Modern Manners - Facebook et al

[JustJo]

Originally Posted by Hollylane

Edited to add...I do think it is possible to fall in love via electronic communication, in the same way it was possible to fall in love in the days of yore via romantic handwritten letters.

Originally Posted by chai~

I agree with this in the sense of the mind being a powerful sexual organ, and for me, it all starts in my brain.

Words chosen carefully, inuendo, intrigue. Deep conversations, idea's and opinions discussed. To me, all important stuff.

Physical attraction can be just that, superficial and shallow.

I would rather be someone's friend first with stuff to talk about, then to jump into some relationship with a person who doesn't tweek my mind.

I agree. For me, my brain needs to be engaged...and I need that mental connection as much as I need the emotional and physical one....possibly more.

If I feel like you (general you) don't understand me, or I don't understand you, or we can't talk....no amount of physical connection or attraction is going to override that. The times when I have let the physical connection override my brain have ultimately ended badly...because a vital connection is missing.

So yes.....it's possible to be emotionally engaged, and fall in love, without having seen that person in the flesh. Then, the physical meeting and connection is a confirmation (or not) of where my brain already is.

Having a complete relationship with no physical contact at all? No, not for me. I would not be satisfied with a purely virtual relationship.

For me, a relationship needs all three....mind, body, and spirit/emotion.


Now....on the subject of manners....pffftttt.....I deleted my Facebook page entirely. I found it to be a source of unneeded drama in my life.