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Old 05-05-2011, 07:48 AM   #1
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Congrats to all who have quit and to those who are in the process of deciding to!

As of an hour ago, it has now been 4 months since I laid the smokes down and said, "I'm done smoking." I quit cold turkey with a pack and a half in the house. I did not find it really difficult but I was so ready to quit. At the time I quit, I was a 2 pack a day smoker and truly miss the hand to mouth thing more than the actual smoking. I occasionally use an electronic cig now when I experience cravings or just want the smoking sensation, but even then I use a nicotine free solution.

It's odd, I have cravings but I absolutely have no desire to smoke a cig. I love that my house and clothing does not smell like an ashtray.

I know some disagree and that's okay, but I definitely consider myself a non-smoker because I know my mindset and intentions.
congratulating you on being a NON smoker, four months is exciting i look forward to saying that very thing. I too feel like a non smoker i felt it the day i quit and that is what i say, i beleive its up to you and not everyone else.
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I think if a person is consistently not smoking then they are a non-smoker. So if you are not smoking then I too consider you a non smoker! Congrats on quitting by the way!

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congratulating you on being a NON smoker, four months is exciting i look forward to saying that very thing. I too feel like a non smoker i felt it the day i quit and that is what i say, i beleive its up to you and not everyone else.
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I had a moment last night a moment of self doubt that snuck in and old behavior the instinct to want a cigarette because i somehow allowed a belief that whatever was upsetting me couldn't be dealt with without the cigarette..

Oh yes they can those moments can be pushed through and gotten through. and although i stated the words " i want a cigarette" they were quickly taken back i don't want to ever smoke again a day in my life.

now i get to learn to not allow my thoughts to upset me....
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I had a moment last night a moment of self doubt that snuck in and old behavior the instinct to want a cigarette because i somehow allowed a belief that whatever was upsetting me couldn't be dealt with without the cigarette..

Oh yes they can those moments can be pushed through and gotten through. and although i stated the words " i want a cigarette" they were quickly taken back i don't want to ever smoke again a day in my life.

now i get to learn to not allow my thoughts to upset me....
Well done on making it through without a ciggie gaea. Stress and that bad self talk is no 'reason' to smoke, it's merely an excuse if you're looking for one.

Quite often I will acknowledge and give voice to the craving with a "I want a ciggie" ...if there are folks around they usually say "No, you don't", in effect telling me I don't actually know what I want. My reply is "Yes I do but I won't have one.". I dunno, it just feels right to voice it rather than keep it inside or deny the craving.
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Well done on making it through without a ciggie gaea. Stress and that bad self talk is no 'reason' to smoke, it's merely an excuse if you're looking for one.

Quite often I will acknowledge and give voice to the craving with a "I want a ciggie" ...if there are folks around they usually say "No, you don't", in effect telling me I don't actually know what I want. My reply is "Yes I do but I won't have one.". I dunno, it just feels right to voice it rather than keep it inside or deny the craving.

for me it was a reaction to what i was feeling suddenly that "worthless" feeling that was driving...

fuck that im not worthless....
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for me it was a reaction to what i was feeling suddenly that "worthless" feeling that was driving...

fuck that im not worthless....

You're not worthless and you are a stronger person for getting over that 'hump' without smoking. I'm so proud of you and you should be proud of yourself.

It's not a bad thing to admit wanting to smoke, the bad thing is acting on the impulse.
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I can't believe it been nearly 5 weeks since I made the best decision of my life ....

I grow more and more excited by this every day I want to share my excitement lol.

I have also picked up a 25 minute daily treadmill workout and today started strength training for my arms n shoulders utilizing the same exercises I learned in pt some years back.

next Friday my eldest will be 25 an I stoked to welcome her birthday as a non smoker.
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