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I think there's lots of potentially good relationships out there for most people, and that it's mostly a matter of chance and timing as to who you end up with.
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There comes a point in your life when you realize: Who matters, Who never did, Who won't anymore... ...And who always will. So, don't worry about people from your past, there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future...
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09-20-2010, 01:48 AM
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I have met and coupled with, at two seperate and different times in this life, a set of brothers who have travelled lives with me.
I have been in love more than once. And I intensely remember loves from other lives. I do not believe in Once. I do believe in soul mates. soul mate, in my definition, is someone who impregnantes your soul and gives birth to a contination of the Infinite that we left behind when we came to this earth. They inflate who you are simply by being who they are. like the clap of a bell or the fragrance of jasmine outside your door the moment it arrives and presents itself to you, your Self responds
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and soul mates do not mean forever in regard to this life. When met upon in a life, there is work to be done.
in the course of eternity, a lifetime or two working on evolution together does not take away from love it is the very thing love is all about.... someone says there is no such thing as forever. really? no matter where I go, there I am it doesnt matter who I am with, I am forever. who I share that with is part of my life journey I change partners alot in this life. There is reason for it and difficult to explain nor should I try in public forum. I know each person brought to me more tools I needed and since the universe wastes nothing, I too, brought many things to them that they needed I can be quite the earth monkey, playing around and throwing bananas at the passerbyes but really, I work hard spiritually on this earth HARD and I am never lost for love.
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09-20-2010, 02:31 AM
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Yes.
You can have more than one. Everyone that is brought into your life is there for a reason. There is something for you to learn from them and vice versa. When that is done, things change, and you part ways. There are cases, though, that the lessons that were supposed to be learned are NOT learned, and though you've parted ways, you keep re-entering each other's lives. However, soulmates don't necessarily have to be romantic. Thus far, I've been fortunate enough to have 2. |
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Wow! Lot's of great responses here. Really enjoy reading what folks believe and why.
I think I have to agree most closely with Softness. I do believe in soulmates, as the complement to who I am. But just because they're a soulmate doesn't mean there's no work involved. Also, to me, the love with a soulmate feels different. I have loved and been in love with many people. I have only been in love to the depth that I identify as soulmate twice. Once with someone that I have been with over many lifetimes. I do not follow the beliefs, however, that soulmates are the soul seperated, or even that the soulmate completes the person. More a complement, but mostly it is a depth of feeling. But yes, I believe in them. And yes, I believe you can have more than one. Get out there and meet people, date, fall in love, and maybe if your lucky you will come across one, maybe two, that will make that unique connection. A Last edited by pajama; 09-20-2010 at 03:32 AM. Reason: they're, their, and there |
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my soul doesn't need a mate.
I prefer to think of partners as lifemates.. some come for a short time in life.. others a lifetime.. I find the term *soulmate* so overused it has no meaning. there is no right or wrong but I don't believe in mating my soul. I think some people have a *lustmate* and confuse this with *soulmate*... |
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I am a fortunate person. I learned from two people that were indeed, soulmates, my parents, that this is possible. And from a relationship of my own. Now, that doesn't mean that give and take isn't needed, or that it all is smooth all of the time. And we have to want to take this journey and nourish it.
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Yes I strongly believe that there is someone out there for everyone and maybe you just haven't met yet but I was in a six year relationship the love of my life so I had thought . But things happen for a reason and now I've been single for quite sometime and I am sure one day I will meet another who will share my life through good an or bad times.
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However, twin flames, I believe is the exact other half of your soul and when you meet that person that the two half immediately know and feel it, it goes beyond chemistry, beyond that initial "Wow they're hot!" attraction. I believe it shows itself like the world stops for a split second when you see each other or moves in slow motion. It suddenly and without explanation feels as if you have become complete, like a void has been filled. You know what the other is thinking, say what they were about to say etc. There is a balance between you that just seems to fit in all ways. So yes, I believe in *Twin Flames*
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I absolutely believe in soulmates! and I also believe that you can have more than one in your lifetime... i was with my ex for 12 years...she was the love of my life...my soul mate...she knew me better than I knew me and she loved me anyway... right now I'm single and I believe that someday I'll have that kind of love in my life again..and I won't settle for less!! and I would hope that the lovely lady in question wouldn't settle either!
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i do believe in soul mates, and also that there can/will be more than one in a lifetime.
i also believe that even if you've found a soul mate, it doesn't mean it's going to work out romantically. And....just because one of you feels that the other is a soul mate doesn't necessarily mean that the other feels the same. Others have said nothing lasts forever. i think that no romantic relationship lasts forever, but i do know that for me, my first (and so far only) soul mate started out as a friendship and tried to move to a relationship that sooooo did not work. She & i have had our ups & downs over the years...and i think (though i hope with all my heart i'm wrong) that we wont be speaking again because of a huge, huge misunderstanding... but that doesn't change the fact she is my soul mate. She always will be. Like others, i believe all relationships, whether romantic or not, no matter the length of time you interact with them...are brought to us to learn and grow. There is meaning to everything important, whether we grasp the meaning or not.
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Thanks for your thoughts and words here.. I love all the interaction around this sort of thing...i love deep thinking and it's very hard to come by! I just see this person you described above ( very nicely put and I believe we these people do exist for us) as my "lifemate", my partner, my forever (and I have found just this person so I do feel so fortunate,) but I just don't see a person as a *soul*mate..maybe it's the way the term is tossed around so easily that it really has no substance for me.. .to me this person you have described this is someone I have chosen to share my life with, but my soul is deeper than a human relationship. I've thought about this subject many times and I *think* that i feel that if my *soul*mate and I were to divorce, ( to believe this could not happen even in the best of relationships is not realistic to me) my soul would be damaged forever, that my very spirit would just curl up and die.. I just can't comprehend that. I suppose this probably makes no sense ..LOL. Maybe at the end of the road, after we have been together for 100 more years, I will look back and say yes.. This was my soulmate, but I doubt it. I want my soul independent of a partnership. My head, my heart my body is all theirs, but my soul is not coming out to pair up LOL. I just can't bring myself to allow my soul to be that vulnerable,, its my higher self.... I mean how do you know this person IS your "soulmate" until after the lifetime has passed? Maybe we all have a different opinion of what a *soul* is? And this is a great thing...I view my soul as my spirit, my mind, my I AM, it makes me who I am, and hopefully my spirit is loved and embraced by my partner ( I sure love his!) , I just feel that no matter what happens with my partner, my soul would be in tact (however deeply heartbroken ) and would continue to steer my spirit through life.. and I would hope theirs would too. In other words I guess I see a soul as a driving force that brings us to each other.. for the happily ever after. Relationships are formed and the the individuals embrace each other's spirits.. I don't see them as combined spirit/soul. . does that make any sense to anyone? LOL |
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