what NOT to do in a relationship.......

Jesse · 10-19-2010, 11:38 AM

DO NOT get with someone thinking you can help them "change"!

Soft*Silver · 10-19-2010, 12:42 PM

dont lay all your shit out at once in the beginning. Because then if it doesnt work out they have it all....build into it...slowly......then as you build into something, they have it all....

Jesse · 10-19-2010, 02:00 PM

The long explanation: Don't get into a relationship with the hopes it will fill something inside of you. Instead take care of your own emotional stuff, expect the other person to take care of theirs as well. Then see what each of you has to bring to the table, so to speak.

The short version: Don't agree to be a baggage handler for others!

Gemme · 10-19-2010, 02:52 PM

Don't ignore the voices that speak to you. Well, let me say that differently.

Listen to your gut and listen to the Universe, even when they are telling you something that you don't understand or you can't see. Don't ignore your gut and the Universe.

Soft*Silver · 10-19-2010, 05:13 PM

dont think you are taking my side of the bed

dont complain about my dog. She stays. You wont.

she can pee on the floor. Dont even think of it.

dont leave dishes in the LR for me to pick up

ditto for the bedroom

if you raise your voice to me you best be sitting down. If you stand up, and yell, its intimidating and I will not respond well. Fair warning.

I dont care which way you put the TP on, just put it on when it runs out on your shift

if you go into the dryer to get something out, take them all out AND FOLD THEM.

dont leave one swig of anything in the fridge and not tell me or not pick it up yourself at the store.

pet food, milk for coffee and TP are the three things this house must never run out of. And I am not the only responsible adult in this relationship. Remember this.

dont not clean the sex toys. Nasty dirty bad in a not good way

LipstickLola · 10-20-2010, 10:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gemme

Don't ignore the voices that speak to you. Well, let me say that differently.

Listen to your gut and listen to the Universe, even when they are telling you something that you don't understand or you can't see. Don't ignore your gut and the Universe.

Good Lord YESSSS, DON'T ever ever ignore your gut!! there's a reason it's where it is,,,,,,,safely tucked away with your other internal organs

sylvie · 10-22-2010, 04:55 AM

- don't say things just because you know i want/like it... be YOU.. be honest, i'm well aware everyone is different and will respect you more for honesty!

- don't push everything at high speed.. i've learned that time, and getting to know each other should be at a pace - so everything can develop because we want it to, not because we feel we have to ...

Soft*Silver · 10-22-2010, 11:44 AM

never accept someone who doesnt accept your child(ren) no matter how old they are. PERIOD.

dont accept when they say they have no money to spend on you but spend lots of money with or on their best friend. Never ever take second fiddle in a relationship and never ever listen to their long list of playing you a fool....

its not ok to be left an empty tank most or all of the time. again, being played...he isnt a big kid who can take advantage of you

its not ok to be drunk all the time to make love. Huge issues there. More than issues. Its a subscription!

its not ok to be lied to. Lies are never ok.

10-19-2010, 11:38 AM	#1
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,783 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	DO NOT get with someone thinking you can help them "change"! __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

10-19-2010, 12:42 PM	#2
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,903 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	dont lay all your shit out at once in the beginning. Because then if it doesnt work out they have it all....build into it...slowly......then as you build into something, they have it all.... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

10-19-2010, 02:00 PM	#3
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,783 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	The long explanation: Don't get into a relationship with the hopes it will fill something inside of you. Instead take care of your own emotional stuff, expect the other person to take care of theirs as well. Then see what each of you has to bring to the table, so to speak. The short version: Don't agree to be a baggage handler for others! __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

10-19-2010, 02:52 PM	#4
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10-19-2010, 05:13 PM	#5
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,903 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	dont think you are taking my side of the bed dont complain about my dog. She stays. You wont. she can pee on the floor. Dont even think of it. dont leave dishes in the LR for me to pick up ditto for the bedroom if you raise your voice to me you best be sitting down. If you stand up, and yell, its intimidating and I will not respond well. Fair warning. I dont care which way you put the TP on, just put it on when it runs out on your shift if you go into the dryer to get something out, take them all out AND FOLD THEM. dont leave one swig of anything in the fridge and not tell me or not pick it up yourself at the store. pet food, milk for coffee and TP are the three things this house must never run out of. And I am not the only responsible adult in this relationship. Remember this. dont not clean the sex toys. Nasty dirty bad in a not good way __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

10-22-2010, 04:55 AM	#7
sylvie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Mr Mtn's babygirl Preferred Pronoun?: girly, she Relationship Status: fiercely protected ♥ Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Moving home in OR with Him VERY soooon !! Posts: 2,548 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,834 Thanked 7,501 Times in 1,850 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	- don't say things just because you know i want/like it... be YOU.. be honest, i'm well aware everyone is different and will respect you more for honesty! - don't push everything at high speed.. i've learned that time, and getting to know each other should be at a pace - so everything can develop because we want it to, not because we feel we have to ... __________________ my Mantra: i am letting go of angers, continuing to find forgiveness, welcoming inner peace & deserving of it all. my facebook weight loss page: http://www.facebook.com/asyllyjourney

10-22-2010, 11:44 AM	#8
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,903 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	never accept someone who doesnt accept your child(ren) no matter how old they are. PERIOD. dont accept when they say they have no money to spend on you but spend lots of money with or on their best friend. Never ever take second fiddle in a relationship and never ever listen to their long list of playing you a fool.... its not ok to be left an empty tank most or all of the time. again, being played...he isnt a big kid who can take advantage of you its not ok to be drunk all the time to make love. Huge issues there. More than issues. Its a subscription! its not ok to be lied to. Lies are never ok. __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears