What attracts you to Ftms ......

SuperFemme · 08-13-2010, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by chefhmboyrd

i have been told by several women that the pheromones play a big part in the attraction......
one in particular said she actually got a little woozy when i first started coming around, and she couldn't quite put her finger on it......

i think it has a lot to do with the personality, confidence, and attitude.
just because someone is attracted to one FTM, doesn't mean that they like all FTMs
conversely, one can be attracted to femmes and stumble upon an FTM or Butch that "does it" for them.

i am just glad to have admirers, being a leo and all, it warms the little cockles of my heart.................

i still think it's all the cutesy puppies and animals you post that lure in unsuspecting femmes with a penchant for cute. <3

however...thanks to you i am again in trouble with my beloved. i may have said "suck my cockles" to him this morning. he's not laughing.

dixie · 08-13-2010, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by SuperFemme

i still think it's all the cutesy puppies and animals you post that lure in unsuspecting femmes with a penchant for cute. <3

however...thanks to you i am again in trouble with my beloved. i may have said "suck my cockles" to him this morning. he's not laughing.

So glad cutesy puppies don't lure me in. However, big bad wolves get me every time...

"suck my cockles"...i now have a new favorite phrase thanks to you... i *heart* you...

dixie · 08-13-2010, 11:02 AM

As for me personally, I can't really say that there is a specific thing that attracts me to ftms. It is the same thing that attracts me to male ID butches, female ID butches, femmes, etc. It is the essence of the true persons themselves and not contingent on a label or ID or gender basis. My connection to a person on intellectual, emotional and intimate levels is what matters to me...

Kent · 06-12-2012, 10:22 AM

Just a little bump...

Quintease · 06-12-2012, 11:42 AM

Crazy! There is some really fantastic stuff in this thread and some really offensive stuff.

< -- married to a transguy and no I don't feel the need to date bio men in order to validate his gender. He's big and smart enough to do that himself.

aishah · 06-12-2012, 02:44 PM

passionately in love with a transguy who identifies as straight in some ways and queer in others. and also identifies as butch.

i see my partner as male and i relate to him that way. when i look at him i don't think "female" at all. he does have a strong queer butch energy that i love...and he's comfortable identifying as butch. when we got together he was still at the beginning of his transition and he's still figuring out a lot of things himself. i think if he'd identified as straight to the point that i felt like he also expected me to id as straight or something it may not have worked...but he also has strong ties to the queer community, and he was attracted to me in large part because i'm a queer femme. he doesn't expect me to be any different than that. for me...it's never been a challenge to see him as a man. i cannot wrap my head around how people constantly misgender him. because when i look at him, i see a man. our relationship dynamics and our sex are queer and we like it that way. partly because he is a stone butch and i am a stone femme, our relationship does feel and look different than relationships i've had with cismen. but that doesn't change the fact that i relate to him as a man. one thing that attracted me to him, besides the physical and the fact that he is a hot butch (who is also intelligent, caring, fun to be around, considerate, etc.), is that he affirmed my identity and loved me for who i am (as a queer stone femme). he does not think he is very physically attractive, but i disagree wholeheartedly. he makes me melt. and i'm lucky.

i'm attracted to people of any gender. i tend to be especially attracted to people who id as butch (whether female, ftm, mtf, or other). but i'm also attracted to mtfs, people who identify as other genders, femmes, straight cisguys, etc.

Quintease · 06-13-2012, 04:18 AM

My hubbie's straight and 100% looks, sounds and smells a man. We had a few problems in the beginning. He resented me continuing to ID as a lesbian, while the heterosexuals in his life insisted I should call myself bisexual or straight in order to validate his gender *rolls eyes*

It was only when I pointed out how misogynistic that was, being expected to 'change' my sexual orientation in order to please my man, (it's not like changing your name or style of dress, but an integral part of me that I was born with), then he realised how ridiculous that was. A transguy is like everyone else, if he needs to change his partner in order to be happy, then he has problems and will probably never be happy.

06-12-2012, 10:22 AM	#4
Kent Member How Do You Identify?: Male Relationship Status: Single Tournaments Won: 2 Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: TX Posts: 1,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,564 Thanked 2,058 Times in 720 Posts Rep Power: 19241326	Just a little bump... __________________ Kent

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Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	Crazy! There is some really fantastic stuff in this thread and some really offensive stuff. < -- married to a transguy and no I don't feel the need to date bio men in order to validate his gender. He's big and smart enough to do that himself. __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

06-13-2012, 04:18 AM	#7
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	My hubbie's straight and 100% looks, sounds and smells a man. We had a few problems in the beginning. He resented me continuing to ID as a lesbian, while the heterosexuals in his life insisted I should call myself bisexual or straight in order to validate his gender rolls eyes It was only when I pointed out how misogynistic that was, being expected to 'change' my sexual orientation in order to please my man, (it's not like changing your name or style of dress, but an integral part of me that I was born with), then he realised how ridiculous that was. A transguy is like everyone else, if he needs to change his partner in order to be happy, then he has problems and will probably never be happy. __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

08-13-2010, 11:02 AM	#3
dixie Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: I usually just poke it with a stick. Preferred Pronoun?: Bitch Relationship Status: Intertwined deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: We're all a little mad here. Posts: 6,627 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,972 Thanked 21,383 Times in 4,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	As for me personally, I can't really say that there is a specific thing that attracts me to ftms. It is the same thing that attracts me to male ID butches, female ID butches, femmes, etc. It is the essence of the true persons themselves and not contingent on a label or ID or gender basis. My connection to a person on intellectual, emotional and intimate levels is what matters to me...

06-12-2012, 02:44 PM	#6
aishah Member How Do You Identify?: queer stone femme shark baby girl Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, little one Relationship Status: dating myself. Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: dallas, tx Posts: 1,495 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,823 Thanked 6,440 Times in 1,288 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	passionately in love with a transguy who identifies as straight in some ways and queer in others. and also identifies as butch. i see my partner as male and i relate to him that way. when i look at him i don't think "female" at all. he does have a strong queer butch energy that i love...and he's comfortable identifying as butch. when we got together he was still at the beginning of his transition and he's still figuring out a lot of things himself. i think if he'd identified as straight to the point that i felt like he also expected me to id as straight or something it may not have worked...but he also has strong ties to the queer community, and he was attracted to me in large part because i'm a queer femme. he doesn't expect me to be any different than that. for me...it's never been a challenge to see him as a man. i cannot wrap my head around how people constantly misgender him. because when i look at him, i see a man. our relationship dynamics and our sex are queer and we like it that way. partly because he is a stone butch and i am a stone femme, our relationship does feel and look different than relationships i've had with cismen. but that doesn't change the fact that i relate to him as a man. one thing that attracted me to him, besides the physical and the fact that he is a hot butch (who is also intelligent, caring, fun to be around, considerate, etc.), is that he affirmed my identity and loved me for who i am (as a queer stone femme). he does not think he is very physically attractive, but i disagree wholeheartedly. he makes me melt. and i'm lucky. i'm attracted to people of any gender. i tend to be especially attracted to people who id as butch (whether female, ftm, mtf, or other). but i'm also attracted to mtfs, people who identify as other genders, femmes, straight cisguys, etc.