Flirting by text

SweetJane · 01-03-2012, 04:43 PM

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Originally Posted by princessbelle

But, a longgggggg time ago, when i was single and stuff and was getting to know someone, it was sometimes difficult to pick up on the "is he/she flirting or just being friendly" text and not sure how to take it. Without seeing the face, sorta like online, it's not as obvious.

A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

SugarFemme · 01-03-2012, 05:00 PM

Oh yeah. Flirting via text messages can be fun, flirty and smoking hot. Innuendos and double entendres make for some pretty hot stuff. I personally enjoy that kind of flirting when done right

princessbelle · 01-03-2012, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by SweetJane

A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

Exactly. Without seeing the person it is hard to know IMO. That's why i say i text things that could be taken two different ways....WHEN it gets to the point of wondering.

Also, it's not a pick up line. I'm talking about texting with people you know or are getting to know as the OP says "flirting" and perhaps have been friends awhile. It's the transition to taking it to the next step that leaves many wondering what this or that means.

It's fun though and all part of the dance....

SweetJane · 01-03-2012, 06:06 PM

Princessbelle, that's exactly what I meant. That statement came from someone I've known for a while. So I guess knowing it means more just has to come with time I guess.

Oneofakind, yes text flirting can be a game of wits and very clever.

Sassy · 01-03-2012, 06:41 PM

The approach depends on the individual I guess... I'll volunteer two texts I've used with positive results in the past...

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Subtle: Sitting alone at the bar of my favorite restaurant I snapped a pic of a tall glass of chardonnay and texted it to her. No words.

Direct: "Dinner. I'm buying. You're drinking

)"

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twist of lime · 01-03-2012, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by SweetJane

A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

If it makes you blush, or you feel all tingly and giddy...

*I read my meter and thought I'd share

Rockinonahigh · 01-03-2012, 08:47 PM

All this about flirting is very intresting cause somehow I missed the ablity to flirt very well,my son said mamy years ago that I need to stop working so much and learn to smell the roses,unfourntunatly bill had to be paid.Now hat I have the time I still for some reason havent managed to learn to flirt with out hopeing I didnt stick my foot in my mouth or sound off the wall.

SweetJane · 01-03-2012, 11:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

All this about flirting is very intresting cause somehow I missed the ablity to flirt very well,my son said mamy years ago that I need to stop working so much and learn to smell the roses,unfourntunatly bill had to be paid.Now hat I have the time I still for some reason havent managed to learn to flirt with out hopeing I didnt stick my foot in my mouth or sound off the wall.

Rockinonahigh, just relax and be yourself, hun.

LaneyDoll · 01-04-2012, 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by SweetJane

A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

This is sooooooo me! A friend once referenced my flirting and I looked at him in absolute confusion because to me, I was just being me. So he asked, "Laney is there anytime that you do not flirt?" And I replied, "Yes, there is; I have to sleep don't I?"

JustJo · 01-04-2012, 09:29 AM

I am severely flirting impaired....can't do it, rarely "get it" when it happens to me.

I can joke, be witty, be serious....but flirt?

Think I need to take a workshop or something.

musicman · 01-04-2012, 09:32 AM

Thinking of starting a flirting course just for Jo

I have been known on occasion to flirt. I have been told I am charming and I love women. So flirting comes natural for me.

Not sure if that is a good thing or bad.
Musicman

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Sassy Member How Do You Identify?: Female Relationship Status: Together Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: In the sunshine Posts: 598 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 815 Thanked 1,929 Times in 460 Posts Rep Power: 19641163	The approach depends on the individual I guess... I'll volunteer two texts I've used with positive results in the past... ============================== Subtle: Sitting alone at the bar of my favorite restaurant I snapped a pic of a tall glass of chardonnay and texted it to her. No words. Direct: "Dinner. I'm buying. You're drinking )" ==============================

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musicman Member How Do You Identify?: NA Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NA Posts: 209 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 195 Thanked 429 Times in 125 Posts Rep Power: 3610464	Thinking of starting a flirting course just for Jo I have been known on occasion to flirt. I have been told I am charming and I love women. So flirting comes natural for me. Not sure if that is a good thing or bad. Musicman