Things you should never say on a date.

[MsTinkerbelly]

Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

I surf that one. I don't think there is anything wrong talking about your exes (or am I the only one with several exes in my life?) in regards to talking about *your* life. Like if you are telling a story about a vacation you took and you were married for 9 years, it's likely much of your recent life is going to have stories that include ones ex. Fact of life. I don't want people to never talk abut the stories of their life because they fell in love and had sex before dating me. I *love* stories about people's lives. And if people edit their exes out of them, that's just weird.

But *pining* about ones recent ex in front of a new date is bad form. So is endless ranting.

There is a difference in talking about your life with exes in it, and talking about one recent ex in particular in an obsessive manner.

I want to get to know people, their lives, their histories, their stories... That's going to have stories with exes in them as characters that are part of the play about their lives.

Obsessing about someone you've just broken up with while meeting another is poor form. Maybe just look for casual date sex while going through that.

Our lives include experiences with other people, and they are a part of my conversation if appropriate to the situation...but we all know the difference between mentioning an ex in a conversation, and making every conversation a conversation about an ex.

I believe we agree about that

Although i have to say, I love the way you put your thoughts into writing!

[imperfect_cupcake]

Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

Our lives include experiences with other people, and they are a part of my conversation if appropriate to the situation...but we all know the difference between mentioning an ex in a conversation, and making every conversation a conversation about an ex.

I believe we agree about that

Although i have to say, I love the way you put your thoughts into writing!

I have done it though. And I feel bad for the woman I did it to. She was very empathetic and we had a couple fabulous dates and really fun sex but it was too soon and I didn't realize it till I was curled up in her bathroom having a cry. I think most people are too distressed about their break up understand they are being a giant twat.

I think I was very lucky after my wife to find someone who had just been left by *their* wife so we could get together for friendship, , dates, sex and mutual bitching and crying. We certainly weren't looking for "the one".

I wish the was a "recently been dumped" website where you could find mutual support, sex and fun without trying the patience of the general dating public lol

[homoe]

BUMP BUMP BUMP

[homoe]

NEVER NEVER NEVER haul out a coupon on a first date

[JDeere]

Mention bad things about your childrens biological father. That's a huge no no for me, I have to see the dude and how he behaves before I give my opinion.

[imperfect_cupcake]

Originally Posted by homoe

NEVER NEVER NEVER haul out a coupon on a first date

Hmn. For me that depends. I've been dirt poor where I couldn't even afford something without a coupon. But if someone said "hey, you mind if we go to X? I've got a 50% off for it."
I'd be totally agreeable! In fact I'd think they were kind of on the ball and be a bit impressed.

But t then I've been a student the past three years and have had to buy all my veg from the dollar bin, so I'm likely viewing fro, a different angle.

Different folks, different boats....

[CyberStud]

1. "My therapist tells me (fill in the blank)" Any sentence that starts with this, definitely is a concern for me. I'm all for self improvement and discovery but when someone you pay has to tell you what to think and/or do...I'm worried!

2."You’re not the type of person I usually go for!" Then why are we on a first date...actually I don't want to know!

3. "My ex always used to say…" Do I need to say anymore!?

4. "I’m about to go on a trip for the next six months" Well adios amigo!

[C0LLETTE]

Personally, I'd avoid asking my date if they preferred Clinton or Sanders.