Your relationship with your mom.

Angeltoes · 03-17-2016, 09:47 PM

Nope, she was not a good mom. I can only take her in small doses.

storyspinner70 · 03-18-2016, 12:03 AM

My mother is a good enough mother. She chooses to pretend things are always good and has no idea who I actually am. She thinks I'm a terribly selfish person because I chose not to include her in why I do things and let her think what she wants because of it. I needed her when I was in my early 30s - abusive relationship, lost job, 30 year old best friend dying of cancer, money problems, etc. etc. etc. - all she could say to me was she couldn't afford to help me. Thing was, I never asked her for help. Not once. I just needed someone I loved to tell me everything was going to be okay - even if it wasn't. I pretty much realized I had no one to talk to or rely on that day. I've never forgotten or forgiven that, and I doubt I will.

She's more interested in being right than she is in not cutting someone to the bone. She knows I dated men and women equally and my current partner is a woman, but she merely gets this pained look and pretends it doesn't exist and no one will ever find out, so it's all good. What people think matters more to her than most things do. Her mother taught her that.

She was a wonderful mother when we were young. My brother isn't complicated and hasn't had a complicated life. She's a good mother to him still. She loves me. I love her. She's a good enough mother to me now. But that's all she'll ever be - good enough.

Stone-Butch · 03-18-2016, 01:16 AM

I think I had the best mother anyone could ever wish for. I never saw her take more than a sip of wine at special occasions, she never smoked, she never swore , she never hit us and she never yelled at us. My mother and father were married 64 years until he passed. My mother passed 5 yrs after him and I miss them both very much. We had good parents and we are thankful for that every day. When I lost my mother I lost part of my heart and I am blessed to have had her.

03-17-2016, 09:47 PM	#1
Angeltoes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Nunya Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Bernlandia Posts: 1,740 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,286 Thanked 5,525 Times in 1,386 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Nope, she was not a good mom. I can only take her in small doses. __________________ Now say you're sorry for ushering in the fourth fucking reich- anonymous

03-18-2016, 12:03 AM	#2
storyspinner70 Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: VA Posts: 355 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,366 Thanked 987 Times in 289 Posts Rep Power: 8681947	My mother is a good enough mother. She chooses to pretend things are always good and has no idea who I actually am. She thinks I'm a terribly selfish person because I chose not to include her in why I do things and let her think what she wants because of it. I needed her when I was in my early 30s - abusive relationship, lost job, 30 year old best friend dying of cancer, money problems, etc. etc. etc. - all she could say to me was she couldn't afford to help me. Thing was, I never asked her for help. Not once. I just needed someone I loved to tell me everything was going to be okay - even if it wasn't. I pretty much realized I had no one to talk to or rely on that day. I've never forgotten or forgiven that, and I doubt I will. She's more interested in being right than she is in not cutting someone to the bone. She knows I dated men and women equally and my current partner is a woman, but she merely gets this pained look and pretends it doesn't exist and no one will ever find out, so it's all good. What people think matters more to her than most things do. Her mother taught her that. She was a wonderful mother when we were young. My brother isn't complicated and hasn't had a complicated life. She's a good mother to him still. She loves me. I love her. She's a good enough mother to me now. But that's all she'll ever be - good enough. __________________ So plant your own gardens and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. ― Jorge Luis Borges

03-18-2016, 01:16 AM	#3
Stone-Butch Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stonebutch Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Canada Posts: 3,678 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,320 Thanked 9,373 Times in 3,046 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Mother I think I had the best mother anyone could ever wish for. I never saw her take more than a sip of wine at special occasions, she never smoked, she never swore , she never hit us and she never yelled at us. My mother and father were married 64 years until he passed. My mother passed 5 yrs after him and I miss them both very much. We had good parents and we are thankful for that every day. When I lost my mother I lost part of my heart and I am blessed to have had her.