Long Distance Relationships

VintageFemme · 02-18-2019, 12:30 PM

I find that the older I get, the more I'm good with a long distance relationship. The things I want out of a relationship have shifted and are quite different these days. I also love traveling, living alone, my private time and independence. Now, I need to find someone who values these things as well! Tricky tricky business.

RebelDyke · 02-18-2019, 01:58 PM

While my requirements for relationships most assuredly have changed thru the years, I stand by my original statement....

long distance relationships never work.

(i will only add this caveat. They will work if it is treated much like a poly relationship: all involved must be completely honest and open about everything. j/s)

Play · 02-18-2019, 02:19 PM

I can see a LDR working out if both parties
involved have excellent communication skills.

Also, no reason a LDR can't change into a IRL
relationship in time.

JDeere · 02-18-2019, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by VintageFemme

I find that the older I get, the more I'm good with a long distance relationship. The things I want out of a relationship have shifted and are quite different these days. I also love traveling, living alone, my private time and independence. Now, I need to find someone who values these things as well! Tricky tricky business.

I love traveling as well, my alone time and independence however the living alone deal.doesn't work due to me being a caregiver.

I however understand it is indeed tricky business.

Vincent · 02-18-2019, 05:16 PM

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Originally Posted by VintageFemme

I find that the older I get, the more I'm good with a long distance relationship. The things I want out of a relationship have shifted and are quite different these days. I also love traveling, living alone, my private time and independence. Now, I need to find someone who values these things as well! Tricky tricky business.

I feel the same
Actually I like different countries
I like living alone,its been 16 years and I never feel bored or lonely
I like people visiting,but I also enjoy them leaving
I did the live in stuff,and it never worked,mainly my fault,coz I wanted my own room and felt smothered.
maybe I just like romantic holidays,just things have changed for me now

Canela · 03-03-2019, 06:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Vincent

I feel the same
Actually I like different countries
I like living alone,its been 16 years and I never feel bored or lonely
I like people visiting,but I also enjoy them leaving
I did the live in stuff,and it never worked,mainly my fault,coz I wanted my own room and felt smothered.
maybe I just like romantic holidays,just things have changed for me now

This.

While it might not make sense for everyone, it makes every bit of difference for me/us.

Vincent · 03-04-2019, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Canela

This.

While it might not make sense for everyone, it makes every bit of difference for me/us.

That's the thing,I try and use the analogy of my shoes won't fit most people nor my diet.
Theres no sense in being dishonest or doing something out of guilt.
I moved in with a woman,coz I felt guilty and didn't want to hurt her,it was a distaster and she got hurt anyway,as did I.
I wanted it to work,but's it just not me.
I like that,13,000 miles of ocean between us,LOL

I'm glad you have met someone and its working,good on you both

Do you have a friend into tranguys???????

Bèsame* · 02-04-2020, 07:38 PM

Perfect way to start a long distance relationship....send a Valentine card. Visit the Holiday card thread and sign up..you can can have more than one crush!!!💘💘💘

~ocean · 02-04-2020, 08:59 PM

LDR = fantasy

Stone-Butch · 02-05-2020, 08:57 AM

I believe anything will work if you put enough into it. I had a two year online using Skype to connect. We spoke daily and she had to have surgery so I wired a beautiful bouquet of flowers to the hospital. We only stopped speaking when her daughter was brought home from her dads and we could not say two words without the daughter standing by her mom talking or putting her face up to the camera etc. After many days of this and her mother saying little I called it quits. She was a lovely woman and very attractive but there is a limit to everyone's patience I suppose.
Anyway, I was suppose to go down to the US to see her before the break but of course it never made it. I do however think it can work as it all depends on the two people involved. I have friends that have had a one year relationship and ended it and they dated every weekend so, it's the people involved in my opinion.

Lyte · 02-18-2019, 06:40 PM

Indeed. I think I've grown rather comfy with my hermit-esque lifestyle.

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Originally Posted by VintageFemme

I find that the older I get, the more I'm good with a long distance relationship. The things I want out of a relationship have shifted and are quite different these days. I also love traveling, living alone, my private time and independence. Now, I need to find someone who values these things as well! Tricky tricky business.

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Originally Posted by Vincent

I feel the same
Actually I like different countries
I like living alone,its been 16 years and I never feel bored or lonely
I like people visiting,but I also enjoy them leaving
I did the live in stuff,and it never worked,mainly my fault,coz I wanted my own room and felt smothered.
maybe I just like romantic holidays,just things have changed for me now

JDeere · 02-18-2019, 09:41 PM

The only crap I can't stand about LDR's is the waiting to see each other, I am impatient as fuck!!!!!

However this gives me time to save money LOL

kittygrrl · 02-19-2019, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by JDeere

The only crap I can't stand about LDR's is the waiting to see each other, I am impatient as fuck!!!!!

However this gives me time to save money LOL

it's worth the wait JD

JDeere · 02-20-2019, 04:16 AM

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Originally Posted by kittygrrl

it's worth the wait JD

I hope so i truly hope so

homoe · 03-03-2019, 10:34 AM

I'm certainly no expert on this subject matter, but I think it helps TONS if the person lives in a city you love visiting...........

Vincent · 03-03-2019, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by homoe

I'm certainly no expert on this subject matter, but I think it helps TONS if the person lives in a city you love visiting...........

Or hookup in different locations around the world,that sounds fun !!!!!!

And Ive had live in R'ships that havnt worked,actually they worked great till we moved in together.

we are all different,so different relationship styles suit different people.

the hard part is finding the right person.

02-18-2019, 12:30 PM	#1
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Play Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Nope Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Boondocks Posts: 105 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 593 Thanked 381 Times in 95 Posts Rep Power: 2165824	Possible.... I can see a LDR working out if both parties involved have excellent communication skills. Also, no reason a LDR can't change into a IRL relationship in time.

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