Caregivers and Stress

socialjustice_fsu · 05-26-2016, 01:34 AM

my precious mom is coming home from being in a physical rehab facility for 2 months following a major stroke. I will be her care giver. Although the CNA's, PT and OT have taught me so much related to caring for her I continue to feel inept. The thought of this dependency on me is overwhelming. We do have home health coming in starting next week. Mom is a one person assist with almost everything. She lost most of her vision, her speech has been affected and her left side is basically useless. I try not to think about the future too much but right now I seem to be doing a lot of 'what if's.' My health is not too good. Open heart 4 years ago, 1 MI and the constant fear of another one. My 35 year old daughter lives with mom and I. She is not a kind person and is a hindrance in most ways. Always wanting to argue....Not sure if I can tolerate that part too well. My mom has always been my daughter's enabler and subsequently it has created something similar to a tyrant. Mom has refused to make her move - only to rescue her one more time. She is a full time college student so at least she is earning a degree with good grades.
All I can do is take it one day at a time.
I am grateful for this place to simply talk it out and know I am not alone.

05-26-2016, 01:34 AM	#11
socialjustice_fsu Member How Do You Identify?: Feminine Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: It’s all good. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: The gulf waters are sapphire blue and the beach sand is white as snow. Posts: 607 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,866 Thanked 2,155 Times in 439 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	This Friday my precious mom is coming home from being in a physical rehab facility for 2 months following a major stroke. I will be her care giver. Although the CNA's, PT and OT have taught me so much related to caring for her I continue to feel inept. The thought of this dependency on me is overwhelming. We do have home health coming in starting next week. Mom is a one person assist with almost everything. She lost most of her vision, her speech has been affected and her left side is basically useless. I try not to think about the future too much but right now I seem to be doing a lot of 'what if's.' My health is not too good. Open heart 4 years ago, 1 MI and the constant fear of another one. My 35 year old daughter lives with mom and I. She is not a kind person and is a hindrance in most ways. Always wanting to argue....Not sure if I can tolerate that part too well. My mom has always been my daughter's enabler and subsequently it has created something similar to a tyrant. Mom has refused to make her move - only to rescue her one more time. She is a full time college student so at least she is earning a degree with good grades. All I can do is take it one day at a time. I am grateful for this place to simply talk it out and know I am not alone. __________________ If you are going through hell, keep going. Winston Churchill