Caregivers and Stress

girl_dee · 07-25-2017, 09:12 PM

Thanks for the update.. please let us know how everything goes

Teddybear · 07-26-2017, 04:55 AM

Sitting in a waiting room is no fun especially first damm thing in the morning.

Once I get some answers I will post an update.

Thank you all for listening and the encouragement.

Teddybear · 07-26-2017, 09:53 AM

Well the test showed she has several ulcers in her colon and another pyolp.

She had a scope in February where they removed several pyolps that are likely to return and when they come back they are usually malignant. She has already fought and once a battle with Colon-rectal cancer. So now we have 3 months to wait.

Thank you for all for healing energy and prayers

Teddybear · 07-27-2017, 06:12 PM

uggggg.....

How do you get them to listen???!!! I come home to her telling me what we HAVE to do after doctor appts on Monday. I said ok and then asked her do you have everything your are suppose to do finished?

"NO but we can take this down to the lawyer and then I will just put this other stuff here with my will."

"Wait you told me that you had to give it to the lawyer once you finished it so that it could be included with your will"

Its been months and every other day she changes what she wants and how she wants things done.

I don't know what she wants because it has changes so often. I sometimes wonder if she keeps changing it with me to keep me off balance. She is great at pushing buttons and of course our parents know what buttons to push they installed them.

Just needed a vent moment. I know that no matter what she will do exactly what she wants.

girl_dee · 07-31-2017, 03:01 PM

i had a hard convo with my mom, then found out the things she told me are not even true.

i have concerns about ending up like her one day.

Then i start thinking thats exactly the kind of thing she would do.

i've never had a maternal mom, but i still miss the old her that i could at least talk to.

Teddybear · 08-08-2017, 07:10 PM

So this past weekend I got my time off. Well there was drama prior to me leaving but I stood firm and left. Had a great time.

Things with Momma have taken a turn and not for the better. We think she may have had a small stroke. CT has been ordered hopefully this week.

I could go on however I'm whooped and need sleep

Have a good evening

Teddybear · 08-14-2017, 07:51 PM

I could bite a 10penny nail in two.

Got Momma back into the ER. She had a CT scan and it showed a stroke. The doctor called said getting her to the ER for this and that. We have been here 5+ hours and we still don't know any DAMM thing.

Answers dammit. Like NOW

My brothers want to know why I haven't told them I thought it was a stroke when it happened. I'm like as y'all keep reminding me I am NOT a doctor.

I'm just done with the inadequate care I feel my mom is getting. It is extremely frustrating to say the least.

07-26-2017, 04:55 AM	#2
Teddybear Senior Member How Do You Identify?: by my name Preferred Pronoun?: He, him Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Here there everywhere. Posts: 2,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,620 Thanked 6,233 Times in 1,687 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Sitting in a waiting room is no fun especially first damm thing in the morning. Once I get some answers I will post an update. Thank you all for listening and the encouragement. __________________ I am ME take me as I am or leave me be..

07-26-2017, 09:53 AM	#3
Teddybear Senior Member How Do You Identify?: by my name Preferred Pronoun?: He, him Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Here there everywhere. Posts: 2,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,620 Thanked 6,233 Times in 1,687 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	UPDATE Well the test showed she has several ulcers in her colon and another pyolp. She had a scope in February where they removed several pyolps that are likely to return and when they come back they are usually malignant. She has already fought and once a battle with Colon-rectal cancer. So now we have 3 months to wait. Thank you for all for healing energy and prayers __________________ I am ME take me as I am or leave me be..

07-27-2017, 06:12 PM	#4
Teddybear Senior Member How Do You Identify?: by my name Preferred Pronoun?: He, him Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Here there everywhere. Posts: 2,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,620 Thanked 6,233 Times in 1,687 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	uggggg..... How do you get them to listen???!!! I come home to her telling me what we HAVE to do after doctor appts on Monday. I said ok and then asked her do you have everything your are suppose to do finished? "NO but we can take this down to the lawyer and then I will just put this other stuff here with my will." "Wait you told me that you had to give it to the lawyer once you finished it so that it could be included with your will" Its been months and every other day she changes what she wants and how she wants things done. I don't know what she wants because it has changes so often. I sometimes wonder if she keeps changing it with me to keep me off balance. She is great at pushing buttons and of course our parents know what buttons to push they installed them. Just needed a vent moment. I know that no matter what she will do exactly what she wants. __________________ I am ME take me as I am or leave me be..

08-08-2017, 07:10 PM	#6
Teddybear Senior Member How Do You Identify?: by my name Preferred Pronoun?: He, him Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Here there everywhere. Posts: 2,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,620 Thanked 6,233 Times in 1,687 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Update So this past weekend I got my time off. Well there was drama prior to me leaving but I stood firm and left. Had a great time. Things with Momma have taken a turn and not for the better. We think she may have had a small stroke. CT has been ordered hopefully this week. I could go on however I'm whooped and need sleep Have a good evening __________________ I am ME take me as I am or leave me be..

08-14-2017, 07:51 PM	#7
Teddybear Senior Member How Do You Identify?: by my name Preferred Pronoun?: He, him Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Here there everywhere. Posts: 2,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,620 Thanked 6,233 Times in 1,687 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I could bite a 10penny nail in two. Got Momma back into the ER. She had a CT scan and it showed a stroke. The doctor called said getting her to the ER for this and that. We have been here 5+ hours and we still don't know any DAMM thing. Answers dammit. Like NOW My brothers want to know why I haven't told them I thought it was a stroke when it happened. I'm like as y'all keep reminding me I am NOT a doctor. I'm just done with the inadequate care I feel my mom is getting. It is extremely frustrating to say the least. __________________ I am ME take me as I am or leave me be..

07-25-2017, 09:12 PM	#1
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07-31-2017, 03:01 PM	#5
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	i had a hard convo with my mom, then found out the things she told me are not even true. i have concerns about ending up like her one day. Then i start thinking thats exactly the kind of thing she would do. i've never had a maternal mom, but i still miss the old her that i could at least talk to.