A Community Request

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by SassyLeo

I love the "personal bubble"

A couple of years ago, June and I were talking about friendships and she said "friend bubble". It made SO much sense to me!

What got me thinking is how we all come from our own life experiences and then from all kinds of different communities...some of us know each other from more than one and each has their own dynamic. I think it is easy for those environments to bleed into each other... and although it can be great when they collide, I think it is also important to remember the different energies... "bubbles"

June - please explain better

I think I see where you are going with this. In my mind's eye, I see those hideous circles they made us do in geometry that are separate but some overlap.

For example, one circle would be blue and over there. One circle would be red and over here. There would be a section of the circles that overlapped (those with common elements, such as mutual friends or interests) and that section would be purple. Each circle has its own environment and parameters but the purple is unique in that it is a blend of the two separate circles (with their energies already in place), therefore coming up with its own energy that is derived from the energies of the red and blue circles.

Okay, it may not make sense to anyone else, but I get it.

[waxnrope]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I think I see where you are going with this...

Okay, it may not make sense to anyone else, but I get it.

I am so glad that you get it ...

[SassyLeo]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I think I see where you are going with this. In my mind's eye, I see those hideous circles they made us do in geometry that are separate but some overlap.

For example, one circle would be blue and over there. One circle would be red and over here. There would be a section of the circles that overlapped (those with common elements, such as mutual friends or interests) and that section would be purple. Each circle has its own environment and parameters but the purple is unique in that it is a blend of the two separate circles (with their energies already in place), therefore coming up with its own energy that is derived from the energies of the red and blue circles.

Okay, it may not make sense to anyone else, but I get it.

Yes!

I remember when I first became involved in the community. I joined the dash site and I purposely spent a fair amount of time reading...trying to guage the tone of language and conversation dynamics.

At first I spent alot of time in the "fluff" threads because I didn't feel I was as knowledgeable about gender and b-f stuff. I didn't want to appear or sound lame... I don't recall it being specifically about others being made fun of or called out, mostly my own fear of sounding like a total idiot.

Gradually as I learned and read more, I participated in the more intense threads and I am sure I still said some completely ridiculous stuff (and still do), but I was much more willing to take the risk - I think partially because I felt more "comfy" with the site energy and also I think by that time I had met some folks in person (bay area b-f group events), so it made it easier for me to connect.

I try to give the benefit of the doubt... I think (someone can call me on this if I'm oblivious )

[Strappie]

Medusa....

What a great reminder and thank you for posting this. I think it is important that we ask to clarify before we JUMP all over someone. I have seen a few times when someone refers to someone as one ID and they are not that ID and that person gets ridiculed. If they are new they will NOT have a clue as to what YOU ID AS....

I for one am all for being patient and giving them the opportunity to get to know who I am and how ID as.

I agree with everything else that was said too!!

Thank you once again Medusa!~