Picking apart a femme

[Soft*Silver]

wow...talk about being insensitive! I am so sorry! I posted before my first cuppa coffee and will never do that again!

1) butches and FtMs can indeed be picked apart too...but I was relating to my experience as a femme and wanting other femmes to share

2) not every butch or FtM picks apart femmes. Thats like saying because some men rape, all men are rapists. Thats a generality that wasnt intended. I think you have read enough of my posts to know I am not anti male or anti butch

3) yes, not all male IDd butches would be offended by having their chest or breasts mentioned. Some would

4) and yes, not all femmes would feel picked apart by having their thin lips mentioned

5) but for those who are, or who have other examples, this thread was started

6) and some people dont need "educated" but some do. I am not assuming nor decrying that all Male IDd butches or FtMs need a handbook on sensitivity. My BF really didnt know he was hurting my feelings.Do you think he would have said it if he realized it? Even when I told him, he still didnt get it because he had no frame of reference.....he just didnt get it. But maybe reading it by a neutral femme other than me might have made him more sensitive to it.

7) again, I am so sorry. I still think, tho, that this thread could be helpful....