Butches/transguys as kids

Dance-with-me · 09-22-2012, 10:50 AM

I'm interested in hearing the stories from butches, TG guys or FTMs, about what you were like and your thoughts and feelings about your gender when you were a child, if anyone is willing to share.

My 6yo grandchild and I share a very special bond since I have been her primary parent for most of her life.

She has been gender-variant since before she was 2, expressing a very strong and at times almost obsessive preference for "boy" stuff over anything that she remotely perceives to be for girls.

She varies now between saying that she IS a boy, and that she wants to BE a boy when she grows up. She wants her name to be Michael - and ironically, her birth name is Chastity, named by her mom after Chaz Bono before he transitioned.

I am her only real ally: her mom, teen sister, and even her TG butch male-identified grandmother (my ex) all push her to wear girl things, which she'll do for a bit to please them until she can't take it any more and rips it off as if it's causing her physical pain. My ex scornfully declares that it's just a phase and that I'm pushing her/encouraging her too much, as if his own childhood pain from being forced into highly gendered clothes and roles didn't happen.

I plan on letting her lead. If at some point she is definitive that she IS a boy and clear that it gives her great stress to consider growing up to be a woman, then I will push to alow her to begin transitioning, at least socially, but we're not there yet. I kniw that she might be gay and butch, she might be trans, and i even have a couple of straight friends who say that they were just like her as a child. In the mean time, I give her the safe space and support to just be who she is.

I'm very interested in hearing stories of being this age, then growing up to be who you are now, if you're willing to share them. Thanks.

09-22-2012, 10:50 AM	#1
Dance-with-me Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: earth Posts: 419 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 264 Thanked 1,926 Times in 378 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	Butches/transguys as kids I'm interested in hearing the stories from butches, TG guys or FTMs, about what you were like and your thoughts and feelings about your gender when you were a child, if anyone is willing to share. My 6yo grandchild and I share a very special bond since I have been her primary parent for most of her life. She has been gender-variant since before she was 2, expressing a very strong and at times almost obsessive preference for "boy" stuff over anything that she remotely perceives to be for girls. She varies now between saying that she IS a boy, and that she wants to BE a boy when she grows up. She wants her name to be Michael - and ironically, her birth name is Chastity, named by her mom after Chaz Bono before he transitioned. I am her only real ally: her mom, teen sister, and even her TG butch male-identified grandmother (my ex) all push her to wear girl things, which she'll do for a bit to please them until she can't take it any more and rips it off as if it's causing her physical pain. My ex scornfully declares that it's just a phase and that I'm pushing her/encouraging her too much, as if his own childhood pain from being forced into highly gendered clothes and roles didn't happen. I plan on letting her lead. If at some point she is definitive that she IS a boy and clear that it gives her great stress to consider growing up to be a woman, then I will push to alow her to begin transitioning, at least socially, but we're not there yet. I kniw that she might be gay and butch, she might be trans, and i even have a couple of straight friends who say that they were just like her as a child. In the mean time, I give her the safe space and support to just be who she is. I'm very interested in hearing stories of being this age, then growing up to be who you are now, if you're willing to share them. Thanks.