Married/Partnered Planeteers - Combining Your Life

Julie · 08-24-2011, 05:48 PM

One day Dreamer and I will live together.
Whether it be this house I am currently living or another one we move in together.

Dreamer will have NO say in how we decorate or the colors we use.
It has been established.
Right honey?!?

Though if Dreamer wants to decorate the garage or shed... That is fine. I am really okay with this.

As far as red's go -- LOVE LOVE LOVE red's. Though, I lean more toward the colors of South America and of course Mexico.

Dreamer will be happy.
I have stated.

Dreamer · 08-24-2011, 06:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Julie

One day Dreamer and I will live together.
Whether it be this house I am currently living or another one we move in together.

Dreamer will have NO say in how we decorate or the colors we use.
It has been established.
Right honey?!?

Though if Dreamer wants to decorate the garage or shed... That is fine. I am really okay with this.

As far as red's go -- LOVE LOVE LOVE red's. Though, I lean more toward the colors of South America and of course Mexico.

Dreamer will be happy.
I have stated.

Okay this made me laugh, from the tone Julie used to state what she stated, I will however say that she is right. I am more than happy for Julie to decorate and to choose the color schemes not because I do not have any input but because she has amazing taste.
As for being happy with her choices, of course I will be, because it will mean that we are finally sharing the home that will be ours.
I did just want to say "Yes Dear", but I figured I would reiterate a little as to why lol.

SecretAgentMa'am · 08-24-2011, 08:09 PM

When we first moved in together, neither of us had much in the way of furniture or decorations that we were especially attached to. I'd sold most of my furniture before I moved to Oregon, so we actually didn't have much when we moved into our first apartment together. We got rid of her futon because it was falling apart and kept my bed (which was a full, too small for both of us, but still better than a broken futon). We didn't own a sofa until one of her coworkers gave us one. For close to a year, our only living room furniture was a pair of matching pink recliners that were given to us by someone who just wanted them out of her house.

We finally moved into a house two years ago. We were able to get rid of all our old hand-me-down furniture and buy new. We chose all the furniture together, and we luckily have very similar tastes. We're both fond of clean lines and neither of us likes things are a fussy or frilly. Our landlord also let us pick out paint colors and painted everything before we moved in. The living rooms is all warm, neutral earth tones. The kitchen is pretty much mine, and painted a dark, brick red with white cabinets. We both love purple, so the bedroom walls are lilac with a royal purple accent wall. We both need our own space, so we moved into a 3 bedroom house and we each have our own office that's our own little domain. The paint colors we chose got accidentally switched in the offices, though. We moved in and discovered that my office is painted pale grey (was supposed to be hers) and hers is sage green (which I chose). We didn't want to switch offices, though, and neither of us hates the color we got, so we're not worried about it.

As far as decorating, we compromise. We agree on most things, and deal with our disagreements. Turquoise is one of her favorite colors, but I *hate* it. Therefore, anything turquoise colored goes in her office. There are a few things in the main areas of the house that aren't necessarily to my taste, but she likes them, so they stay. I'm sure I've picked out a few things she doesn't like, too.

Gemme · 08-25-2011, 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Medusa

Still in the process of "nesting" in the home we have been in for 2 years.

We purchased this home together in July of 2009 and have redecorated 3 bedrooms, the hallway, a bathroom, and the greatroom. We still have to do the master bathroom, laundry room, library, and kitchen area. Lately we've been doing lots of painting and laying new floors.

We mostly have the same love of color but I have had to convince Jackhammer that red and aubergine are not scary

I'd love to hear how other couple have incorported color into their homes. Anyone encounter a partner who HATED a color that was a favorite of yours? Or do you mostly agree on neutrals and go from there?

I have to admit, Jackhammer has been pretty easygoing and just kinda let me run wild in the house. That has resulted in color on every wall and a house that feels very warm! LOVE THAT!

We're renting now, so we haven't gone hog wild with the color. Yet. We did work out a color scheme for the living room around one painting of Ebon's. Though I loathe the Gators, I did it because we could make it work. Gator colors are blue and orange, for those that don't know. So, we have pumpkin with various shades of blue and it's not so bad. The furniture is black, as are all the frames for the artwork. It's kind of sharp.

However, if given the opportunity, I'd wipe the slate clean. Both of us have expressed a desire for more earth tones. Ebon's a hippy and I like pretty and calm colors. Score!

I love color, Ebon likes it, and neither of us is a particularly frilly sort....at least when it comes to decorating.

I don't anticipate any issues with decorating our house in the future.

nycfem · 08-25-2011, 10:57 AM

Our apartment was perfectly directed upon moving in. We looked at a LOT of fixer uppers but thank goodness the one that we ended up moving into had a history of style attached, because neither of us know what we are doing in that regard (Well, BB, more than me, but I don't think that's a special talent for either of us.).

The bedroom and various walls within our home are exposed brick (a look I love!). Then parts of the bathroom and bedroom are white. We particularly like the kitchen/living room/dining room/entrance area (all an open area), in which all of the colors are very pretty with a lot of built in storage and built in bookcases (Again, thankfully, at least someone who lived here before us knew what they were doing!). Anyway this, our largest space, is painted in bright yet muted colors of yellow-orange, light blue, and tan.

I admit that I'm so oblivious to these things that I had to get up from my desk and look in other rooms to find out what color the walls were! And we only have a 700 square foot home!

PumaJ · 08-27-2011, 10:16 PM

Okay, so… I stand corrected.

Ever so patiently, kindly, my boifriend said, "Sweetie… (insert sigh here), it's not the 'bro room'. It's the 'bro pad'! (insert another sigh here;-) ) What am I going to do with you?"

Giggle... Well, of course I did have some suggestions in that area

08-24-2011, 05:48 PM	#1
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08-24-2011, 08:09 PM	#3
SecretAgentMa'am Member How Do You Identify?: Redheaded Bellydancing Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Very married Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Portland, OR, USA Posts: 215 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 84 Thanked 778 Times in 171 Posts Rep Power: 15100837	When we first moved in together, neither of us had much in the way of furniture or decorations that we were especially attached to. I'd sold most of my furniture before I moved to Oregon, so we actually didn't have much when we moved into our first apartment together. We got rid of her futon because it was falling apart and kept my bed (which was a full, too small for both of us, but still better than a broken futon). We didn't own a sofa until one of her coworkers gave us one. For close to a year, our only living room furniture was a pair of matching pink recliners that were given to us by someone who just wanted them out of her house. We finally moved into a house two years ago. We were able to get rid of all our old hand-me-down furniture and buy new. We chose all the furniture together, and we luckily have very similar tastes. We're both fond of clean lines and neither of us likes things are a fussy or frilly. Our landlord also let us pick out paint colors and painted everything before we moved in. The living rooms is all warm, neutral earth tones. The kitchen is pretty much mine, and painted a dark, brick red with white cabinets. We both love purple, so the bedroom walls are lilac with a royal purple accent wall. We both need our own space, so we moved into a 3 bedroom house and we each have our own office that's our own little domain. The paint colors we chose got accidentally switched in the offices, though. We moved in and discovered that my office is painted pale grey (was supposed to be hers) and hers is sage green (which I chose). We didn't want to switch offices, though, and neither of us hates the color we got, so we're not worried about it. As far as decorating, we compromise. We agree on most things, and deal with our disagreements. Turquoise is one of her favorite colors, but I hate it. Therefore, anything turquoise colored goes in her office. There are a few things in the main areas of the house that aren't necessarily to my taste, but she likes them, so they stay. I'm sure I've picked out a few things she doesn't like, too. __________________ Change the voices in your head Make them like you instead

08-27-2011, 10:16 PM	#6
PumaJ Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Queer Feminist Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Portland Metro, Oregon Posts: 200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,419 Thanked 500 Times in 147 Posts Rep Power: 1652642	I stand corrected Okay, so… I stand corrected. Ever so patiently, kindly, my boifriend said, "Sweetie… (insert sigh here), it's not the 'bro room'. It's the 'bro pad'! (insert another sigh here;-) ) What am I going to do with you?" Giggle... Well, of course I did have some suggestions in that area __________________ PumaJ

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08-25-2011, 10:57 AM	#5
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,795 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,993 Thanked 21,398 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Our apartment was perfectly directed upon moving in. We looked at a LOT of fixer uppers but thank goodness the one that we ended up moving into had a history of style attached, because neither of us know what we are doing in that regard (Well, BB, more than me, but I don't think that's a special talent for either of us.). The bedroom and various walls within our home are exposed brick (a look I love!). Then parts of the bathroom and bedroom are white. We particularly like the kitchen/living room/dining room/entrance area (all an open area), in which all of the colors are very pretty with a lot of built in storage and built in bookcases (Again, thankfully, at least someone who lived here before us knew what they were doing!). Anyway this, our largest space, is painted in bright yet muted colors of yellow-orange, light blue, and tan. I admit that I'm so oblivious to these things that I had to get up from my desk and look in other rooms to find out what color the walls were! And we only have a 700 square foot home!