Femmes: what makes you feel sexy?

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by fatallyblonde

Starting my first new thread :nervous:

anyway, I am interested, my fellow femmes, in what makes you feel sexy. Not in a general sort of way... but what you find helps you come back to yourself when you feel run down, or frumpy, or rejected or out of touch (or all of the above!)... how do you get back to a feeling of sensuality and sexiness that gives you a morale boost and makes you feel strong once more?

For me, I find if I take the time to set my hair in curlers and then do a nice brush out, this really gives me a massive boost. My hair looks good, which means I feel a lot better about how I look and that gives me confidence. Without styling my hair really doesn't do anything and a lot of my self-esteem is attached to being well-presented so even just doing my hair can make me feel a lot more in control and therefore a lot more confident.

Another thing is, if I am really run down and stressed out and exhausted and don't feel like my body is properly mine anymore, if I can afford it I go and get an hour or two hour full body massage. Having my aches and pains soothed away and being coaxed into reconnecting with my physical self through touch really is restorative for me and again, it gives me confidence that makes me feel present in my body and that makes me feel sexy.

Of course, it isn't necessary or important to feel sexy all the time... sometimes I just want to slob around in my pajamas with a cup of tea and be a quiet little recluse and that, in its own way, can be just as restorative and soothing to me as feeling like a bombshell does.

What works for you?

For those who aren't sure, this is the OP's intention and desire for the thread.

[deeds]

Originally Posted by Gemme

For those who aren't sure, this is the OP's intention and desire for the thread.

*putting on my dress and hiking up my skirt*sneaking in..again..
I believe I understand you Gemme I do agree wholeheartedly that it is about you feeling sexy for and within your own body..This is not the "what turns me on thread"
And that's good advice if interested in someone just ask them,precisely because of femme uniqueness,but that could open up a whole new thread in and of itself.

[Sweet Bliss]

I don't mind if peeps other than Femme's read the posts, but this is a thread exclusively for Femme discussion, not the general public.

I think some folks just can't resist making comments about topics that don't pertain to them. Reading the first original post will tell us who the OP is addressing. Since this is a very personal and sometimes painful journey back to ourselves, I think I will refrain from posting in here about my journey back to wholeness.

It's not a lark or instructions on how to get a Femme's attention or get into her head so it will turn on "command". This is an example of how to piss me off when I'm exposing my vulnerable side in public. So not happening. Great question. It's a journey, a process, and for each Femme, unique. Be nice if we had Femme Sacred Centers to retreat to when we are raw and exposed. Fully funded and covered by insurance, lol. We could call it Sisters Inc.

[Medusa]

That thing where I'm making dinner, hair knotted up in a messy bun on top of my head, pots bubbling and steaming and I feel this presence behind me.

Maybe there are hands on my waist and hot breath on the back of my neck as I feel his inhale and the hairs on my neck stand at attention. Or maybe it's a quick kiss on the cheek or pat on the ass as he passes by to take the garbage out.

The affirmation of my way of being is sexy and if that is happening while I'm in the service of food prep (or any random home-making activity, really), it lets me know he is seeing me in my element and loving it. That's fucking sexy to be desired while doing what you love.

<3

[MsTinkerbelly]

I'm 55 and not in great health...so most days I struggle to even care what I look like when I leave the house.

What makes me feel sexy...that stretch your body, love the skin you're in feeling? I think the closest I come to that feeling is after I shower, shave, lotion and put on something soft and pretty. I know my Kasey likes that I smell yummy and feel good, but it's really for me.

[Soft*Silver]

Like Tinkerbelly, I am almost 60 (on Jan 15th), have had several major surgeries in the last few years and deal with chronic acute pain every day. I struggle to feel sexy. I try at best to feel good. However, my husband certainly has ways to help ease me into the sexy zone. And like Medusa said, it is the moments stolen out of context of the situation, that claws away the pain and allows me moments of femmeness once again.

My favorite is when he comes home from work(he works midnites) and steals in next to me and wakes me slowly to his hands over me, gently touching but Touching. I do not wake to pain. I wake to Him. I love that he helps me forgets, has found a way to get me back in my skin without pain, and feel my womanness.

[Kätzchen]

When ever my Sweetheart tells me "Whatever you want, baby" I feel so loved, so understood, and terribly sexy. When I recently made an Salted Caramel Apple pie, it was late at night and we were both hanging out in the kitchen, I fed him a spoon of the pie, and the look he gave me, while feeding him, just melted my heart and made me feel so sexy....