What attracts you to Ftms ......

[betenoire]

I know this is unpopular opinion, and it's really none of my business who other people date...but it strikes me as icky when someone will date an FTM but not a non-trans man. Like, TO ME, that insinuates that they don't fully acknowledge their lovers sex/gender.

[TenderKnight]

Originally Posted by betenoire

I know this is unpopular opinion, and it's really none of my business who other people date...but it strikes me as icky when someone will date an FTM but not a non-trans man. Like, TO ME, that insinuates that they don't fully acknowledge their lovers sex/gender.

YES! THANK YOU!!! I have wondered the same myself.. and please don't take this as bashing people's choices or attractions, but sometimes I feel like transguys are the "safe" guys, because they are *really* men.. *le sigh*

I get what you mean, thanks for putting into words.

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by betenoire

I know this is unpopular opinion, and it's really none of my business who other people date...but it strikes me as icky when someone will date an FTM but not a non-trans man. Like, TO ME, that insinuates that they don't fully acknowledge their lovers sex/gender.

I can understand this line of thought. For myself, it's not only about who they are now but who they've been their entire lives. For me, there MUST be a connection to the Queer community in some way. If there is none, which is true for most non-trans men, I believe....I can't go there. The tie to the community is one that binds for me.

[betenoire]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I can understand this line of thought. For myself, it's not only about who they are now but who they've been their entire lives. For me, there MUST be a connection to the Queer community in some way. If there is none, which is true for most non-trans men, I believe....I can't go there. The tie to the community is one that binds for me.

So would you date a non-trans guy if he were bisexual or at least a strong activist/ally? Bisexual men are part of the Queer community, and real vocal activists/allies -do- experience some of the same beatdown/judgement/whatever that those of us who actually are Queer get. (not that oppression should be the glass through which we view/legitimize queerdom.)

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by betenoire

So would you date a non-trans guy if he were bisexual or at least a strong activist/ally? Bisexual men are part of the Queer community, and real vocal activists/allies -do- experience some of the same beatdown/judgement/whatever that those of us who actually are Queer get. (not that oppression should be the glass through which we view/legitimize queerdom.)

I suppose it's possible. I haven't met anyone that meets that criteria that I was attracted to, though, so I can't say for certain.