OFOS Butches & Femmes

homoe · 04-28-2017, 01:48 PM

I'd just like to add my two cents about paying...

Paying
"I am tired of clearing this up. Who makes the invite, pays. It’s that simple. It’s not about showing off, or thinking she needs your money, or whatever other nonsense people will say about the topic. You invited them, means you are picking up the check. What is so complicated"?

I think some femmes may be uncomfortable with this because they think 'something' might be expect if they allow the butch to pay! An OFOS butch would never, in a million years, expect anything in return IMHO!

If you're out with someone who gives you the impression they'd expect that, RUN FOR THE HILLS and F A S T !

Chad · 04-28-2017, 03:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by homoe

I'd just like to add my two cents about paying...

Paying
"I am tired of clearing this up. Who makes the invite, pays. It’s that simple. It’s not about showing off, or thinking she needs your money, or whatever other nonsense people will say about the topic. You invited them, means you are picking up the check. What is so complicated"?

I think some femmes may be uncomfortable with this because they think 'something' might be expect if they allow the butch to pay! An OFOS butch would never, in a million years, expect anything in return IMHO!

If you're out with someone who gives you the impression they'd expect that, RUN FOR THE HILLS and F A S T !

Agreed, well said buddy.

Chad · 04-28-2017, 05:53 PM

As a native Texan being polite and respectful was a big part of my education and environment.

Holding the elevator door for anyone, helping someone with a stroller on an escalator, opening doors, giving up my seat to someone less fortunate, smiling at a stranger and saying hi.

My parents taught me to be a gentleman to everyone that I encountered.

I am old fashioned and old school in all my relationships. However, I am not "leave it to beaver's" dad I do not come home from work and sit in the recliner expecting to be waited on. I am a worker.

When relationships uphold openess, trust, respect, and politeness as the standard I am very easy to get along with.

04-28-2017, 05:53 PM	#3
Chad Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Loved Caregiver Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 6,164 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,746 Thanked 20,312 Times in 5,677 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	OFOS As a native Texan being polite and respectful was a big part of my education and environment. Holding the elevator door for anyone, helping someone with a stroller on an escalator, opening doors, giving up my seat to someone less fortunate, smiling at a stranger and saying hi. My parents taught me to be a gentleman to everyone that I encountered. I am old fashioned and old school in all my relationships. However, I am not "leave it to beaver's" dad I do not come home from work and sit in the recliner expecting to be waited on. I am a worker. When relationships uphold openess, trust, respect, and politeness as the standard I am very easy to get along with.

04-28-2017, 01:48 PM	#1
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,548 Times in 14,914 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	I'd just like to add my two cents about paying... Paying "I am tired of clearing this up. Who makes the invite, pays. It’s that simple. It’s not about showing off, or thinking she needs your money, or whatever other nonsense people will say about the topic. You invited them, means you are picking up the check. What is so complicated"? I think some femmes may be uncomfortable with this because they think 'something' might be expect if they allow the butch to pay! An OFOS butch would never, in a million years, expect anything in return IMHO! If you're out with someone who gives you the impression they'd expect that, RUN FOR THE HILLS and F A S T !