Butch/Butch Theory - Page 2

evolveme · 12-01-2009, 07:43 PM

I think it's a problem of internalized homophobia. If we aren't fetishizing it (and it is squicking us out) this is likely the reason. Which is curious, because of who we are. Homophobia is so systemic that it would be over-reaching to assume we are exempt from experiencing it.

I have to share here, if I am honest, that the butch/butch dynamic was something I spent real work getting to be okay with (a previous partner was equally enamored of butches as with femmes). This bothered me. I had to think about why. I had to explore it and work it out.

Eventually, my baseline beliefs were able to overthrow my reflexive ones. I want for all of us to experience not just equality around whom we naturally love, but a sense of celebration.

And that's where I am today.

deathbypoem · 12-03-2009, 03:17 PM

Many MANY thanks to you grrls/guys that have shed some light on this bois mad rant

I appreciate the support and the real talk here!!! I think its great to be openminded and love who it is we so desire to.

firegal · 04-22-2012, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by June

Desire is Desire. I don't see anything wrong with Butch/Butch, Femme/Femme, Femme/Bi, Poodle/Schnauzer, etc.

I hope folks will engage on this, I think it there is some (wrongful, in my opinion) shaming that goes on when someone steps outside of the "Norm" but you know...everything "we" do is kind of out of the norm according to most folks.

Poodle /schnauzer..... thats outside the box.

... thanks for the chuckle.

Quintease · 04-22-2012, 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by firegal

Poodle /schnauzer..... thats outside the box.

Actually they're cute! I prefer Poodle /maltese though.

12-01-2009, 07:43 PM	#1
evolveme Member How Do You Identify?: honeysuckle venom Preferred Pronoun?: a pistol and a sugar cane Relationship Status: I promise to aid and abet Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in between poems where ceilings are floors and joe ghost floats achromatic toward day Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 229 Thanked 735 Times in 228 Posts Rep Power: 503698	Great thread. I think it's a problem of internalized homophobia. If we aren't fetishizing it (and it is squicking us out) this is likely the reason. Which is curious, because of who we are. Homophobia is so systemic that it would be over-reaching to assume we are exempt from experiencing it. I have to share here, if I am honest, that the butch/butch dynamic was something I spent real work getting to be okay with (a previous partner was equally enamored of butches as with femmes). This bothered me. I had to think about why. I had to explore it and work it out. Eventually, my baseline beliefs were able to overthrow my reflexive ones. I want for all of us to experience not just equality around whom we naturally love, but a sense of celebration. And that's where I am today. __________________ Class, race, sexuality, gender and all other categories by which we categorize and dismiss each other need to be excavated from the inside. - Dorothy Allison

12-03-2009, 03:17 PM	#2
deathbypoem Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Poetically versed to breathe only truth and bleed certainty Preferred Pronoun?: Kane Relationship Status: Married to Chefnaction Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Finally, home Posts: 1,987 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,900 Thanked 4,733 Times in 1,583 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Many MANY thanks to you grrls/guys that have shed some light on this bois mad rant I appreciate the support and the real talk here!!! I think its great to be openminded and love who it is we so desire to. __________________ I need your grace To remind me To find my own