Picking apart a femme

sweetcali · 08-19-2010, 12:13 PM

I wouldn't put it into one gender/identity category; however it does happen. I agree that some do do it intentionally and some don't. Some do it intentionally and try to play it off with a joke; however there is some personal responsibility with all of it. If my partner or someone close to me makes a remark that is one of those stabbing ouch remarks it is also up to me to let them know that that remark to hurt me. If it it continues then it is up to me to decide what I want to do with it. Is it the type that well it is me being oversensitive about my body or is it them being abusive in their "joking" way. Once I put that together I can then make the decision of do I kick them to the curb or leave it alone. Is it pure banter between good friends or is it intentional hurt.

Anyway in this situation I have the responsibility of telling them and making the decision.

sweetcal

SuperFemme · 08-19-2010, 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by sweetcali

I wouldn't put it into one gender/identity category; however it does happen. I agree that some do do it intentionally and some don't. Some do it intentionally and try to play it off with a joke; however there is some personal responsibility with all of it. If my partner or someone close to me makes a remark that is one of those stabbing ouch remarks it is also up to me to let them know that that remark to hurt me. If it it continues then it is up to me to decide what I want to do with it. Is it the type that well it is me being oversensitive about my body or is it them being abusive in their "joking" way. Once I put that together I can then make the decision of do I kick them to the curb or leave it alone. Is it pure banter between good friends or is it intentional hurt.

Anyway in this situation I have the responsibility of telling them and making the decision.

sweetcal

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Soft*Silver · 08-19-2010, 01:12 PM

I so totally agree with your statement!

Quote:

Originally Posted by sweetcali

I wouldn't put it into one gender/identity category; however it does happen. I agree that some do do it intentionally and some don't. Some do it intentionally and try to play it off with a joke; however there is some personal responsibility with all of it. If my partner or someone close to me makes a remark that is one of those stabbing ouch remarks it is also up to me to let them know that that remark to hurt me. If it it continues then it is up to me to decide what I want to do with it. Is it the type that well it is me being oversensitive about my body or is it them being abusive in their "joking" way. Once I put that together I can then make the decision of do I kick them to the curb or leave it alone. Is it pure banter between good friends or is it intentional hurt.

Anyway in this situation I have the responsibility of telling them and making the decision.

sweetcal

08-19-2010, 12:13 PM	#1
sweetcali BFP Angel How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Yes I have a status. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: I ride a cowboy in Rodeo in the communist nation of the isle of cali. Posts: 334 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 310 Thanked 246 Times in 98 Posts Rep Power: 3700739	I wouldn't put it into one gender/identity category; however it does happen. I agree that some do do it intentionally and some don't. Some do it intentionally and try to play it off with a joke; however there is some personal responsibility with all of it. If my partner or someone close to me makes a remark that is one of those stabbing ouch remarks it is also up to me to let them know that that remark to hurt me. If it it continues then it is up to me to decide what I want to do with it. Is it the type that well it is me being oversensitive about my body or is it them being abusive in their "joking" way. Once I put that together I can then make the decision of do I kick them to the curb or leave it alone. Is it pure banter between good friends or is it intentional hurt. Anyway in this situation I have the responsibility of telling them and making the decision. sweetcal