Breeder and other words we use to hurt our own.

[SuperFemme]

Originally Posted by Liam

I guess the kind of person in the Queer World, who would use "he-she" to refer to your spouse, is the same kind of person in the Non-Queer world, who would also use that phrase—someone who is insensitive, ignorant and/or fearful.

Good point. I suppose I am the kind of girl that hold us to a higher standard? I am just completely floored when somebody who has had to navigate the world as a Queer uses slurs against other Queers (or anyone for that matter). I know that is not a realistic world view, but I can't help it. It stings a bit more when it comes from another Queer.

[Soon]

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

Good point. I suppose I am the kind of girl that hold us to a higher standard? I am just completely floored when somebody who has had to navigate the world as a Queer uses slurs against other Queers (or anyone for that matter). I know that is not a realistic world view, but I can't help it. It stings a bit more when it comes from another Queer.

I know what you are talking about here, SuperFemme.

I was trying to explain to a friend who is a lesbian about my new boyfriend (a few years back) and what trans meant.

She exclaimed, "What? You mean they are a SHIM?!"

It was kinda devastating...and, even after I explained to her how that word is a slur, she never really apologized or tried to get it.

We don't talk anymore.