Reclaiming Lesbian Pride

Jane Bond · 10-05-2015, 04:01 PM

[QUOTE=Heart;409361]You know.... maybe it's valid to ask oneself if one is appropriating or co-opting an identity.

Wow. I didn't understand what you were talking about at first but in the second reading it became much clearer. I hope the following is along the same thought lines as your post, but I doubt I can recreate your "ripples in a pond" writing style. It was very unique.
My ex was a concrete, dispassionate thinker, especially when it came to her fixed version of butch and femme roles. They were set in concrete that she mixed before we met, and she would never discuss the topic if it meant straying off of her masterly definition.
For a femme, she was very competitive with me and she had to be the top dog of our relationship. I didn't get it, but I loved her and went along with it.
Our B/F definitions never matched, but with her I had to choose my battles.
Now that I'm free, I realize that I am a lot more fluid about who I want to be from one day to the next.
Though I have always been sexually attracted to "pretty girls" who were usually femme, I think I would love to meet a pretty girl who was butch.
Just the sound of it makes me smile. Even a handsome one might do. Who can say?
Thanks for the thought provoking post.

10-05-2015, 04:01 PM	#1
Jane Bond Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: I look in the mirror and it's me Preferred Pronoun?: she her Relationship Status: alert Join Date: Sep 2015 Location: not here. Posts: 77 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 126 Thanked 189 Times in 49 Posts Rep Power: 0	Reclaiming Lesbian Pride [QUOTE=Heart;409361]You know.... maybe it's valid to ask oneself if one is appropriating or co-opting an identity. Wow. I didn't understand what you were talking about at first but in the second reading it became much clearer. I hope the following is along the same thought lines as your post, but I doubt I can recreate your "ripples in a pond" writing style. It was very unique. My ex was a concrete, dispassionate thinker, especially when it came to her fixed version of butch and femme roles. They were set in concrete that she mixed before we met, and she would never discuss the topic if it meant straying off of her masterly definition. For a femme, she was very competitive with me and she had to be the top dog of our relationship. I didn't get it, but I loved her and went along with it. Our B/F definitions never matched, but with her I had to choose my battles. Now that I'm free, I realize that I am a lot more fluid about who I want to be from one day to the next. Though I have always been sexually attracted to "pretty girls" who were usually femme, I think I would love to meet a pretty girl who was butch. Just the sound of it makes me smile. Even a handsome one might do. Who can say? Thanks for the thought provoking post.