Modern Manners - Facebook et al

Quintease · 01-24-2012, 03:06 PM

Perhaps hy did tell her that he was dating other people and that spurred on their commitment?

It's hard to sit on the fence when you know your beloved has other options.

genghisfawn · 01-24-2012, 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Quintease

Perhaps hy did tell her that he was dating other people and that spurred on their commitment?

It's hard to sit on the fence when you know your beloved has other options.

Yes, I can see that. I'm not objecting to their being together - they're perfectly welcome to live their lives. What I was objecting to was that I had to find out about it via hys changed relationship status on Facebook. No phone call, no e-mail, nothing. Just assuming that I shouldn't even be told.

The_Lady_Snow · 01-24-2012, 03:26 PM

I say good riddance, and NEXT!!!! That's the fun thing about dating you can move on to the next dating experience!!!

genghisfawn · 01-24-2012, 03:33 PM

No big loss, indeed! Best to find out now.

I was only stymied by the sudden plunge in dating etiquette since I last dated.

Sachita · 01-24-2012, 04:17 PM

I am quickly turned off by game players and can normally spot this right away. One of my new rules, within the past few years, is that I won't interact with someone who has no history or isn't visible to some degree. I ask for their facebook account because I want to know that they are a real person, have friends, family and not hiding a bunch of shit. I've actually given my number to someone who called me and blocked their caller ID. lol I didn't bother answering. I knew who it was and told them I don't play those games.

I don't have a lot of free time for dabbling. I want to know that if I'm investing time that I at least end up with a great friend. I'll carefully watch someone and if it seems like they are emotionally immature, constantly changing their relationship status, always complaining, negative , etc. I file them under acquaintance. If you're on the fence about wanting to ge close with me then it means you ain't working hard enough to get and keep my attention, therefore you'll most likely lose my interest.

1QuirkyKiwi · 01-24-2012, 04:43 PM

These head-games online are one of the reasons I don’t have Facebook and Twitter. Emails are just a small part of dating for me; real time is where I’m comfortable. I can’t and won’t fall in love with a woman I’ve never met in person, nor spent time with face to face.

Anyone who doesn’t have any manners, respect or understanding of boundaries is not going to be a part of my life.

MysticOceansFL · 01-24-2012, 04:55 PM

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Originally Posted by 1QuirkyKiwi

These head-games online are one of the reasons I don’t have Facebook and Twitter. Emails are just a small part of dating for me; real time is where I’m comfortable. I can’t and won’t fall in love with a woman I’ve never met in person, nor spent time with face to face.

Anyone who doesn’t have any manners, respect or understanding of boundaries is not going to be a part of my life.

Ms Kiwigal, I so agree with you 100% I'm very much the same way also.

atomiczombie · 01-24-2012, 05:18 PM

I am someone who firmly believes that you can't really genuinely fall for someone or love them until you really know them, and you can't really know someone until you spend time with them and in person. And not just a couple dates, it takes time to get to know someone. Someone who falls fast for me or falls in love just from a few emails, chats, etc, that is a red flag for me because they don't really know me. They are falling in love with some image they have of me, and not the real me, since they don't really know me.

It sounds like this person you were dating, genghisfaw, is really immature and you dodged a bullet. Good luck on your dating adventures!

01-24-2012, 03:06 PM	#1
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01-24-2012, 04:43 PM	#6
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