Questions/Issues/Wishlists for BFP

[Admin]

Bit~
It doesnt *have* to be anything, but we clearly need something.

It may not seem logical to you why we are so strident about photos on this site so let me explain a few things:
(in list form because Im super disorganized right now, not meant to be preachy or anything)

1. Many people do not understand Daddy/Girl, Mommy/boy, or age play. For those people, logging into a website and seeing someone who claims to be a "Daddy" talking sexually to someone who is using "babytalk" or who appears to be a child will raise red flags.

2. Photos of children, even if hosted on another site, are problematic when mixed with chat from grown adults who appear to be encroaching on sexual behavior. Even flirtations mixed with photos of children can make us look like a site full of pedophiles and Im SO not down with that.

3. We certainly arent picking on the age threads with these guidelines either. We don't allow nudity to be posted anywhere on the site, even if it's hosted on another server. This is mainly because our server has guidelines and we will quickly be classified as a porn site if we have lots of photos of naked sex organs all over the place.

Just the other day, we had to ask folks not to post photos of human corpses on this site.

We may at some point have to ask folks to refrain from posting other types of images.

The bottom line here is that we have to do what we have to do to keep this site safe and operating. Our operation is often in the hands of the people who post here, meaning that we could be shut down by our service provider if people post things that are illegal, questionable, or legally troublesome.

I'll clue you in on a little something-something: There are folks out there who would like nothing better than to see this site go bye-bye and are willing to comb this site for hours a day just looking for something to report to our hosting provider, or something to start ugly rumors over, or something to just cause headaches for the Admin and Mod team.

While people like this often have my pity for a life that is so obviously lacking in love and positivity, I don't intend to make it easy for them to play out their ridicululousness. This is why we have to make boundaries and ask folks to help us keep the site well lit.

Doesn't mean we can't discuss kink, sex, irreverant issues, hot topics, etc. Just means we have to exercise some care and responsibility when doing so.

I think we can do that.

Thanks,
Admin

Originally Posted by Bit

Why does it have to be a pop-up? Won't pop-up blockers disable it?

Would it be possible to just add to the banner that's already there? It already says it's for threads not meant to be searchable, so could it also say "do not post pictures of actual children in these threads"?

I confess I haven't gone to the forum page to see which other threads are in the Inner Sanctum, and that I'm assuming anything potentially troublesome enough to have been placed in that forum probably shouldn't have kids' pics in it anyway. Maybe I'm wrong... but if not, wouldn't it be easier just to add some text to that banner than to hunt down a whole new gizmo?
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You know.... it doesn't seem logical or self-evident to me that there would ever be any repercussions from posting pictures in a thread, especially pictures that already came off the internet. This has been a huge (and troubling!) education to me. I wouldn't think that a newbie to a thread would even know that we could have any kind of trouble or ramifications over whatever pictures they might post. I sure didn't know, and I've been around a while.

[Bit]

Originally Posted by Admin

Bit~
It doesnt *have* to be anything, but we clearly need something.

It may not seem logical to you why we are so strident about photos......

{{{{{{{{{{{Dusa}}}}}}}}}}} I understand, darlin, but I'm glad you posted it. I think it wouldn't necessarily be logical to a newbie; I'm sorry I didn't say that very clearly. I think that unless a newbie sees a post like this one, where you've explained it so well, it probably would never even cross their mind that a pic could cause a problem.

Just in case it's not coming across clearly, I'd like to say again that I do understand why there are rules and why the rules include no sexual content and no pics of kids. I agree with those rules. I just would very much like to see them posted in a way that neutralizes the threat of a thread community being summarily disbanded because a newbie breaks an invisible rule. Thank you for figuring out how to do that, Dusa. I appreciate the hard work it takes to keep everything going smoothly.

[Kobi]

You had to ask people to not post pics of human corpses? Sometimes I feel so out of touch.

[Bit]

{{{{{{{{{{{{Dusa}}}}}}}}}}}}}

It's good, thank you! Now I hope the problem is completely solved.

[rlin]

so yesterday my toy broke and stopped letting me know who was sending a rep or thanks to me... meaning i feel like a nudge cuz i have no idea who the hell is being good to me... or not...

now i find that i am unable to post a pic to the gallery that it let me make...

anyone else having these probs???

seems trivial i know... but i am having this wicked urge to wrap myself in community lately...am i nesting??? is it a midlife thing??? hmmm... today the thought of only being midway thru sounds pretty fukn wonderful!!

anyway... thanks in advance!!

R

[Admin]

Originally Posted by rlin

so yesterday my toy broke and stopped letting me know who was sending a rep or thanks to me... meaning i feel like a nudge cuz i have no idea who the hell is being good to me... or not...

now i find that i am unable to post a pic to the gallery that it let me make...

anyone else having these probs???

seems trivial i know... but i am having this wicked urge to wrap myself in community lately...am i nesting??? is it a midlife thing??? hmmm... today the thought of only being midway thru sounds pretty fukn wonderful!!

anyway... thanks in advance!!

R

rlin~

I think I just figured out what happened to your profile! Please dump your cookies and log in again and you should be able to see all of your normal options.

Let us know!

[rlin]

Originally Posted by Admin

rlin~

I think I just figured out what happened to your profile! Please dump your cookies and log in again and you should be able to see all of your normal options.

Let us know!

howdy! and thank you for fixn my list! it didnt even require the redo... it was back when i checked...

however...
even after the cookie dump i still cant upload a pic... it just states that 'upload failed'

ifn you figure that one out... let me know...