Your relationship with your mom.

NitroChrys_Butch · 07-20-2016, 06:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Lorelai

Whether you are a butch or femme or a polka dotted green alien, families are a shit show.... Anyone in here feels like they're "normal"? I don't ... fucked up shit! lol

My family isn't perfect but they are a wonderful group of people. Each has their little quirks but I have to say that I am very blessed to have a family that is very supportive. My family is "normal" . I have two very loving parents, siblings with whom I get along with very well except for My opinionated self *SMIRKS* but I do have to say I have a wonderful family and I love them dearly. My family is no where close to a "shit show" as you put it.

NitroChrys_Butch · 07-20-2016, 07:04 PM

My mother is an amazing woman. She has done the majority of the raising of Myself and My sibilings; making 5 females. My father worked long hours and we were usually in bed by the time he got home more evenings that not. My old man never had a son so thank goodness one of My sisters and I got some "butch genes" somewhere because he refers to us as his sons. Which makes Me very proud. One of my siblings died in a car accident when hy was very young. Yes, hy. Our family had two butches. HOW lucky was that!? LOL
My mother is very sweet and loving and although she is a force to be reckoned with she is not a screamer or a hitter. She will pinch on occasion if she catches one of us off-guard. She is loving and caring and would do anything for any one of us. Coming out to her was easy. I think watching her with My father showed me what a woman expected from a man/partner. My father always put her first. He would surprise her constantly with flowers or small gestures to let her know he was thinking of her. She showed us all that a woman expected to be cherished by a man/partner. She has always worked but she was always made sure we came first before anything else.

JDeere · 07-20-2016, 07:34 PM

Right now my relationship with my birth mother is estranged. My adoptive mother is another story, we have our issues which do carry over into my current relationship. I see a pattern but have no clue how to fix it. But my families are a shit storm for sure.

TL1 · 07-20-2016, 08:35 PM

We talk when needed. We also do things for each other when needed. There's no 'I love you's" or hugs since around 10 years old. But we get along okay.

Gayandgray · 07-23-2016, 05:54 PM

My Mom and I get along better now than we did when I was little, of course we DO live in different states and don't see each other that much....... She has finally accepted the fact that I'm a lesbian, and that my spouse is around her age. We didn't speak for years because of those two things. I was always closer to her Mother, my Nana.

JDeere · 07-30-2016, 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Gayandgray

My Mom and I get along better now than we did when I was little, of course we DO live in different states and don't see each other that much....... She has finally accepted the fact that I'm a lesbian, and that my spouse is around her age. We didn't speak for years because of those two things. I was always closer to her Mother, my Nana.

Does you mother have major issues with your partner being around your mom's age?

I am curious because both my mom's didn't like the fact I dated someone who was older then me at one time.

Lyte · 08-19-2016, 05:53 PM

What a curious question. Is the some theory between being butch and one's relationship with mom??

In my case, mom's gone and we never got along. Rhyme unintended. lol No issues re: my being gay ... lots of other family dynamics that created tension and conflict.

Gayandgray · 09-01-2016, 04:52 AM

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Originally Posted by JDeere

Does you mother have major issues with your partner being around your mom's age?

I am curious because both my mom's didn't like the fact I dated someone who was older then me at one time.

Sorry just saw this! Yes the age was a big issue for sure.

07-20-2016, 07:04 PM	#2
NitroChrys_Butch Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Cape May Point NJ Posts: 269 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 878 Thanked 703 Times in 199 Posts Rep Power: 3072718	My mother is an amazing woman. She has done the majority of the raising of Myself and My sibilings; making 5 females. My father worked long hours and we were usually in bed by the time he got home more evenings that not. My old man never had a son so thank goodness one of My sisters and I got some "butch genes" somewhere because he refers to us as his sons. Which makes Me very proud. One of my siblings died in a car accident when hy was very young. Yes, hy. Our family had two butches. HOW lucky was that!? LOL My mother is very sweet and loving and although she is a force to be reckoned with she is not a screamer or a hitter. She will pinch on occasion if she catches one of us off-guard. She is loving and caring and would do anything for any one of us. Coming out to her was easy. I think watching her with My father showed me what a woman expected from a man/partner. My father always put her first. He would surprise her constantly with flowers or small gestures to let her know he was thinking of her. She showed us all that a woman expected to be cherished by a man/partner. She has always worked but she was always made sure we came first before anything else. __________________ “Hy who risks and fails can be forgiven. Hy who never risks and never fails is a failure in Hys whole being.”

07-20-2016, 08:35 PM	#4
TL1 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch of stone Join Date: Dec 2015 Location: East coast Posts: 2,892 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,111 Thanked 3,456 Times in 1,007 Posts Rep Power: 21474848	We talk when needed. We also do things for each other when needed. There's no 'I love you's" or hugs since around 10 years old. But we get along okay. __________________ "Our bodies were printed as blank pages to be filled with the ink of our hearts”

07-23-2016, 05:54 PM	#5
Gayandgray Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme-ish, tomboy lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Together a really long time Join Date: Jan 2016 Location: In my mind? On a tropical island Posts: 4,862 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,584 Thanked 12,885 Times in 3,081 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	My Mom and I get along better now than we did when I was little, of course we DO live in different states and don't see each other that much....... She has finally accepted the fact that I'm a lesbian, and that my spouse is around her age. We didn't speak for years because of those two things. I was always closer to her Mother, my Nana. __________________

07-20-2016, 07:34 PM	#3
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,835 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	Right now my relationship with my birth mother is estranged. My adoptive mother is another story, we have our issues which do carry over into my current relationship. I see a pattern but have no clue how to fix it. But my families are a shit storm for sure.

08-19-2016, 05:53 PM	#7
Lyte Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Meh... I'm not very particular about this. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2016 Location: The south... bleh! Posts: 1,744 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,316 Thanked 5,113 Times in 1,504 Posts Rep Power: 21474847	What a curious question. Is the some theory between being butch and one's relationship with mom?? In my case, mom's gone and we never got along. Rhyme unintended. lol No issues re: my being gay ... lots of other family dynamics that created tension and conflict.