Where do I meet potential dates??

TruTexan · 08-22-2015, 04:56 PM

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homoe · 08-22-2015, 05:02 PM

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City Jails, County lock ups, and probation officers offices

TruTexan · 08-22-2015, 05:35 PM

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City Jails, County lock ups, and probation officers offices

lmao homoe go for it !

Shystonefem · 08-22-2015, 05:48 PM

It isn't easy. Being femme makes it even harder. I feel that, if you are a femme, you have to be the one to start up the conversation. You have to let the person you are interested in actually get the idea that you are interested.

I feel like butches have an easier time meeting people because they are not invisible (most often).

I don't do that starting the conversation thing. Lol. I am really just too shy.

imperfect_cupcake · 08-22-2015, 06:02 PM

Okcupid and POF have quite a few in Spokane. I've even been contacted by a couple butches in Spokane (im in Canada) because the Butches I've talked to find it hard to figure out. Considering Spokane was listed in Autostradle as a total dyke city (from their survey response) kind of makes you despair that all the dykes are home, sitting on their couches wondering where each other is!!!
Try meetups as well, it's a website/app that gets local groups of people together. And if you don't see what you want, start a group in meetups yourself. I'm going to as soon as school is finished and I have time to be a hostess to a group (show up at every meeting for the first year)
I started one in Oxford and I had to leave just as it got underway

Hominid · 08-22-2015, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Shystonefem

It isn't easy. Being femme makes it even harder. I feel that, if you are a femme, you have to be the one to start up the conversation. You have to let the person you are interested in actually get the idea that you are interested.

I feel like butches have an easier time meeting people because they are not invisible (most often).

I don't do that starting the conversation thing. Lol. I am really just too shy.

Kind of funny, actually. Well-post testosterone FtMs are in the same boat as femmes!

randrum · 08-22-2015, 09:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Shystonefem

I feel like butches have an easier time meeting people because they are not invisible (most often).

I don't do that starting the conversation thing. Lol. I am really just too shy.

I tend to be invisible. Or maybe it's more oblivious.

But I definitely relate to the shy thing. I have trouble starting conversations.

Especially with an attractive femme. I get all tongue tied. And that suave butch I like to think I am ends up looking like a stumbling idiot.

Gemme · 08-22-2015, 09:52 PM

At this point, it's 100% online. I wish I had more of a community near me. The bit of community that is here is in Providence and that's taking a chance with my life driving there.

Kelt · 08-22-2015, 10:19 PM

I wish I could figure out how to "Date" without ending up in a relationship. Which I guess is usually the point. Hmm..

Just someone I could take out for dinner or weekend excursions or simply have fun at events with.

The meetup idea is a good one; I went to a couple in Berkely while I was still in Ca and it was a good low pressure/interest based way to meet folks. I've been traveling too much of late for it, but now that things are calming down I think I'll try it in my new(ish) city soon. While I enjoy doing things on my own, and do, there are some things that are more fun when you have someone with you.

I agree that femme invisibility sucks. Especially for butches! (Can't pick you out of a crowd easily)

Zimmeh · 10-09-2015, 02:38 PM

I know Boston is about three hours north of you. Boston is a great little city with a nice LGBT community. I'm not sure if Club ManRay is still open, but when I lived in Franklin, MA, I really wanted to go. If you are ever in central Florida, let me know! We will hit the Parliament House in Orlando with my old roommate and his friends.

Zimmeh

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At this point, it's 100% online. I wish I had more of a community near me. The bit of community that is here is in Providence and that's taking a chance with my life driving there.

TruTexan · 08-23-2015, 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by randrum

I tend to be invisible. Or maybe it's more oblivious.

But I definitely relate to the shy thing. I have trouble starting conversations.

Especially with an attractive femme. I get all tongue tied. And that suave butch I like to think I am ends up looking like a stumbling idiot.

Hey, I get the same exact way. It's no fun feeling like that either.

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Kelt Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Beach Butch Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: SoCal Posts: 2,751 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 19,765 Thanked 15,285 Times in 2,538 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I wish I could figure out how to "Date" without ending up in a relationship. Which I guess is usually the point. Hmm.. Just someone I could take out for dinner or weekend excursions or simply have fun at events with. The meetup idea is a good one; I went to a couple in Berkely while I was still in Ca and it was a good low pressure/interest based way to meet folks. I've been traveling too much of late for it, but now that things are calming down I think I'll try it in my new(ish) city soon. While I enjoy doing things on my own, and do, there are some things that are more fun when you have someone with you. I agree that femme invisibility sucks. Especially for butches! (Can't pick you out of a crowd easily)