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I learned that all my emotions were valid and healthy and there for a reason. That forgiveness is what is needed in order to have continuing relationships with people. I agree with that. But acceptance is all I need to have if I no longer want one. |
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I think what led me to the same realization, the slow process of coming to a similar understanding as you, was through the many people who have been in my life over the years; the way they have nurtured me throughout my own process of coming to a place where I can release and let go (which, in my mind, is not the same as the concept of forgiveness) and know that I can make choices that will help me in my own life. I think it's an important discovery to know that we don't need to forgive in order to heal. Thank you for articulating that insight.
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I just read about a way to reframe forgiveness so that its easier to move on.
"Forgiveness is accepting that the outcome could be anything different" I need to work on this. |
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