Married/Partnered Planeteers - Combining Your Life

Tawse · 09-15-2011, 11:46 AM

When we first moved in to an apartment together 12 years ago, my general thought was "i don't care" as far as decorating around the house. I know I have no skill what so ever and I also knew from visiting her place, that she had done with her place what I probably would have done with mine - if I'd had the know how. With some slight exceptions.

Then we moved into our house and we had to pick colours to paint the walls. Gillian is very neutral minded where as apparently I like things a little bolder. Mind you I don't like neon colours but I grew up in apartments and surrounded by white walls.. I wanted some colour!

So we talked and negotiated and our house has some good colour to it that we both like - probably even more than we thought we would.

We are also similar in that we both have a bit of a goth streak in us. Not so much in dress - but definitely in music and art / collectibles areas. So we have some Living Dead Dolls that we've collected through out the years as well as some Teddy Scares and other items. For awhile there we were at a loss on how to display them in a setting that made sense.

Then we painted one of our spare bedrooms a plum/deep purple colour - slapped leather curtains on the windows - and it became our goth room (and now serves as our study where we have the computers set up).

As far as other areas of our life - it's been no problem merging as we pretty much agreed about finances, autonomy, roles etc before moving in together...

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09-15-2011, 11:46 AM	#19
Tawse Member How Do You Identify?: TG Gender Queer Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Atlanta Posts: 730 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,973 Thanked 2,733 Times in 642 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	When we first moved in to an apartment together 12 years ago, my general thought was "i don't care" as far as decorating around the house. I know I have no skill what so ever and I also knew from visiting her place, that she had done with her place what I probably would have done with mine - if I'd had the know how. With some slight exceptions. Then we moved into our house and we had to pick colours to paint the walls. Gillian is very neutral minded where as apparently I like things a little bolder. Mind you I don't like neon colours but I grew up in apartments and surrounded by white walls.. I wanted some colour! So we talked and negotiated and our house has some good colour to it that we both like - probably even more than we thought we would. We are also similar in that we both have a bit of a goth streak in us. Not so much in dress - but definitely in music and art / collectibles areas. So we have some Living Dead Dolls that we've collected through out the years as well as some Teddy Scares and other items. For awhile there we were at a loss on how to display them in a setting that made sense. Then we painted one of our spare bedrooms a plum/deep purple colour - slapped leather curtains on the windows - and it became our goth room (and now serves as our study where we have the computers set up). As far as other areas of our life - it's been no problem merging as we pretty much agreed about finances, autonomy, roles etc before moving in together...