Flirting by text

lettertodaddy · 01-03-2012, 10:39 AM

How do you decide to make an initial flirty remark via text message? What's your favourite opening line?

I have an astonishing lack of game when it comes to dating, so unfortunately I don't have a favourite flirt to share, but I'm happy to hear yours!

1QuirkyKiwi · 01-03-2012, 11:08 AM

Ummm….I wish I could help you out here, other than saying just be yourself, which sounds such an obvious thing to say….

I once had a text message from a date which read: “I’m nervous, in Café. See you soon!”
I replied back with: “Hi nervous in Café, I’m Sammie, how are you today? I’ll be there in 10 minutes!” ….It worked! LOL!

You could open the text message with: “Hey handsome!” Or “Hello Good looking!” …. To be honest, I’m really rubbish at this sort of thing…. I have a spectacular talent for just opening my mouth or letting my brain take control of my fingers, allowing the words to just fall out….usually, in unintentional innuendoes, or because I’ve a naturally chatty and bubbly personality, it comes across as me flirting, when in fact I’m nervous and shaking like a Jelly, lol!

Best of luck!

macele · 01-03-2012, 11:16 AM

if flirting is your thing, timing just finds its way. if not, make timing LOL.

my fave is, "i sure would like to find the slope of your curve" lol

princessbelle · 01-03-2012, 11:26 AM

I like flirting with texts!!! Even though i'm in a relationship, we still send flirty/dirty text sometimes...it's all the more fun.

But, a longgggggg time ago, when i was single and stuff and was getting to know someone, it was sometimes difficult to pick up on the "is he/she flirting or just being friendly" text and not sure how to take it. Without seeing the face, sorta like online, it's not as obvious.

However, it was fun to text with something that could be read as either way, that way you are safe if they aren't really flirting and in good shape if they were.

Like say....."Good Morning...is it a hard morning or an easy one for you". Or...."Did you dream of anything special last night?" And just let them take the lead, giving an opening sorta.

Well, that's how i rolled anyway...like, here's the bait...are you gonna bite or just sit by the creek and have a "friendly" day.

I found it very enlightening!!!!

UofMfan · 01-03-2012, 11:49 AM

Lines are lines.

Flirting should be natural.

Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such.

The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.

starryeyes · 01-03-2012, 11:55 AM

Flirting via text is awesome! I feel more inclined to say things I wouldn't say on the phone because I would be shy, lol. It's fun to get a flirty text in the middle of the day, too :-D

Just be yourself!

Smiles,
Starry

Gemme · 01-03-2012, 12:00 PM

Using lines via text is even cheesier than when it happens in bars.

Be natural. If they say something and a thought pops into your head...as long as it's not illegal...send it.

ruffryder · 01-03-2012, 12:07 PM

I'm a fan of flirting so flirting by text happens too! *wink wink
It just comes natural I would think and depends if it is reciprocated if one is interested.

betenoire · 01-03-2012, 12:45 PM

I always liked to say "by the way, I am flirting with you now."

lettertodaddy · 01-03-2012, 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by betenoire

I always liked to say "by the way, I am flirting with you now."

Direct and to the point. Love it.

Quintease · 01-03-2012, 02:23 PM

I have no idea what I do but it's probably cheesy. I know when I first met my husband I used to send him messages asking about his workouts and 'you must have amazing muscles', lol.

If it's a cold text (with no prior texting) I usually just send something quite friendly and chatty. I gauge my future texts on their response.

betenoire · 01-03-2012, 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by lettertodaddy

Direct and to the point. Love it.

Life is short and being coy is just way too time consuming.

girl_dee · 01-03-2012, 03:06 PM

*Is my kitchen pig done her chores yet?*

Gets me going every single time.

apretty · 01-03-2012, 03:24 PM

I flirt a lot, by accident.

LaneyDoll · 01-03-2012, 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by apretty

I flirt a lot, by accident.

Me too!!! Most times, what I see as being "just me," others see as flirting.

LesboNascarFan · 01-03-2012, 04:11 PM

I love to flirt via text. And it is nice to flirt text back and forth while working. Makes the day alot more interesting.

And as a lot of the responses has said just be yourself and just say what pops in your head...go with the flow of the conversation.

Jett · 01-03-2012, 04:20 PM

I once practiced my flirts in the mirror, and I immediately fell hard for my smooth charming ways... me've been happy together ever since

SweetJane · 01-03-2012, 04:43 PM

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Originally Posted by princessbelle

But, a longgggggg time ago, when i was single and stuff and was getting to know someone, it was sometimes difficult to pick up on the "is he/she flirting or just being friendly" text and not sure how to take it. Without seeing the face, sorta like online, it's not as obvious.

A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

SugarFemme · 01-03-2012, 05:00 PM

Oh yeah. Flirting via text messages can be fun, flirty and smoking hot. Innuendos and double entendres make for some pretty hot stuff. I personally enjoy that kind of flirting when done right

princessbelle · 01-03-2012, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by SweetJane

A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

Exactly. Without seeing the person it is hard to know IMO. That's why i say i text things that could be taken two different ways....WHEN it gets to the point of wondering.

Also, it's not a pick up line. I'm talking about texting with people you know or are getting to know as the OP says "flirting" and perhaps have been friends awhile. It's the transition to taking it to the next step that leaves many wondering what this or that means.

It's fun though and all part of the dance....

01-03-2012, 10:39 AM	#1
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princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,496 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I like flirting with texts!!! Even though i'm in a relationship, we still send flirty/dirty text sometimes...it's all the more fun. But, a longgggggg time ago, when i was single and stuff and was getting to know someone, it was sometimes difficult to pick up on the "is he/she flirting or just being friendly" text and not sure how to take it. Without seeing the face, sorta like online, it's not as obvious. However, it was fun to text with something that could be read as either way, that way you are safe if they aren't really flirting and in good shape if they were. Like say....."Good Morning...is it a hard morning or an easy one for you". Or...."Did you dream of anything special last night?" And just let them take the lead, giving an opening sorta. Well, that's how i rolled anyway...like, here's the bait...are you gonna bite or just sit by the creek and have a "friendly" day. I found it very enlightening!!!! __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

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macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,230 Times in 847 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	if flirting is your thing, timing just finds its way. if not, make timing LOL. my fave is, "i sure would like to find the slope of your curve" lol

01-03-2012, 11:49 AM	#5
UofMfan Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: A very happy Mr. Grumpy Cat Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Neither here or there Posts: 7,987 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 27,733 Thanked 18,935 Times in 4,705 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Lines are lines. Flirting should be natural. Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such. The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.

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starryeyes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: Guess... Relationship Status: Seat taken Join Date: May 2011 Location: Rocky Mountain High Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,199 Thanked 10,049 Times in 2,075 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Flirting via text is awesome! I feel more inclined to say things I wouldn't say on the phone because I would be shy, lol. It's fun to get a flirty text in the middle of the day, too :-D Just be yourself! Smiles, Starry

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Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	I have no idea what I do but it's probably cheesy. I know when I first met my husband I used to send him messages asking about his workouts and 'you must have amazing muscles', lol. If it's a cold text (with no prior texting) I usually just send something quite friendly and chatty. I gauge my future texts on their response. __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

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LesboNascarFan Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 73 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 126 Thanked 207 Times in 58 Posts Rep Power: 1816570	I love to flirt via text. And it is nice to flirt text back and forth while working. Makes the day alot more interesting. And as a lot of the responses has said just be yourself and just say what pops in your head...go with the flow of the conversation.

01-03-2012, 04:20 PM	#17
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SugarFemme Member How Do You Identify?: Fierce Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Singular Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Southwest Posts: 1,029 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 650 Thanked 4,458 Times in 854 Posts Rep Power*: 21474852	Oh yeah. Flirting via text messages can be fun, flirty and smoking hot. Innuendos and double entendres make for some pretty hot stuff. I personally enjoy that kind of flirting when done right