Instant Turn-Offs

~ocean · 01-22-2018, 12:28 PM

When someone with a negative assumption and comments on something you say, that's not needed. That type of rudeness is a huge turn off . I'm very attracted to a classy person as a friend or date .

RockOn · 01-22-2018, 04:01 PM

emotionally cold personality

*Anya* · 01-22-2018, 05:32 PM

I just saw a guy do this on TV and it reminded me of this: a winker.

Someone that winks at me in the middle of a conversation. People that are winkers tend to do it no matter how serious the conversation. I don't even like it if someone is flirting and does this.

I think it is kind of creepy.

*wink, wink*

Ooh.

Ascot · 01-22-2018, 06:25 PM

Weird presumptions. You're butch, so you must blah, blah. You're well educated so you must think this way. You're white so of course you feel the same way I do, etc.

Major timidity about trying new things. Trepidation is okay if we don't let it cripple us.

The classic chestnut, bad hygiene.

RockOn · 01-22-2018, 06:48 PM

winkie blinkie at *Anya*
Heh Heh!
Only joking around ... but you knew because you are smart like that.

*Anya* · 01-22-2018, 07:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RockOn

winkie blinkie at *Anya*
Heh Heh!
Only joking around ... but you knew because you are smart like that.

Oh my gosh! We have a winking smilie!

Lyte · 01-22-2018, 06:55 PM

*mental note ... nix the wink if ever you meet Anya*

A wink is a very delicate expression ... gesture ... whatever. I can go very easily wrong ... or pretty darn right! It should be used with the utmost of caution and with much forethought!

Yes, I've been known to wink on occasion ... on occasion.

<-- not winking!

Quote:

Originally Posted by *Anya*

I just saw a guy do this on TV and it reminded me of this: a winker.

Someone that winks at me in the middle of a conversation. People that are winkers tend to do it no matter how serious the conversation. I don't even like it if someone is flirting and does this.

I think it is kind of creepy.

*wink, wink*

Ooh.

Lyte · 01-22-2018, 06:59 PM

Lacking even the minimum ... a modicum of social grace ... aka manners! I don't expect her to know what fork goes with what course but I do need her to be attuned to when "please" and "thank you" are appropriate.

Ascot · 01-22-2018, 07:09 PM

Treating anyone in a service capacity with anything less than respect. That's a major no-no with me!

EnchantedNightDweller · 01-22-2018, 07:18 PM

Here's my top 3:
You're a racist.
You don't like kids.
You don't like animals.

*Anya* · 01-22-2018, 08:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lyte

*mental note ... nix the wink if ever you meet Anya*

A wink is a very delicate expression ... gesture ... whatever. I can go very easily wrong ... or pretty darn right! It should be used with the utmost of caution and with much forethought!

Yes, I've been known to wink on occasion ... on occasion.

<-- not winking!

Ha!

Gemme · 01-22-2018, 08:42 PM

Winks can turn into twitches and ticks surprisingly fast.

Lyte · 01-22-2018, 10:16 PM

See! A good wink requires a serious workout regimen! Winking is not for amateurs!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gemme

Winks can turn into twitches and ticks surprisingly fast.

Sweet Bliss · 01-22-2018, 08:44 PM

being rude then pretending they were "just kidding"

being dismissive to ANYONE (including pets)

failure to communicate, covers HUGE area.

01-22-2018, 12:28 PM	#1
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,015 Times in 4,724 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	When someone with a negative assumption and comments on something you say, that's not needed. That type of rudeness is a huge turn off . I'm very attracted to a classy person as a friend or date . __________________ ~ Always, ocean

01-22-2018, 05:32 PM	#3
Anya Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Lesbian non-stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Committed to being good to myself Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: West Coast Posts: 8,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39,306 Thanked 40,445 Times in 7,285 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I just saw a guy do this on TV and it reminded me of this: a winker. Someone that winks at me in the middle of a conversation. People that are winkers tend to do it no matter how serious the conversation. I don't even like it if someone is flirting and does this. I think it is kind of creepy. wink, wink Ooh. __________________ ~Anya~ Democracy Dies in Darkness ~Washington Post "...I'm deeply concerned by recently adopted policies which punish children for their parents’ actions ... The thought that any State would seek to deter parents by inflicting such abuse on children is unconscionable." UN Human Rights commissioner

01-22-2018, 06:25 PM	#4
Ascot Member How Do You Identify?: Preppy Butch artist Relationship Status: Riding solo Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: North of the Emerald City Posts: 1,135 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 179 Thanked 2,487 Times in 549 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Weird presumptions. You're butch, so you must blah, blah. You're well educated so you must think this way. You're white so of course you feel the same way I do, etc. Major timidity about trying new things. Trepidation is okay if we don't let it cripple us. The classic chestnut, bad hygiene. __________________ Now, if I could just find a way to get paid for what I can do with my tongue and a cherry stem.

01-22-2018, 06:48 PM	#5
RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,304 Times in 2,610 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	back to Anya winkie blinkie at Anya Heh Heh! Only joking around ... but you knew because you are smart like that.

01-22-2018, 07:09 PM	#9
Ascot Member How Do You Identify?: Preppy Butch artist Relationship Status: Riding solo Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: North of the Emerald City Posts: 1,135 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 179 Thanked 2,487 Times in 549 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Treating anyone in a service capacity with anything less than respect. That's a major no-no with me! __________________ Now, if I could just find a way to get paid for what I can do with my tongue and a cherry stem.

01-22-2018, 04:01 PM	#2
RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,304 Times in 2,610 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	emotionally cold personality

01-22-2018, 06:59 PM	#8
Lyte Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Meh... I'm not very particular about this. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2016 Location: The south... bleh! Posts: 1,744 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,316 Thanked 5,113 Times in 1,504 Posts Rep Power: 21474847	Lacking even the minimum ... a modicum of social grace ... aka manners! I don't expect her to know what fork goes with what course but I do need her to be attuned to when "please" and "thank you" are appropriate.

01-22-2018, 07:18 PM	#10
EnchantedNightDweller Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her, she Relationship Status: Being single is a good thing and I like it. Join Date: Jun 2014 Location: Texas Posts: 1,492 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,907 Thanked 2,462 Times in 803 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	Here's my top 3: You're a racist. You don't like kids. You don't like animals.

01-22-2018, 08:42 PM	#12
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,925 Times in 25,666 Posts Rep Power: 21474887	Winks can turn into twitches and ticks surprisingly fast. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.

01-22-2018, 08:44 PM	#14
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,268 Times in 2,159 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	being rude then pretending they were "just kidding" being dismissive to ANYONE (including pets) failure to communicate, covers HUGE area.