Living Apart, Together (LAT) A Support Thread

[Kätzchen]

Originally Posted by homoe

I had friends back in Milwaukee and they had an extremely creative way of living together apart I must admit!

One owned a HUGE Victorian Style home. When they refurbished it, they used many of the nooks and crannies of the home to incorporate a separate living space, complete with kitchen and bathroom, for the other.


They have been together well over 25 years so it works for them

I had dear friends, an lesbian couple, who created a living arrangement similar to that of living in a very large turn-of-the-century Victorian home, put on the coast. They each had their own bedrooms on different floors, their own bathroom spaces, and of course, various rooms of their own through out the house (the TV room, the craft and sewing room, a shared reading room) and on the main floor of the house was the kitchen and a huge livingroom, shared by both of them.

I miss them...they've both passed on, several years ago, and withing months of each other. They were inseparable, yet separate and individual as an couple who were together for over 45 years.

[Lyte]

What an interesting topic! I'd never heard of LAT. I think I dig the idea! Off to read some more...

[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by Kätzchen

I had dear friends, an lesbian couple, who created a living arrangement similar to that of living in a very large turn-of-the-century Victorian home, put on the coast. They each had their own bedrooms on different floors, their own bathroom spaces, and of course, various rooms of their own through out the house (the TV room, the craft and sewing room, a shared reading room) and on the main floor of the house was the kitchen and a huge livingroom, shared by both of them.

I miss them...they've both passed on, several years ago, and withing months of each other. They were inseparable, yet separate and individual as an couple who were together for over 45 years.

this reminds me of a poly household and i absolutely love the idea.

[girl_dee]

where i lived once, there was a middle aged couple that lived down the lane that lived down the street. They would walk daily walks together, hand in hand every evening. Then she would go to her house, and him to his. They lived about a block apart.

i will admit that although i like my dee time, i would want my love cuddling me at night if they were that close!

[Femmewench]

I don't need to live separate or probably even have my own room. What I do need is "alone time." I've lived alone far longer than with a partner. Sometimes I want to just know I'm alone in my home for a period of time. I'm too practical to justify spending money for a separate alone space off premises.

On those rare occasions when I'd call in sick for a mental health day it made me crazy that my retired spouse was home. I stopped doing it fairly soon after she retired. The effect was totally different with someone home with me.

[AmazonDC]

I think it is important to have ALONE TIME away from your spouse.. weather it's a day spent fishing or doing crafts or just relaxing at home there needs and should be time alone to reflect on yourself and just have you time..

[candy_coated_bitch]

My partner and I live in the same apartment, but have separate bedrooms. I think this helps us tremendously as a couple. We both have our own space that is just ours. It's easy to have alone time. We also sleep apart. I need my own bed, for a lot of reasons, and it just works.

My room is my sanctuary and we end up spending more together time in her room because she's more generous with her space and less of an introvert than I.

So we're a version of living apart together, but we do it under the same roof. I've always liked the idea though of having separate houses and apartments or homes close together.

[Chad]

Sign me up, I need my space.