Flirting by text

[UofMfan]

Lines are lines.

Flirting should be natural.

Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such.

The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.

[starryeyes]

Flirting via text is awesome! I feel more inclined to say things I wouldn't say on the phone because I would be shy, lol. It's fun to get a flirty text in the middle of the day, too :-D

Just be yourself!

Smiles,
Starry

[Gemme]

Using lines via text is even cheesier than when it happens in bars.

Be natural. If they say something and a thought pops into your head...as long as it's not illegal...send it.

[ruffryder]

I'm a fan of flirting so flirting by text happens too! *wink wink
It just comes natural I would think and depends if it is reciprocated if one is interested.

[betenoire]

I always liked to say "by the way, I am flirting with you now."

[lettertodaddy]

Originally Posted by betenoire

I always liked to say "by the way, I am flirting with you now."

Direct and to the point. Love it.

[Quintease]

I have no idea what I do but it's probably cheesy. I know when I first met my husband I used to send him messages asking about his workouts and 'you must have amazing muscles', lol.

If it's a cold text (with no prior texting) I usually just send something quite friendly and chatty. I gauge my future texts on their response.

[betenoire]

Originally Posted by lettertodaddy

Direct and to the point. Love it.

Life is short and being coy is just way too time consuming.

[HoustonHuny]

Originally Posted by UofMfan

Lines are lines.

Flirting should be natural.

Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such.

The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins.

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

[betenoire]

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

ummm UFO Man

UofMean really hates it when people type her name wrong.

[Hack]

I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

[SweetJane]

Originally Posted by Hack

I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

Jake, I'm a professional writer, too. I never really learned to flirt well, but I have done a bit of written flirting. And it can be a very clever game of words. It shows the intelligence of the two flirting and can become a beautiful collection of sentiments. So I'm not surprised you saved those text messages......But there is a caveat. Sometimes you can get caught up in the word oneupmanship that you lose sight of the friendship or relationship that could be built.
Janie

[Hack]

Originally Posted by SweetJane

Jake, I'm a professional writer, too. I never really learned to flirt well, but I have done a bit of written flirting. And it can be a very clever game of words. It shows the intelligence of the two flirting and can become a beautiful collection of sentiments. So I'm not surprised you saved those text messages......But there is a caveat. Sometimes you can get caught up in the word oneupmanship that you lose sight of the friendship or relationship that could be built.
Janie

It was never really a game of one upping. It was more like a script for an Irene Dunne-Cary Grant or Hepburn-Tracy film. Frankly, I am tempted to turn the whole premise into a screenplay, but I don't think it would translate well.

[SugarFemme]

I PROMISE I am not trying to derail.....I was sending flirty text messages to the woman I was dating at the time and they got a little racy. Well, I accidently forwarded one of the more racier ones to my ex-hubby . Good thing he has a great sense of humor. I got a text back asking me, " Can I watch"?? LMAO

[chai~]

Originally Posted by Hack

I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

I've spent several months flirting with someone online and in text, and wanted to keep the saucy little nuggets for late night reading at a later date!

So, I started a blog, totally dedicated to to such encounters. They are retyped, spelling and punctuation somewhat corrected. {I wanted to keep the rawness and organic~ness of the chats as close to the original as I could}

I occassionally re read these exchanges, smile, blush, and sometimes think, "oh my, I said that?"

Perhaps someday I will compile them into a debaucherous tome of erotica!

[Passionaria]

Yep, in my mind too the best flirty anything comes when you are relaxed and just having fun, it just comes out. And then evolves

I have never misfired a text, but I did have someone I was dating send a naughty email~~~> to my MOM. AYE! I could feel them squirm from miles away.*giggling* I had forgotten about that, thanks for the memory. LOL.

[GinaSofia]

Texting is a safer place to flirt how you want to/say what you feel without the secondhand ticking in your face for an immediate response.

I did go through a brief break up and found out that people do
use texting like they do the Internet..by that I mean scandalously,
without integrity, and to literally steal, literally. So, be smart & be aware.If people reach out to warn you,BELIEVE THEM.


My spouse & I have lived and worked together for over 23 years, texting
each other ( once she figured it out) became a whole new flirting tool &
just another way to let each other know that even if we're on
opposite ends of the building, we're still thinking of each other...in every way.

I absolutely LOVE text flirting.. With my spouse.

[girl_dee]

my beau and i are both natural flirts so we sure make texting fun....

[HoustonHuny]

Originally Posted by betenoire

UofMean really hates it when people type her name wrong.

Perhaps "U" should not have created a name where it was so easy to transpose.

disclaimer: I have very naughty typing fingers

[princessbelle]

Speaking of flirting...

I personally see it like this..

It is individualized. Everyone does it his or her own way. No one is right or wrong when it comes to everyone's personal style. To each his/her own. Just go with the flow. Not only do people flirt differently but they may flirt differently with different people.

The question was about texting and IMO it's easy to read too much or not enough in what may seem to be a flirty text. Whether you text something out of the blue or plan it for just the right time, just like most things in life, if your interested, give it a shot.

Last i looked, there are no rules for such things.

It's pretty easy to figure out if it's working or not.....eventually.