Breaking it down - describe the Femme that you are

[Isadora]

I am a complex being. I am healing and healer. I am Momma and lover. I am fierce and bossy. I am tender and malleable. I have sheer skin, easily hurt and deep wounds that will never heal. I miss people deeply. I do not miss people at all. I am in love and in loved back. I am not simply who I love but I am also deeply who I love. I am strong with an amazing heart. I am strong enough to give it away again. I am dichotomy and harmony. I am contradiction and congruence. I am fully human and simply femme.

[Spoon]

I'm a girlie geek in silly knee socks, black cats eye glasses, and Chucks. I'm also the curvy girl with killer cleavage and cute undies.

I like my door opened for me, whether we're dressed up or not.

I wear my hair short & textured because it's baby-fine, but I'll take twenty minutes to make sure it's tousled properly.

I wear the make-up, the heels, and carry the purse; no exceptions.

I know the different between lip stick, gloss, and stain. And I have them all.

I'm your knock-out candle lit dinner date and your running partner.

I'm sweet, funny, caring, and giving. I'm also the first one to have your back if you need it.

I have class, poise, and great manners. And I watch 'Tosh.O.'

I'm well versed in both beer AND wine. And I can cook.

I'm terrified of bugs & spiders. Like, wide-eyed terrified. And I can't fix a damn thing. But I can knit and crochet and repair the rips in your clothes.

I'm proud of and pleased with my femininity, even if it's not always on display, and no one makes me feel more feminine than a strong butch.

[skeeter_01]

Originally Posted by Spoon

I'm a girlie geek in silly knee socks, black cats eye glasses, and Chucks. I'm also the curvy girl with killer cleavage and cute undies.

I like my door opened for me, whether we're dressed up or not.

I wear my hair short & textured because it's baby-fine, but I'll take twenty minutes to make sure it's tousled properly.

I wear the make-up, the heels, and carry the purse; no exceptions.

I know the different between lip stick, gloss, and stain. And I have them all.

I'm your knock-out candle lit dinner date and your running partner.

I'm sweet, funny, caring, and giving. I'm also the first one to have your back if you need it.

I have class, poise, and great manners. And I watch 'Tosh.O.'

I'm well versed in both beer AND wine. And I can cook.

I'm terrified of bugs & spiders. Like, wide-eyed terrified. And I can't fix a damn thing. But I can knit and crochet and repair the rips in your clothes.

I'm proud of and pleased with my femininity, even if it's not always on display, and no one makes me feel more feminine than a strong butch.

*THUD*...

[femmebotdyke]

This is difficult but I'm so impressed by everyone else's posts that I want to attempt at least a provisional kind of self-description. It's a femme's prerogative to change her mind so here we go...


I'm a ''fat'' feminist, femme dyke. I'm not into re-rehearsing old scripts or shoehorning myself into pre-determined roles but neither am I under the illusion of being able to completely transcend them. Nor am I prepared to deny their continued erotic and socio-political valence- in my life and in the lives of others. No one has the privilege of only ever having to answer to their own name so I take the names that I have been given, imperfect instruments as they are, and use their imperfections against them and those who would wield them.
In a culture in which femininity (and masculinity) are constant and uncertain achievements I am a more or less unproblematically feminine dyke who loves butches and transmasculine people.
I am the kind of femme who's charm arsenal is much more formidable and explosive than she could ever imagine. Who doubts herself and usually rationalizes it away when she senses she's being cruised.
I am a compulsive and obsessive reader of books (self-confessed bibliophile here) but also of bodies and mind. I'm the kind of femme others use as a mouth-piece for or decoder of their own unexpressible emotions. I am a femme who feels (and who is sometimes afraid of the force of her emotions), who listens. Words come easily to me.
If I worship at the feet of any goddess it's Doubt. I'm a femme who is constantly learning, interrogating my own assumptions, forming, dissolving and reforming opinions,forever curious. I'm the kind of person who is adept at seeing all points of view but struggles to fully adopt one or tow the party line for more than five minutes. The negative face of this trait is indecisiveness...and sometimes self-loathing. I'm also skeptical.
I am a femme who values justice- but who's brand of justice is not especially punitive.
I'm the kind of femme who dislikes shopping (especially for clothes) and has little more than a cursory interest in depilation, make-up, jewellry, weight-loss diets, shoes, handbags, ''cleanses'', facials, manicures or anything that reeks of ''girly"- but who still takes an enormous amount of time and care in choosing an outfit and is the most overdressed person at any given occasion from an early morning trip to the supermarket to a night on the town.
I am a vegan femme.
I am a femme who over-intellectualizes things at times.
I am a femme who feels more comfortable in a dress or something resembling one (like a skirt or a long tunic) and likes to show rather than disguise the sillohuette of her hips, the shape of her breast, her thighs...
I am a physically strong femme who does most of the heavy lifting, who's not phased by spiders, snakes or other creepy crawlies or getting dirty...most of the time.
I am a foodie femme who loves to feed and cook and look after other people.
I am a near technical (and technological) illiterate- home handiwork or basic motor mechanics are not my forte.
I'm a femme who appreciates a dry wit and tends towards having a more sardonic, black sense of humour.
I'm a sensitive, introverted femme.
I'm the kind of femme who abhors most institutions and forms of authority and regimentation-including ''organised fun'' (so don't take me on a cruise ship unless it's an exercise in observing/trying to make sense of the human condition!)
I am a femme with a dirty mind, who's mother always told her to close her legs, who's usually inappropriate for her own kicks rather than because she doesn't know the correct way to behave.
I'm a cynical femme and a self-deprecating femme and a disorganized femme.
I am femme who needs her own space.
I am a greedy femme.
I am an even-tempered, calm, competent femme who often feels out of control.
I am a thinking butch's femme.
I am all of these things and yet still haven't exhuasted description...

[riotfemme]

I am a mouthy, lefty, flirty, geeky, punky, crafty Queer Femme. My feminism is central to who I am and how I define myself. I believe passionately in sisterhood, in respecting my Femme sisters and listening to their voices and their stories.

I'm tattooed, pierced and always outrageously brightly dressed. I love vintage, 50s clothes, puffy skirts and teensy cardigans, mary-jane shoes and brightly coloured tights, liquid eyeliner and red lips. Red defines me, red lips, red nails, red hair. I walk with a wiggle, even in Birkenstocks (which I often wear because my tootsies like them) but I seldom totter.

I'm vegan, I bake, wearing floral aprons, face generally smeared with cake batter, glasses dusted with flour. Baking is an escape, it gives me time to meditate and create. Needless to say, as a result of all this baking, I am delightfully chubby.

I'm a babygrrrl, a bottom, not quite submissive but somewhere on that spectrum. I love my Daddi and feel so safe when she holds me. It's a connection, a relationship that I can't quite explain, so much of it is absolutely innate. I am often little, I feel safe to be that way with her. Being little with her helps me to be as big and as strong as I need to be to walk through the streets as a Femme, feeling at once invisible to the people I want to see me and visible to those that I don't wiggle and strut for...I should add at this juncture that I wiggle and strut for myself first

I was and am still a riot grrrl. My feminism and sense of myself as a Femme didn't start there but both were informed by and evolved through that movement. To this day shouty, feminist punk fires me up and I firmly believe that no outfit is complete without a feminist badge.

I'm a Femme.

[LipstickLola]

I am woman, hear me roar! (dates me, for sure )
I am daughter, sister, cousin, aunt, mother, grandmother
I am tough as nails, can get you through anything
I am soft, emotive, compassionate, passionate
I am Scorpion
I am unique
I am witty, intelligent, grounded
I am late coming to the party
I am creative, musical, artistic
I am lover, caregiver, nurturer, teacher and friend

I can cook for a crowd
I can make a party out of nothing in a moments notice
I can make a silk purse out of pigs ear
I can haul a load of horses
I can put up 500 bales of hay
I can drive a tractor, and love doing it
I can fish, I can row
I can sew, I can mow

I wear jeans, I wear scrubs
I wear boots, I wear clogs
I wear chap stick, I wear lipstick
I wear matching underwear on special occasions
I wear a long skirt with cowboy boots if necessary, (fun things can hide under said skirt)
I have good teeth, good skin
I have brown eyes, brown hair with wisps of gray
I have lines around my eyes from laughing lots, from life
I will always smell good

I am low maintenance
I am laid back and slow to anger
I am slow to anger, but can simmer, and will ignite
I laugh out loud
I cry at parades
I will wipe your tears
I will hold your hand
I will follow your lead

I have a thing for sharpies, white shirts, and funky socks
I have a key holder size WD-40 with a sharpie
I have a screwdriver, tire gage, bag of mints, and potpourri in the door of my truck

I love old things, especially barns, books, leather, black and white photographs

I love my family, I love women, I love my animals, I love my girly truck

I love that I don't really fit a single label

I am just me

Lola

[little_ms_sunshyne]

I am a passionate, lustful, jealous, Latina

I was born in Mexico, speak fluent Spanish, and am in love with my culture.

I love the arts, reading, writing, and admiring beautiful architecture.

I am terribly clumsy but what I lack in common sense I make up for

I am a girly girl that isn't afraid to get her hands dirty and is obsessed over the way I smell!

I like wearing sexy lingerie even when no one is around because it makes me feel sexy! Every now and then I will even dance in front of the mirror...

I am 100% independent!!!

I love the idea of being lustfully in love!

Music is my first love and sometimes dictates my emotions!

My favorite word is Serendipity

[Pixie]

I am a sassy flirt. I like to whisper sweet nothings and I like to talk shit. I am caring and always want to take care of those in my life, but when used and abused I will leave.

I love wearing skirts and showing cleavage. I adore the 50's era, classy and subtle, self sufficient caretaker. And just because I like to dress up and wear makeup does not mean I won't crawl under the car or in the bed of the truck to get something done. I love being clean as much as I like being dirty.

I am giddy and giggly, but I have depth. You will rarely catch me with out a smile on my face or sitting still do nothing. I am not like everyone else.

I love being creative in the simplest of ways. I over analyze and under emphasize.

I am pixie.

[katsarecool]

I love this thread! That being said:

I am an Old School Femme who had Joan Nestle as my role model and mentor; I "knew" her long before I recognized that I was a lesbian.

I bleed and hurt when others bleed and hurt. I am always ever ready with "bandaids" but recognize when to back off too.

I feel that when everyone in this country is truly equal it will finally be a true democracy but until then it is a country where the "haves" hold power and control over the "have nots" and I will continue to do everything I can to level the playing fields.

I am strong, very opinionated, independent but yet I love to be held, protected and made to feel safe and loved by my lover.

I learned a long time ago when and how to pick my battles; when hackles rise sometimes it is ok to stay out of the fray. I also learned that to be a good person, mother, friend that I must take care of me first. I have learned to think more logical than emotional with knee jerk strong reactions. It is healthier this way.

While I enjoy being at home; doing projects around the house, using the occaisional power tool when needed, gardening, reading, hanging out with my furr babies I still get excited at the prospect of getting ready to go out and enjoy the process of making myself look stunning.

I also learned it is very possible to have fun without alcohol. I am a little shy and love to dance. Years ago, I had to get pumped up with a little vino or mixed coctail in order to be the first one out there on the dance floor. Not anymore though.

I do not like being told what to do, what to buy and how to live my life. I would perfer if someone used pull words rather than the push style all too prevelant. I can be pulled along well as long as there is logic and honesty behind those words. But when pushed my back gets up and the ole rebellious me surfaces.

I admit I am a clothes hoarder. I love golf shirts and Levis as much as I love something frilly and ultra feminine. I hoard shoes as well and once owned 75 pair of shoes mostly high heels in every color under the rainbow. And I love make up. I used to wear it every day, but when I "retired" I soon tired of it and now use it on special occaisions.

If I could help every child, animal, adult person in the world who is/has been abused and neglected I would.

As a Pisces, I am a dreamer; dream of a better life for so many people. But it is balanced with cold hard reality too.

And even after all these years; the site of a well groomed and "gentlemanly" butch can make this heart beat fast and loud!

[Tcountry]

Originally Posted by Pixie

I am a sassy flirt. I like to whisper sweet nothings and I like to talk shit. I am caring and always want to take care of those in my life, but when used and abused I will leave.

I love wearing skirts and showing cleavage. I adore the 50's era, classy and subtle, self sufficient caretaker. And just because I like to dress up and wear makeup does not mean I won't crawl under the car or in the bed of the truck to get something done. I love being clean as much as I like being dirty.

I am giddy and giggly, but I have depth. You will rarely catch me with out a smile on my face or sitting still do nothing. I am not like everyone else.

I love being creative in the simplest of ways. I over analyze and under emphasize.

I am pixie.

Don't forget...you can cook...even when distracted!

[girl_dee]

i love this thread, i was just reading back and even though my last post was a couple of years ago.. alllll the way back on page 6, i still feel the same way, only i feel i am an even stronger femme now.


i'm still just me.

[MissPriss]

I am my grandmothers look-alike, spending each day trying to be half the woman she was.

I am strong willed and at times hot-tempered. I am high-strung, yet laid back. Music surrounds me and I use it as a therapy for what is going on at the moment, what has happened in the past and what may happen in the future.

I am smart but very few know it. I listen alot and say very little.

I can be the girl you would take home to momma but at the same time the girl that would make your mother question your judgement.

I have a big heart but the wall around it is hard to break through.

I am funny, sarcastic, ditzy, head strong, sweet, critical and times dont play well with others.

I am confident in many things : doing my job well, my womanly ways, changing my own oil, working in the kitchen, my ability to love and realizing that there are things I am not confident about: doing another job as well ( I could never sit behind a desk), my womanly ways, changing my oil (at times I screw up and get it all over me), working in the kitchen ( Ihave burned a casserole or three) but some things remain the same.

I am jeans or sweats and a hoodie in the winter. I am a tank, shorts and flip flops all summer long. I am a short red dress and 5 inch heels when the time is right. I am a ponytail or my hair falling straight down over my shoulders, which ever strikes me at the moment. I am " Maybe shes beautiful, maybe its Maybeline" neutral tones, light lipstick (never pink or red), black mascara, charcoal liner.

I am AWARE...aware of the things I am and aware of the things Im not.

I am a woman, a little girl, a femme, a tomboy, a sweetheart, a total bitch......BUT I am GREAT at being all of them.

[Beloved]

I am FEMME

I am fiercely loyal and will love you with all that I am. I crave emotional intensity and this can lead me into relationships with people that aren't really good for me. I am very forgiving but if you hurt me over and over my love will dry up and my soul will pull away.

I have been a girly girl since birth. As a toddler I refused to wear pants. I can fall in love several times a day with a child, a cat, a phrase, a song. I love shopping, sparkly things, babies, and animals. I am compassionate. I save turtles, lizards and snakes from the road. I even save caterpillars and bugs on the sidewalk.

I have been through hell and back and have put the hours in in therapy to heal myself. I was diagnosed with PTSD after being kidnapped and held against my will at 18 years old. Please don't ask me about it because I only talk about it with people I am close to. As bad as it was I wouldn't change it because it made me who I am today. I am a survivor and I am stronger because of it.

I am strong, independent, opinionated, and take care of myself. That doesn't mean I don't like being taken care of at times. I am powerful but I will give up that power in the bedroom to a butch that is worthy and I feel safe with. I am affectionate and kinky and I love sex. Good sex is built on trust and trust is very sexy. It gives you the ability to let go and enjoy the ride.

I am a mother and I love my daughter more than anything in the world. Don't fuck with my kid because you will lose.

I am a work in progress. I am always trying to improve myself. I am not perfect but I am me and I am femme.

[~ocean]

one word to describe who i am.. a "keeper"

[pinkgeek]

I am a femme who reads almost anything with words, obsessed with the wordsmitthing of others. Who wears dirt smudges with mascara and leaps from tall building to save kittens, or books, or shoes, and most certainly her friends. I am not fearless or scarless or tattooless.

I am irreverent and reverent in the same breathy mouthful of sarcastic pragmatism. My heart lives under the scale of a dragon and the leaf of a plant, inside the purse of a strange lost girl and on the shelf of a kitchen that over looks the ocean.

I collect lip gloss as readily as I collect knowledge. My hair has it's own zip code and fan club. I've learned to embrace my mane the 5 letters of my plain tall name.

I love harsh climates and jagged passionate reality poured over my favorite summer wine from Italy. I infuse my gin with Earl Grey tea and my whiskey with masala spices.

I study in a tiara. I am probably an acquired taste.

[Ginger]

Originally Posted by Beloved

Good sex is built on trust and trust is very sexy. It gives you the ability to let go and enjoy the ride.

I so agree with you about trust!
Scout

[shiagirl]

I am a Chameleon
Many colors

Even my pictures don't all look like me, just versions of me.

[laruss]

First I want to say, that I read through from the beginning and was so impressed. I have a few femme crushes now.

What kind of Femme am I?

I am the feisty, flirty, don't fuck with me kind of femme.

I do what I want, when I want. I do who I want as much as possible.

I don't often wear dresses, but love the heels, even in the bedroom.

I am a jeans and t-shirt kind of femme. But I can rock a corset.

I don't wear a lot of jewelry, but I always have a pendant on. I own more Wow necklaces then anyone I know.

I love barefeet so my toes are always done. I wear sandals as soon as I can, the snow is not always even gone and will wear them until it gets too cold.

I can change my own oil or tire, but I choose not to.

I am super smart and you better be able to keep up or you won't be around long.

I love my house to be clean and esthetically pleasing, but don't expect me to clean it, that is what house keepers are for. I love to decorate and have a rocking art collection.

I am super corporate professional and bohemian artist.

At work I am super organized and at home tend to be completely scattered.

I want to know everything about you, but will forget and ask you again.

I know what I want and I'm not afraid to ask for it.

I expect people in my life to appreciate me as much I appreciate them.

I love to have the best of what I like and have no qualms about spending the money to get it.

I love to travel and experience new things. I love to live life.

I believe that what you put out gets returned and that Karma is a bitch if you are.

I am super sexy and flirty and love to talk dirty, but there is a time and a place for everything. Ok, almost all the time.

I like to be fucked and I want you to be in control in the bedroom, or hallway, or park, or wherever you take me. I like to change things up and will try almost anything. Tie me up and you get to keep me.

I get bored easily and change my mind constantly.

I have reinvented myself at least a dozen times and there are probably another dozen times to come.

People in my life need to be sharp and on their toes to keep up.

I flirt with everyone, and it better not be a problem if you're my partner.

I don't really do jealousy, I don't understand it. But if I make a commitment, know that I have the integrity to stand behind it and I expect you to as well.

I speak my mind, but am quick to apologize if I hurt you.

I will always talk straight, I don't bullshit.

I like to think I am always honest, but I tend to compartmentalize parts of my life, so absolutely no one knows everything about me. I am to you what I give you.

I have immense integrity and if pushed will do the hard thing because it is the right thing.

I am the type of Femme who lives life on my own terms and no one elses.

But when I love, I love hard.

I can be sweet, kind, compassionate and brutally honest.

I am sexy and curvy and my eyes glitter when I flirt with you.

I have crazy curly hair that always makes me look like I've just been fucked.

I am confident and fun.

I am the Femme that is all that and more.

[Amber2010]

I am a femme who is independent.. I handle a very stressful job and many people… I travel a lot for it and do a lot of multi-tasking.
I handle most things in my life and deal with things as they come because that is expected of me.…
That being said…
At home in the bedroom….
I am a femme who wants to curl up with my lover and be held caressed and loved….
I want all the power given to hym and want to feel the way I can’t outside of that room… The rest of the world is to go away and this is the only place I want to be in…
I love to listen to the voice feeling the breath on my neck, strong arms holding me close and feel myself falling in love all over again…
I guess I want what I can’t have outside for all of the hard work and stress that goes with the day to day tasks….

[kissinfemme]

To all my femme sisters: I love you, you ROCK & I'm proud to be counted among you, thank you for sharing all that you are!

To me my femme self is mulit-faceted, mulit-dimensional, fascinating, ever evolving, quite simply rockin' awesome & unique to me.

I've been victimized but I am not a fucking victim, I am not only a survivor I am a WARRIOR. My heart has been broken into a thousand pieces, multiple times yet here I stand before you, naked & bruised, ready & willingly to offer it up once again.

I am FIERCE, flawed, sensitive, have trust issues, can & will love you with amazing consequences, not sure I believe in a "soul mate", easily bored, must be challenged & stimulated (intellectually & otherwise). I am the voice of others who have none, I will stand up & fight, I have your back, accept you unconditionally in all your beautiful imperfection. I am a leader, not a follower. I have anxiety issues. I am a work-aholic, I adore lazy days in bed. I desire, I love the old, the vintage, the antique, the story of it all. I have a restless spirit. I'm a beautiful soul, your parents will love me, your friends will like me, you will crave me. I can talk to anybody, fit in anywhere, but am extremely selective in who I allow in my life. I'm competitive, ambitious, kind, supportive & genuine. I'm shy, bold & unafraid to speak my mind but will do so with all the gentleness you deserve. Defintely in need of being "handled" at times. Often underestimated. Bring the sunshine, make me laugh every day & I'm yours.

I am soft, territorial, selfish, warm, giving, hot sex-kitten, Betty Crocker, Suzy Homemaker, cheerleader, craver & worshiper of all your butchness, lover, loving, nurturing, whore, adventurous, homebody, tattooed, submissive bottom, strong minded/willed, extremely independent, but I need & crave stability/security. I want to be taken care of yet I will fight it kicking & screaming but I will "let" you, you can't tell me what to do but I want/need to please you. I am a one woman type of girl, I give as good as I get or better. I hate shoe shopping. I have a purse to go with every imaginable outfit. I wear make-up, every day. I prefer action flicks over chick flicks, I cry easily. I am wicked smart with an equally wicked sense of humor. I will give my all, until I can't. Keep up.

I am not only a woman, I am FEMME & oh so much more than that.