For anyone who has ever had a LDR

pajama · 09-24-2010, 12:03 AM

*sigh*

Yeah. I hate them, but I love my girl, so you do what you have to do.

Thanks for sharing, very nicely done.

A

Soft*Silver · 09-24-2010, 12:16 AM

there is such a bittersweetness to LDRs. I have had a few and in the courting phase, I loved them! The people were romantic, sensual, creative, and very attentive. I loved the travel, both theirs to me and me to them. I loved the never ending verbal foreplay. And the delightful ways we both found to keep us connected and to make more dimension to our romance. I loved the little gifts sent via mail, that they found for me in their real life and wanted me to have so i would know they were thinking of me and could show how well they knew me. I loved the intensity, as well as the simplicity of LDRs.

the only thing I dont like about LDRs is the inevitable..someone has to move if it is to go the next level. I have been burnt a few times badly and I cant imagine what it would take to get me to even consider, let alone actually do, moving. And the longer I am alone and the more self sufficient and safe I feel in my own PAID FOR COMPLETELY house, the less open I am to consider letting someone move in with me if they were the one to move to me.

Knowing someone in a perpetual honeymoon type relationship is not the same as dating someone who kicks off their old shoes and walks across your aging linoleum so the two of you can kick back and watch SUV reruns. You dont get to see how they suck on a straw the whole time and make aggravating noises with it. Or how they dont clean up after their cat. Or that they are organizational freaks and you are content piling all the silverware in a wicker basket and digging thru it when you need something. (this is me!)

and LDRs dont let you have body heat. Or protective arms. Or hands that handle you like you are so loved.

But they can lead to that.

Frankly I loved LDRs. Its the moving that ruined them for me...

msW8ing · 09-24-2010, 12:37 AM

Thank you so much for sharing with me. I appreciate your thoughts and opinions.

Pixie · 09-24-2010, 12:40 AM

Beautiful!

09-24-2010, 12:16 AM	#2
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,895 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	there is such a bittersweetness to LDRs. I have had a few and in the courting phase, I loved them! The people were romantic, sensual, creative, and very attentive. I loved the travel, both theirs to me and me to them. I loved the never ending verbal foreplay. And the delightful ways we both found to keep us connected and to make more dimension to our romance. I loved the little gifts sent via mail, that they found for me in their real life and wanted me to have so i would know they were thinking of me and could show how well they knew me. I loved the intensity, as well as the simplicity of LDRs. the only thing I dont like about LDRs is the inevitable..someone has to move if it is to go the next level. I have been burnt a few times badly and I cant imagine what it would take to get me to even consider, let alone actually do, moving. And the longer I am alone and the more self sufficient and safe I feel in my own PAID FOR COMPLETELY house, the less open I am to consider letting someone move in with me if they were the one to move to me. Knowing someone in a perpetual honeymoon type relationship is not the same as dating someone who kicks off their old shoes and walks across your aging linoleum so the two of you can kick back and watch SUV reruns. You dont get to see how they suck on a straw the whole time and make aggravating noises with it. Or how they dont clean up after their cat. Or that they are organizational freaks and you are content piling all the silverware in a wicker basket and digging thru it when you need something. (this is me!) and LDRs dont let you have body heat. Or protective arms. Or hands that handle you like you are so loved. But they can lead to that. Frankly I loved LDRs. Its the moving that ruined them for me... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

09-24-2010, 12:37 AM	#3
msW8ing Member How Do You Identify?: multi-faceted gem, femme, submissive babygirl if the chemistry is there. Preferred Pronoun?: lady Relationship Status: working on myself Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Lewiston, Idaho Posts: 920 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,700 Thanked 2,497 Times in 654 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Thank you so much for sharing with me. I appreciate your thoughts and opinions. __________________ *Don't judge me by my past..I don't live there anymore* A lady who knows the ropes..will never be bound. ~Mae West

09-24-2010, 12:40 AM	#4
Pixie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Equal Opportunity Friend Preferred Pronoun?: Girl Relationship Status: in service Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sacramento! Posts: 2,868 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,691 Thanked 4,103 Times in 1,332 Posts Rep Power: 15274784	Beautiful! __________________ Unexplored glimmering in the rough How does a diamond hide? -Pixie-

09-24-2010, 12:03 AM	#1
pajama Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Klingon Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Just South of Nashvegas Baby Posts: 3,115 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,546 Thanked 7,476 Times in 1,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	sigh Yeah. I hate them, but I love my girl, so you do what you have to do. Thanks for sharing, very nicely done. A