

This always makes me chuckle. Tho, I did finally order my first ever fleece lined flannel shirt.

And sneakers can be formal footware - requires an attitude but can be done!

Maybe if they're blinged out.....

[Julie]

Originally Posted by Kobi

Lesbians are notorious bad dressers.

This always makes me chuckle. Tho, I did finally order my first ever fleece lined flannel shirt.

And sneakers can be formal footware - requires an attitude but can be done!

I am a Femme first - which means...
I am a FABULOUS dresser.
When I bring the Lesbian of myself into the equation.
You can find me wearing Birkenstocks.
This whole statement of thought is soooooo soooooo sooooooo
I am getting older and losing my words.
Is this a Lesbian thing?

[LipstickLola]

Originally Posted by InfiniteFemme

I am a Femme first - which means...
I am a FABULOUS dresser.
When I bring the Lesbian of myself into the equation.
You can find me wearing Birkenstocks.
This whole statement of thought is soooooo soooooo sooooooo
I am getting older and losing my words.
Is this a Lesbian thing?

What is the difference between being a femme and a lesbian? is one mutally exlclusive/inclusive of the other?? I'm seriously asking anyone who'd like to answer. Thank you IF for your answer the other day. I am hoping to see if someone can expand on your answer.

The reason I ask (you ask) , is that I feel like nothing I am, or feel, fits ANY of these subdivided labels that I find so prevalent here on the planet. Here I thought I was doing well to finally come out as a lesbian, only to find that well? hell.......that ain't all there is!!! I'm talkin years of self-evolution here. I wear Birks, but I wear boots too, and? you'll catch me in kitten heals on just the right occasion (tongue cheek here)
Is there anybody out there who 'gets me'???? think I'm strange?? (yes, tell me)
This is the lesbian myth thread, but it seems all encompassing
I am NOT in the least uncomfortable with who I am, but it seems as though I may indeed be misunderstanding myself, LOL...geebus!

[Julie]

Lola - I don't really think there is a clear cut definition of what femme is and means. It is individual for all of us. For me, it is not about what I wear - but who I am inside. I cannot explain it. It is like LOVE - there is no clear definition for Love, as it means something different to all of us.

I wish you luck in figuring all this out. And maybe you are simply a Lesbian Women, which is equally as fabulous. Just enjoy and love who you are, that is really all that matters at the end of the day.

[Kobi]

Originally Posted by InfiniteFemme

I am a Femme first - which means...
I am a FABULOUS dresser.
When I bring the Lesbian of myself into the equation.
You can find me wearing Birkenstocks.
This whole statement of thought is soooooo soooooo sooooooo
I am getting older and losing my words.
Is this a Lesbian thing?

Julie,

Breathe.

This is just another myth. It is a thread on lesbian myths. So, I was saying there is a myth that lesbians are poor dressers.

So this whole statement of thought is soooo soooo soooo mythical.

Capiche?

[Julie]

Originally Posted by Kobi

Julie,

Breathe.

This is just another myth. It is a thread on lesbian myths. So, I was saying there is a myth that lesbians are poor dressers.

So this whole statement of thought is soooo soooo soooo mythical.

Capiche?

LOL I just adore how literal you are.
Capiche.. Indeed.

[Chinajewelry]

Lesbian dust! I love that

[~baby~doll~]

i had a cousin who told me i would get tired of being with women. i would grow out of it because the sexual energy comes from the men. i chuckled because she really believed this. i am still with my same woman and in a family of women. i do not hate men. i have many male friends. i believe they are sexual as well as women. i think we all have sexual energy and express it in our own way. Some like it gentle. Some like it rough. The energy comes from the closeness our sex creates within.
Lesbian bed death has been covered. i think it happens. i think it happens in heterosexual pairings. Bed death happens when the love excitement and or desire is gone. Sex can grow very old in the missionary position, even if one has a cock or straps. If a couple, poly group or just a group adds new twists and turns, bed death no such thing, if sex is vibrant an a source of enjoyment. just sayin

I was asked by a hetero guy, at a meeting last year, during a discussion about sexuality and identity, if all lesbians are aggressive.

"No, we just save it all up for you Jason!" was my reply. There was no point in belabouring the point on how I actually identify.

[Chinajewelry]

Actually, sometimes I hate men Especially when they do #10!

[TruTexan]

I always get asked which one likes to be the man in the relationship and which one the woman????????
Just another myth men come up with. LOL

I usually just so neither to being a man and both to being a woman. It leaves them all confuckleminded. lmao

[carrotbottom]

Not really a myth, but I still somehow have people asking me in 2018 if I neeeed to use gay sex toys to have quality sex with a woman. Like as if they don't think cunnilingus, fingering or even scissoring is adequate enough! Pretty ridiculous, anyway that was my mini-rant

[Chained Daisy]

Originally Posted by carrotbottom

Not really a myth, but I still somehow have people asking me in 2018 if I neeeed to use gay sex toys to have quality sex with a woman. Like as if they don't think cunnilingus, fingering or even scissoring is adequate enough! Pretty ridiculous, anyway that was my mini-rant

And how would you differentiate `gay sex toys` from `straight sex toys` ?

Surely a sex toy can be used by any sexual orientation ?

[MaddieRobbie]

...the term "lesbian sex".

When I'm having sex I never think "Hey, this is really good lesbian sex" just as when I eat breakfast and think "These are seriously good lesbian eggs", you know?

It's just sex.

I also hate when anyone asks "Who's on top?" It shows how people only see sex through the antiquated view of gender - that someone's gotta be the girl, and someone's gotta be the boy.

I've also gotten some grief from being "too femme" from others. Mostly in college where the my wearing a sundress or having long hair was seen as some kind of "betrayal to the cause". I caved too - shaving my head, wearing less obviously "feminine" clothing - but I found I didn't like the hypocrisy of people who didn't like being told how to live their lives...telling me how I should live mine.

...just my two cents worth.