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11-27-2010, 03:09 PM
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The more I think about the butch-femme dynamic supposedly being more open to sex and the communication of sex, the more I disagree. In fact there appear to be far more "rules" to butch-femme sex and how it is supposed to be done and who is supposed to do what and what is supposed to be used (the almighty butch cock) than with lesbians (those not also identifying as butch or femme) where it's two women enjoying having sex together and where women are actually valued- as women and as sexual beings. I am a butch with a butch cock, but I really just have to shake my head over all of the perpetuation of lesbian stereotypes.
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11-27-2010, 03:29 PM
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This all makes me wonder a bit, because all this time I thought I was having 'Me' sex ~ 'My' sex...my own style, delivery, etc.  Not to say this hasn't been an interesting thread to follow. I just cannot fathom categorizing mah sex. .gif "Say What?") I can say that Bed Death is something that can reincarnate. For those who are experiencing this, if it's in your heart to revive it...then don't give up. 
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11-29-2010, 02:28 PM
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11-29-2010, 02:37 PM
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I confess, I am a lesbian and have never owned a pair of Birkenstocks despite the fact that I have lived in Santa Cruz, CA; Ithaca, NY and Portland, OR. However, I have owned flannel shirts. I must be butch
 As to sex, I agree it's all individual and you can't stereotype or predict how someone or a group of someones has sex or enjoys sex by their gender or sexual orientation.
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11-27-2010, 03:48 PM
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The logic follows...bed death is a reason to leave an otherwise good relationship and leaving said relationship May be based on how you identify and what color and shape your cock may be... wow. hahahahahaha
menopause medications MS Lupus Rheumatoid Arthritis Osteoarthritis etc., etc., etc., All relationships go through periods of more and less sexual activity. Some of us choose ways to be sexual and keep our relationship (non monog, poly, serial monog, etc), some move on (finding someone who exactly meets their sexual needs (okay that made me laugh a little, too), some chose to fake it till you make it (been faked on, I dun like it myself) and some after a period of time renew their sexual activity. I love sex. I loved sex when I was an out femme lesbian in the 70's. I loved sex when I was a political rabid social worker femme lesbian in the 80's. I loved sex as a femme dyke in the 90's. I love sex now as a Queer Femme. Right this moment in time, I have making love and sex in an amazing way. Away from all labels of gender or queerness, I think the fluctuation of sexual activity is a pretty basic human physiological and emotional phenomena.
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11-27-2010, 03:56 PM
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Kobi now has "Old MacDonald Has A Farm" stuck in her head thanks to you folks..... ....with a butch cock here and a femme cock there.... ....here a cock, there a cock, everywhere a cock cock... 
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LOL. Like InfiniteFemme, i sooo like the word. Butch COCK, femme COCK.
Yum, yum, yummy yum. i can't imagine limiting my SEX life in some way because it might look heteronormative. i fought the sex wars in the eighties. i am done with that. i don't defend my sex life. i enjoy it. Quote:
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11-28-2010, 11:34 PM
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Now, now Isadora...you know if a glow in the dark dolphin was comin' at you, you'd jump out of bed <g>.
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11-29-2010, 11:32 PM
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"The fact is butch/femme cock follows a very straight, heterosexual mode of sexually interpretation"
The fact is that for SOME our cock is anything but very straight (narrow) or heterosexual especially when queers are involved. I read this and thought, "really? wow" now my own community is dissin' me AND perhaps you've never met a femme that enjoyed butch cock, but again, so many B/F expressions and interpretations out there. |
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