Stone Butches

Lyte · 06-06-2017, 06:07 PM

Wait... what??? So... "Touch me!" and "Don't touch me!" are separated by a wee lil space??? lol

Okay... so... if I meet I gal who's femme and stone ... I'll be sure to have her write it out.... so I'll know which one she means.

I'm not laughing in your direction Gemme! I'm just laughing us... humans... we're so complicated and funny! Particularly when it comes to sex!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gemme

I was told that that was difference between a Stone Femme and a Stonefemme.

BullDog · 06-06-2017, 06:09 PM

I think the distinction between Stone Femme and Stonefemme could be useful, but it doesn't seem to me that everyone uses them and/or distinguishes between them in the same way. I've seen both used by femmes who partner with stone butches.

Gemme · 06-06-2017, 06:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lyte

Wait... what??? So... "Touch me!" and "Don't touch me!" are separated by a wee lil space??? lol

Okay... so... if I meet I gal who's femme and stone ... I'll be sure to have her write it out.... so I'll know which one she means.

I'm not laughing in your direction Gemme! I'm just laughing us... humans... we're so complicated and funny! Particularly when it comes to sex!

Are you kidding? You know what difference a COMMA makes? It's life changing!

Example:

Let's eat, Grandma!

or

Let's eat Grandma!

~ocean · 06-06-2017, 10:29 PM

I am a stone femme ~ I love penetration , I don't have a desire to penetrate my lover. Everyone is different. We all just have different desires.~

Lyte · 06-07-2017, 02:11 AM

You are so right!

My thought was ... it's two very different meanings with (essentially) the same name... when spoken. Which is why I said I'd have to have the gal write down her preference. Iol Written down... then I'd know if she was with a space or without a space femme.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gemme

Are you kidding? You know what difference a COMMA makes? It's life changing!

Example:

Let's eat, Grandma!

or

Let's eat Grandma!

AmazonDC · 06-07-2017, 06:05 AM

I am a STONE DADDY and exit only please.lol love a Stone Femme who is all about penetrationbut recieving only.. communication is key.. likes dislikes hard limits.. that sort of thing..

StoicStone · 06-07-2017, 07:58 AM

Oh...well in my area in the old days we called a stone femme who didn't like to be penetrated a Diamond Femme, and a stone butch who liked to remain fully clothed at all times (strapped on outside of clothing) was a Granite Butch.

I neither the butch nor the femme wanted to penetrate/be penetrated, well, we just called them lesbians. That is no longer appropriate, I think, because their are just so many different aspects to how people identify and you can't really throw a single blanket term out there and have it truly mean anything to the younger generations.
I guess we were just woefully under informed about our sexuality and even the nature of it when I was young.

*Anya* · 06-07-2017, 08:25 AM

I think that these days, labels are a general "alert" ( probably the wrong word) as to what a person feels comfortable with, to narrow the dating pool down a tad.

The only way to really know, is to discuss. Even then, for some, it depends on the person and the situation.

By the time you are ready to have sex of any type, a clear and open discussion should have already been had.

I do training at my job (one of my hats) about HIV/AIDS and it still amazes me the number of people that tell me that they have sex first and ask the questions after or tell me "but he or she looked clean". I have straight men/straight women/transfolk/lesbians and gays; so it is everyone not always having those open and honest discussions.

By that point, uh oh.

Yes, there are many different sexual identities and desires for lesbians, too.

06-06-2017, 06:09 PM	#2
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,637 Times in 4,462 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I think the distinction between Stone Femme and Stonefemme could be useful, but it doesn't seem to me that everyone uses them and/or distinguishes between them in the same way. I've seen both used by femmes who partner with stone butches. __________________ Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. - Rainer Maria Rilke

06-06-2017, 10:29 PM	#4
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,012 Times in 4,723 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	~ I am a stone femme ~ I love penetration , I don't have a desire to penetrate my lover. Everyone is different. We all just have different desires.~ __________________ ~ Always, ocean

06-07-2017, 08:25 AM	#8
Anya Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Lesbian non-stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Committed to being good to myself Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: West Coast Posts: 8,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39,306 Thanked 40,443 Times in 7,285 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I think that these days, labels are a general "alert" ( probably the wrong word) as to what a person feels comfortable with, to narrow the dating pool down a tad. The only way to really know, is to discuss. Even then, for some, it depends on the person and the situation. By the time you are ready to have sex of any type, a clear and open discussion should have already been had. I do training at my job (one of my hats) about HIV/AIDS and it still amazes me the number of people that tell me that they have sex first and ask the questions after or tell me "but he or she looked clean". I have straight men/straight women/transfolk/lesbians and gays; so it is everyone not always having those open and honest discussions. By that point, uh oh. Yes, there are many different sexual identities and desires for lesbians, too. __________________ ~Anya~ Democracy Dies in Darkness ~Washington Post "...I'm deeply concerned by recently adopted policies which punish children for their parents’ actions ... The thought that any State would seek to deter parents by inflicting such abuse on children is unconscionable." UN Human Rights commissioner

06-07-2017, 06:05 AM	#6
AmazonDC Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: DC Join Date: Nov 2015 Location: colorado Posts: 499 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 346 Thanked 1,485 Times in 430 Posts Rep Power: 13453159	I am a STONE DADDY and exit only please.lol love a Stone Femme who is all about penetrationbut recieving only.. communication is key.. likes dislikes hard limits.. that sort of thing..

06-07-2017, 07:58 AM	#7
StoicStone Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Butch.............. Preferred Pronoun?: No preference............... Relationship Status: single............... Join Date: May 2017 Location: Washington.................. Posts: 35 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 135 Times in 31 Posts Rep Power: 445522	Oh...well in my area in the old days we called a stone femme who didn't like to be penetrated a Diamond Femme, and a stone butch who liked to remain fully clothed at all times (strapped on outside of clothing) was a Granite Butch. I neither the butch nor the femme wanted to penetrate/be penetrated, well, we just called them lesbians. That is no longer appropriate, I think, because their are just so many different aspects to how people identify and you can't really throw a single blanket term out there and have it truly mean anything to the younger generations. I guess we were just woefully under informed about our sexuality and even the nature of it when I was young.