Ask a trans person!

[The Oopster]

Originally Posted by EnderD_503

I don't think transpeople are too sensitive when it comes to what people use as gender markers. I think bringing it down to oversensitivity opens us up to that being broadened to: "Well, that's not really transphobic, you're just too sensitive."

I think that the situation you described is one that doesn't occur frequently even if it might on a rare occasion, and so I don't think can constitute an oversensitivity, but the result of a reality. When we hear people are using the incorrect marker (even if, on a very slim chance, we've misheard), it's for a reason. Society does it consistently, and so I could see how even mishearing people can occur because of that consistency (you've come to expect it through experience, which can result on mishearing on a rare occasion).

i can see that but i know for me when I tend to mishear happens to be when I'm more sensitive to stuff!

Since then I have taken notice and I think there are times I over react. Likewise it's easy to justify overreaction beacuse of consistent experience. I don't think that is fair either to those that really are trying.

Like I said it really hit me off guard and they were adminent that I call her sir. I knew I hadn't but it took me awhile to figure out how they thought it. I didn't even perceive her as trans until they did that!

It actually wasn't the transperson, it was the people with her. I know for a fact it bothers my room mate more when people use the wrong pronouns then it does for me. I don't like it but it boils his skin.