only another butch would understand

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by MainelyButch

I just loved this entire post Stoney...you brought up some of the best thoughts! I am also curious about the eye contact thing. It's seemed to me that it's just always been so difficult for lesbians in general to make eye contact. Like if we look at each other something will happen, or people will "know" (like I give a flyin fuck if anyone knows!). but it is particularly noticable with butches I think...maybe that's because I am butch so that's the only real angle I have experienced it from. As I have gotten older I have made more of an effort to make the eye contact, and the normal little head nod that we all do. But it is a phenomena that I have always wondered about....anyone else got anything to say about the lack or avoidance of eye contact between us? What are we afraid of? Or what are we avoiding?

Yes, I have always found it weird when I come across a butch who avoids eye contact with me. When we do have eye contact, the head nod thing happens.

I have wondered if the butch type person that avoids my gaze is the kind of butch who avoids eye contact with EVERYONE (so as to not get that look of disgust we can get), and so when hy/she sees me out of the corner of hys eye hy just assumes me to be male. Subsequently, no "butch nod" occurs.

Don't know, but the above was a thought that came to me once...