Breaking the Spell: Rethinking queer community

[ScandalAndy]

Sometimes I use ugly words when I am angry or threatened. I've called women some pretty awful things because they made me feel bad so I wanted to make them feel bad too, even though those words go against everything I believe in.

Originally Posted by June

I'll start.

I have had other Lesbians tell me they couldn't be sexist because they're women.

I've had Butches tell me to "Lighten up" because I wanted to pay my own way and it hurt their egos.

I have used derogatory terms towards other women, Bitch, Cunt and Whore in really ugly, sexist ways thinking it was okay, because I am a woman.

I have been afraid of having conversations because even though I own that I'm Transphobic, I don't want to prove it in words publicly while I am working it out.

I have been the subject of and witnessed others being the subject of really misogynistic and sexist behavior by members of this community via head patting and shaming because we're not ladylike enough or not doing Femme, Butch, Lesbian, Male, Woman, Feminist, etc. in the right way (meaning their way).

That's just a small portion of what comes to mind right now, and I look forward to this discussion.