Caregivers and Stress

girl_dee · 02-25-2017, 08:40 AM

Well my mom says she is feeling a little better.

Honestly I cringe waiting to get that reply in the mornings.

Chad · 02-25-2017, 09:58 AM

My mom's birthday is next week. I cannot wait to spoil her.
She is doing great with her new knee. I just need to tidy up her yard a bit. Also, I will clean her house while I am there.

cricket26 · 02-25-2017, 12:59 PM

i picked up groceries for mom yesterday she seemed in good spirits

girl_dee · 02-25-2017, 02:30 PM

it seems like most of us are looking after our mothers. .........

Mine told me yesterday she was not well and could not get out of bed the entire day. Said she had fever and couldn't breathe well.. but not bad enough to go to the hospital. I was so worried i didn't sleep all night.

First thing this morning I texted her... there is always this sinking feeling waiting for her response. She did reply that she was feeling a little better. Great i thought. .. but again she says she is just not well.

Well a little while later she sent at text to me, that was obviously for one of her
posse buddies at the home..

"Yes, i texted you earlier,,, i am better, I'm going downstairs"....

I said well thats great mom! Have a nice time with your friends..

She says " I am still sick i just think the fresh air will help me"

She will NOT give me anything positive, ever. She wants me to think she is miserable and on death's door.

WHY????

kittygrrl · 02-25-2017, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by girl_dee

it seems like most of us are looking after our mothers. .........

Mine told me yesterday she was not well and could not get out of bed the entire day. Said she had fever and couldn't breathe well.. but not bad enough to go to the hospital. I was so worried i didn't sleep all night.

First thing this morning I texted her... there is always this sinking feeling waiting for her response. She did reply that she was feeling a little better. Great i thought. .. but again she says she is just not well.

Well a little while later she sent at text to me, that was obviously for one of her
posse buddies at the home..

"Yes, i texted you earlier,,, i am better, I'm going downstairs"....

I said well thats great mom! Have a nice time with your friends..

She says " I am still sick i just think the fresh air will help me"

She will NOT give me anything positive, ever. She wants me to think she is miserable and on death's door.

WHY????

I went through the same thing with my mom. I don't believe even medication can help. As I've gotten older, I see why my mom felt the way she did. It's natural as you get older to see you are approaching the great unknown..some welcome it, others are frightened..In the end I think they greet it with a certain amount of relief and anticipation..From my own experience I would tell you to accept where your mom is. She does not feel well. There is a reason for it-it's called old age. Accept it and try to take it in stride and weird as it may feel to you, try very hard to appreciate and savor the good moments you have with your mom, yes even the bad moments! One day when she is gone you will be so happy you spent the time holding her hand and listening to her aches and pains. Give her some of your very positive energy..even if she doesn't believe in it. I wish the best for you and your mom<B

girl_dee · 02-25-2017, 03:29 PM

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Originally Posted by kittygrrl

I went through the same thing with my mom. I don't believe even medication can help. As I've gotten older, I see why my mom felt the way she did. It's natural as you get older to see you are approaching the great unknown..some welcome it, others are frightened..In the end I think they greet it with a certain amount of relief and anticipation..From my own experience I would tell you to accept where your mom is. She does not feel well. There is a reason for it-it's called old age. Accept it and try to take it in stride and weird as it may feel to you, try very hard to appreciate and savor the good moments you have with your mom, yes even the bad moments! One day when she is gone you will be so happy you spent the time holding her hand and listening to her aches and pains. Give her some of your very positive energy..even if she doesn't believe in it. I wish the best for you and your mom<B

thank you. this helped A LOT.

Chad · 04-09-2017, 07:53 AM

My mom's neighbor is back saying that he will buy mom's house. I hope that he fallows through this time because I need to have mom here with me.

I have great hope that this deal will go through.

02-25-2017, 09:58 AM	#2
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