Breaking it down - describe the Femme that you are

[girl_dee]

I'm many different femmes!

Sometimes I am feisty and have quiet an edge

Sometimes I am a tomboy gutting a fish in cutoffs and tank tops

Sometimes I am a girl, in a pretty frock, waiting for Daddy to get home

Sometimes I am submissive, and restrained to Sir's bed

Sometimes I am a hard worker and get the job done

Sometimes I am a writer, a photographer, an artist and a deep thinker.

Mostly I am just me.

[JinxdGirl]

I am the femme that was told I wasn't.
I am tomboy and girlieboi.
I rarely wear make up or perfume.
I shower before chatting with my crush, to make sure I am feeling pretty.
I have an amazingly sexy voice.
I don't believe I'm beautiful, but I'd like to.
I'm not a "what you see is what you get" girl.
I'm a grown ass woman.
I'm a little girl.
I am tougher than most.
I am strong physically, emotionally and spiritually.
I am a survivor of life.
I am a middle school drop out with a Good Enough Diploma.
I struggle, daily, to love myself.
I am loved, cherished, respected, praised.
I am the devil's advocate.
I am a provider.
I am a co-parent.
I am protective, intimidating, fierce.
I am painfully shy in person.
I am flirtatious without trying to be.
I have been broken, dropped, forgotten.
I am putting myself back together, remembering my truth.
I am my own worst enemy.
I am partially deaf.
I am a home chef, a nurturer, a baker, a babysitter, a friend.
I am disowned.
I am fighting the good fight.
I am healing, changing, evolving.
I am and always will be fat.
I enjoy being a fat chick, even though I am working to be a less fat chick.
I am healthy.
I am bipolar.
I am every woman you've never known.
I am becoming my own friend.
I am FEMME by my own damned standards!

[Lynn]

I am a lesbian femme, in awe of the strength, beauty, and depth of all women. I am a feminist femme, claiming the power of who I am, and supporting the rights of women and men. I am an older femme, finally coming into my own. I am a bedroom femme, loving the dynamics of the butch-femme mystery.

[FeminineAllure]

By describing the woman that I am emerges the femme that I am.
Breaking it down-
I am full of dichotomies.
I am so comfortable being a woman. I am soft with some rough edges. Feminine yet love to wear sweatpants, slippers and *her* shirt over my choices of many dresses, skirts and heels that fill my closets. I will wear just her shirt while wearing lipstick of crimson red and my best perfume. My nails will be done and my feet will be soft with my toes polished. Then again I may wear a beautiful flowing skirt with no make up on in my bare feet to an afternoon picnic. What I wear does not define who I am. I define who I am.
I have an open mind and I am trisexual. I will try almost anything at least once. I like pain at times. I like letting my inner little girl out at times. I like being submissive. Don't judge me and I will not judge you.
I raised myself well. I came from a dysfunctional family yet I turned out pretty functional. I am compassionate, kind, thoughtful, creative, empathetic. I value not someones degree, but what they have learned from life itself. How many hours someone has spent in a classroom has never impressed me but I admire their ambition. I must have consistancy in my life.
I will show you my friends and you will see me. I have many aquaintences but very few close friends. They are my friends for life.
I love animals but especially cats. They are the children I could never have. Not having children has never defined me as a woman. My cats have taught me responsibility, gentleness, patience...Patience is one of my weaknesses. I don't like to wait for things. I am spontaneous!
I mean what I say and put great value on other peoples words as well.
I am spiritual but not religious.
I am a larger woman. But I love pretty clothes. I asked at a VS store employee why their PINK collection does not go past a size L? I told them to e mail me when it did. It was Christmas time in a long line and you could just feel the smiles from the customers and the sales womans face was priceless. I do speak up for myself and others quite often.
I am learning to love the body I am in. I take many medications that put weight on. So I will never be a petite woman again. Acceptance of myself as living, loving, being who I am without any appologies...That is one of my biggest lessons I am learning as a woman. I am the best femme that I can be. And I only look forward to getting better as I age.
I almost forgot to add...Butches make me weak in the knees and they compliment the femme that I am so well.

[CherylNYC]

OK. I'll take my turn.

I'm a kick-ass, self sufficient and resourceful, strong in every way, fierce and fiercely loyal, hippie lesbian feminist, pagan biker-dyke femme.

I'm a sexually submissive, masochist leatherdyke, stonefemme bottom femme.

I'm a work clothes that stand up by themselves because they are covered in dimensional gak that would disgust a homeless person femme.

I'm a play clothes that monopolize ALL your attention, and heels so high that only drag queens and I can wear them femme. I can run in them, too.

I'm a please buy me power tools for my birthday femme. My sculpture studio is packed to the rafters with tools and projects, so perhaps I don't really need more power tools, but I'll think you're super cool if you bring me a useful tool that I don't yet own.

I'm a too shy to make the first move femme. I want to be courted. Some day my prince will come, but I will not be happy if said prince assumes that she will be paying for dinner.

I'm a femme with a backyard full of motorcycles which I ride and repair. I wear make-up sometimes, but no nail polish unless my nails are irretrievably filthy. Deep red hides best, but metallic blue matches my best bike.

I'm a DO NOT cross me femme, and a DO NOT EVEN THINK about hurting my friends if you want to live femme.

I'm an urban and urbane NYC femme. I listen to obscure and difficult music, go out to exquisite NYC performances and have erudite conversations with overeducated friends.

I garden naked and swear at the raccoons that dug up my blueberry bush and continue to threaten my cats that I will turn them into hats just as soon as I get my hands on them. Deer and Canada geese look like dinner to me. Hell, if I'm hungry enough even a well fed squirrel looks like dinner to this urban barbarian femme.

I'm a feline femme who purrs, plays and cuddles like a kitten, and fights the good fight like a pride of lions, after which I want nothing more than to fall to my knees in front of a big, strong, butch top.

There are many facets to my femme-ness, indeed. Even I can't command enough words to adequately describe them all.

[Isadora]

I am a complex being. I am healing and healer. I am Momma and lover. I am fierce and bossy. I am tender and malleable. I have sheer skin, easily hurt and deep wounds that will never heal. I miss people deeply. I do not miss people at all. I am in love and in loved back. I am not simply who I love but I am also deeply who I love. I am strong with an amazing heart. I am strong enough to give it away again. I am dichotomy and harmony. I am contradiction and congruence. I am fully human and simply femme.

[Spoon]

I'm a girlie geek in silly knee socks, black cats eye glasses, and Chucks. I'm also the curvy girl with killer cleavage and cute undies.

I like my door opened for me, whether we're dressed up or not.

I wear my hair short & textured because it's baby-fine, but I'll take twenty minutes to make sure it's tousled properly.

I wear the make-up, the heels, and carry the purse; no exceptions.

I know the different between lip stick, gloss, and stain. And I have them all.

I'm your knock-out candle lit dinner date and your running partner.

I'm sweet, funny, caring, and giving. I'm also the first one to have your back if you need it.

I have class, poise, and great manners. And I watch 'Tosh.O.'

I'm well versed in both beer AND wine. And I can cook.

I'm terrified of bugs & spiders. Like, wide-eyed terrified. And I can't fix a damn thing. But I can knit and crochet and repair the rips in your clothes.

I'm proud of and pleased with my femininity, even if it's not always on display, and no one makes me feel more feminine than a strong butch.

[skeeter_01]

Originally Posted by Spoon

I'm a girlie geek in silly knee socks, black cats eye glasses, and Chucks. I'm also the curvy girl with killer cleavage and cute undies.

I like my door opened for me, whether we're dressed up or not.

I wear my hair short & textured because it's baby-fine, but I'll take twenty minutes to make sure it's tousled properly.

I wear the make-up, the heels, and carry the purse; no exceptions.

I know the different between lip stick, gloss, and stain. And I have them all.

I'm your knock-out candle lit dinner date and your running partner.

I'm sweet, funny, caring, and giving. I'm also the first one to have your back if you need it.

I have class, poise, and great manners. And I watch 'Tosh.O.'

I'm well versed in both beer AND wine. And I can cook.

I'm terrified of bugs & spiders. Like, wide-eyed terrified. And I can't fix a damn thing. But I can knit and crochet and repair the rips in your clothes.

I'm proud of and pleased with my femininity, even if it's not always on display, and no one makes me feel more feminine than a strong butch.

*THUD*...

[riotfemme]

I am a mouthy, lefty, flirty, geeky, punky, crafty Queer Femme. My feminism is central to who I am and how I define myself. I believe passionately in sisterhood, in respecting my Femme sisters and listening to their voices and their stories.

I'm tattooed, pierced and always outrageously brightly dressed. I love vintage, 50s clothes, puffy skirts and teensy cardigans, mary-jane shoes and brightly coloured tights, liquid eyeliner and red lips. Red defines me, red lips, red nails, red hair. I walk with a wiggle, even in Birkenstocks (which I often wear because my tootsies like them) but I seldom totter.

I'm vegan, I bake, wearing floral aprons, face generally smeared with cake batter, glasses dusted with flour. Baking is an escape, it gives me time to meditate and create. Needless to say, as a result of all this baking, I am delightfully chubby.

I'm a babygrrrl, a bottom, not quite submissive but somewhere on that spectrum. I love my Daddi and feel so safe when she holds me. It's a connection, a relationship that I can't quite explain, so much of it is absolutely innate. I am often little, I feel safe to be that way with her. Being little with her helps me to be as big and as strong as I need to be to walk through the streets as a Femme, feeling at once invisible to the people I want to see me and visible to those that I don't wiggle and strut for...I should add at this juncture that I wiggle and strut for myself first

I was and am still a riot grrrl. My feminism and sense of myself as a Femme didn't start there but both were informed by and evolved through that movement. To this day shouty, feminist punk fires me up and I firmly believe that no outfit is complete without a feminist badge.

I'm a Femme.

[LipstickLola]

I am woman, hear me roar! (dates me, for sure )
I am daughter, sister, cousin, aunt, mother, grandmother
I am tough as nails, can get you through anything
I am soft, emotive, compassionate, passionate
I am Scorpion
I am unique
I am witty, intelligent, grounded
I am late coming to the party
I am creative, musical, artistic
I am lover, caregiver, nurturer, teacher and friend

I can cook for a crowd
I can make a party out of nothing in a moments notice
I can make a silk purse out of pigs ear
I can haul a load of horses
I can put up 500 bales of hay
I can drive a tractor, and love doing it
I can fish, I can row
I can sew, I can mow

I wear jeans, I wear scrubs
I wear boots, I wear clogs
I wear chap stick, I wear lipstick
I wear matching underwear on special occasions
I wear a long skirt with cowboy boots if necessary, (fun things can hide under said skirt)
I have good teeth, good skin
I have brown eyes, brown hair with wisps of gray
I have lines around my eyes from laughing lots, from life
I will always smell good

I am low maintenance
I am laid back and slow to anger
I am slow to anger, but can simmer, and will ignite
I laugh out loud
I cry at parades
I will wipe your tears
I will hold your hand
I will follow your lead

I have a thing for sharpies, white shirts, and funky socks
I have a key holder size WD-40 with a sharpie
I have a screwdriver, tire gage, bag of mints, and potpourri in the door of my truck

I love old things, especially barns, books, leather, black and white photographs

I love my family, I love women, I love my animals, I love my girly truck

I love that I don't really fit a single label

I am just me

Lola

[MissPriss]

I am my grandmothers look-alike, spending each day trying to be half the woman she was.

I am strong willed and at times hot-tempered. I am high-strung, yet laid back. Music surrounds me and I use it as a therapy for what is going on at the moment, what has happened in the past and what may happen in the future.

I am smart but very few know it. I listen alot and say very little.

I can be the girl you would take home to momma but at the same time the girl that would make your mother question your judgement.

I have a big heart but the wall around it is hard to break through.

I am funny, sarcastic, ditzy, head strong, sweet, critical and times dont play well with others.

I am confident in many things : doing my job well, my womanly ways, changing my own oil, working in the kitchen, my ability to love and realizing that there are things I am not confident about: doing another job as well ( I could never sit behind a desk), my womanly ways, changing my oil (at times I screw up and get it all over me), working in the kitchen ( Ihave burned a casserole or three) but some things remain the same.

I am jeans or sweats and a hoodie in the winter. I am a tank, shorts and flip flops all summer long. I am a short red dress and 5 inch heels when the time is right. I am a ponytail or my hair falling straight down over my shoulders, which ever strikes me at the moment. I am " Maybe shes beautiful, maybe its Maybeline" neutral tones, light lipstick (never pink or red), black mascara, charcoal liner.

I am AWARE...aware of the things I am and aware of the things Im not.

I am a woman, a little girl, a femme, a tomboy, a sweetheart, a total bitch......BUT I am GREAT at being all of them.

[Beloved]

I am FEMME

I am fiercely loyal and will love you with all that I am. I crave emotional intensity and this can lead me into relationships with people that aren't really good for me. I am very forgiving but if you hurt me over and over my love will dry up and my soul will pull away.

I have been a girly girl since birth. As a toddler I refused to wear pants. I can fall in love several times a day with a child, a cat, a phrase, a song. I love shopping, sparkly things, babies, and animals. I am compassionate. I save turtles, lizards and snakes from the road. I even save caterpillars and bugs on the sidewalk.

I have been through hell and back and have put the hours in in therapy to heal myself. I was diagnosed with PTSD after being kidnapped and held against my will at 18 years old. Please don't ask me about it because I only talk about it with people I am close to. As bad as it was I wouldn't change it because it made me who I am today. I am a survivor and I am stronger because of it.

I am strong, independent, opinionated, and take care of myself. That doesn't mean I don't like being taken care of at times. I am powerful but I will give up that power in the bedroom to a butch that is worthy and I feel safe with. I am affectionate and kinky and I love sex. Good sex is built on trust and trust is very sexy. It gives you the ability to let go and enjoy the ride.

I am a mother and I love my daughter more than anything in the world. Don't fuck with my kid because you will lose.

I am a work in progress. I am always trying to improve myself. I am not perfect but I am me and I am femme.

[~ocean]

one word to describe who i am.. a "keeper"

[Ginger]

Originally Posted by Beloved

Good sex is built on trust and trust is very sexy. It gives you the ability to let go and enjoy the ride.

I so agree with you about trust!
Scout

[Amber2010]

I am a femme who is independent.. I handle a very stressful job and many people… I travel a lot for it and do a lot of multi-tasking.
I handle most things in my life and deal with things as they come because that is expected of me.…
That being said…
At home in the bedroom….
I am a femme who wants to curl up with my lover and be held caressed and loved….
I want all the power given to hym and want to feel the way I can’t outside of that room… The rest of the world is to go away and this is the only place I want to be in…
I love to listen to the voice feeling the breath on my neck, strong arms holding me close and feel myself falling in love all over again…
I guess I want what I can’t have outside for all of the hard work and stress that goes with the day to day tasks….

[kissinfemme]

To all my femme sisters: I love you, you ROCK & I'm proud to be counted among you, thank you for sharing all that you are!

To me my femme self is mulit-faceted, mulit-dimensional, fascinating, ever evolving, quite simply rockin' awesome & unique to me.

I've been victimized but I am not a fucking victim, I am not only a survivor I am a WARRIOR. My heart has been broken into a thousand pieces, multiple times yet here I stand before you, naked & bruised, ready & willingly to offer it up once again.

I am FIERCE, flawed, sensitive, have trust issues, can & will love you with amazing consequences, not sure I believe in a "soul mate", easily bored, must be challenged & stimulated (intellectually & otherwise). I am the voice of others who have none, I will stand up & fight, I have your back, accept you unconditionally in all your beautiful imperfection. I am a leader, not a follower. I have anxiety issues. I am a work-aholic, I adore lazy days in bed. I desire, I love the old, the vintage, the antique, the story of it all. I have a restless spirit. I'm a beautiful soul, your parents will love me, your friends will like me, you will crave me. I can talk to anybody, fit in anywhere, but am extremely selective in who I allow in my life. I'm competitive, ambitious, kind, supportive & genuine. I'm shy, bold & unafraid to speak my mind but will do so with all the gentleness you deserve. Defintely in need of being "handled" at times. Often underestimated. Bring the sunshine, make me laugh every day & I'm yours.

I am soft, territorial, selfish, warm, giving, hot sex-kitten, Betty Crocker, Suzy Homemaker, cheerleader, craver & worshiper of all your butchness, lover, loving, nurturing, whore, adventurous, homebody, tattooed, submissive bottom, strong minded/willed, extremely independent, but I need & crave stability/security. I want to be taken care of yet I will fight it kicking & screaming but I will "let" you, you can't tell me what to do but I want/need to please you. I am a one woman type of girl, I give as good as I get or better. I hate shoe shopping. I have a purse to go with every imaginable outfit. I wear make-up, every day. I prefer action flicks over chick flicks, I cry easily. I am wicked smart with an equally wicked sense of humor. I will give my all, until I can't. Keep up.

I am not only a woman, I am FEMME & oh so much more than that.

[Sarafemme]

I am a new femme and an old-soul femme. What I mean by this is that, a mere few months ago, I finally embraced the only gender identity that has ever felt true to me: Femme.

I recently came out to myself. Right now I'm calling myself a 'bisexual femme,' but my primary emotional and physical attraction has always been to women, though I have not yet had a sexual experience with a woman. I was too frightened by the notion that I could be bi or lesbian (I first admitted this possibility to myself over 10 years ago, while in college, after many, many unrequited crushes). Instead, I stuffed those feelings down and figured I just hadn't met the right man.

Finally, I did meet a man, and was swept off of my feet in a whirlwind courtship. Yet, the entire time, a part of me felt like I was acting a role. I have been married, mostly unhappily, going on seven years. We are in counseling; we are struggling; I am both in mourning for my lost (seemingly straight) self, for not being able to fulfill his needs, and also scared and elated at finally finding out what feels gloriously 'right', at last.

By 'old-soul femme,' I mean to say that I have always known this about myself, instinctively, but was in extreme denial for most of my life. My battles have been internal: Warring with myself for what is expected of me as a feminine-acting-and-appearing woman and all the while feeling horribly deficient in that reality in some deep way that I couldn't (or wouldn't) define.

I just joined this forum tonight. I am staying up late, obsessively reading and learning. You are all incredibly interesting and I really hope to make some friends on this forum. Even though I have only recently accepted my feelings for women generally and my identity as 'femme' specifically, I hope to keep engaging and learning on from all of you.

[Mtn]

Originally Posted by sassy_girl

I'm many different femmes!

Sometimes I am feisty and have quiet an edge

Sometimes I am a tomboy gutting a fish in cutoffs and tank tops

Sometimes I am a girl, in a pretty frock, waiting for Daddy to get home

Sometimes I am submissive, and restrained to Sir's bed

Sometimes I am a hard worker and get the job done

Sometimes I am a writer, a photographer, an artist and a deep thinker.

Mostly I am just me.

and you are PERFECT