Relationships - What things do you want & need?

[SouthernStud]

Originally Posted by little_ms_sunshyne

Hmmmm...Hadnt seen this thread...

Wants & Needs

~ A great sense of humor (although I am pretty easy to make laugh)

~ Optimisitc

~ A warm smile

~ Kind to others

~ Telling Eyes

~ A nice bottom lip that I can tug on when we kiss

~ Ambitious

~ Someone who is not afraid to take control...

~but can sit back and watch me when I decide to...

~ Gentleman

~Passionate, Lustful, and Loving (yes rolled up into one)

~ Someone I can drive nuts on a regular basis

Is this too much to ask for?? lol Oh and if they are my height or taller a plus Ok done...just saying..We can dream right?

Hmmmmm.... *thinks to self* ....ummmm how tall are u exactly???

[girl_dee]

at the risk of sounding needy I would rather say is that I do best with someone who is not afraid and can handle me! Someone who wants the same things in life as I do, someone who is not afraid to lock the chains to me...someone who is not afraid to cage me. Someone who is interested enough to see past the crap and to the next layer. Someone who is not afraid to give me what I really need especially when I need it. Someone who is real and lives and walks their own truth. Someone who is not afraid to tell me what they need and want. Someone who challenges me and puts me in my place when I push the line. Someone who is tender when it's needed and also throw me to my knees when it's time.. Someone who is not afraid to commit and capable of loving themselves enough to take care of themselves.. someone who takes responsibility seriously and acts accordingly. Someone who I can't live without. Someone willing to walk the walk... not just talk the talk.

and oh, must love dogs.

[Luckydwg07]

a brainy & sensual femme who can think on many levels.
its ok not to agree however people who discount ideas without exploring them bother me

[Gráinne]

Not looking, but this comes to mind:

*All the character traits everyone says-honesty, responsible, committed to personal growth, etc.

*Great sense of humor. Don't ever go with someone who can't make you laugh.

*Likes pets and kids

*Lots of interests (and hopefully share some of mine)

*Likes to get out of the house on weekends. Bonus for getting out of the country .

*Likes to read and discuss books

*Physically active. Don't have to be ripped, but working on themselves is nice.

*Not extreme when it comes to religion or politics

*Gets along well with other people-likes friends. Not necessarily outgoing or the "life of the party", but someone who likes people.

*Sensual and very sexual. Romantic in that she does little things, not necessarily candy and flowers type stuff.

[girl_dee]

i want the real deal, a real life, not a life made up on a computer or layers of saccharin under what is actually a non-existence. i don't want to have to make it up and cover so that people don't know the real deal, i want to enjoy life and although i love the internet, i do not want to maintain a relationship there. i want to know that everyday is solid and secure with someone who doesn't need me to complete them or make them look good, because they look pretty damn good on their own.

My needs are water and air, the rest are wants and desires..

Thank you UNIVERSE!

[Metro]

Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

"i want the real deal... i want to know that everyday is solid and secure with someone who doesn't need me to complete them or make them look good, because they look pretty damn good on their own."

I agree with Dee...

And, while it's nice to have an online space to vent, or share, or provide others with positive written support, for me I've found that too much is missed online (both physical and verbal cues) when trying to sort out any kind of romantic connection. I salute those who can make it *work* but for me geographic proximity is necessary.

[Scuba]

...Someone who knows that relationships are not part-time jobs. Not ready for a full-time position? Apply somewhere else

[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by Metro

I agree with Dee...

And, while it's nice to have an online space to vent, or share, or provide others with positive written support, for me I've found that too much is missed online (both physical and verbal cues) when trying to sort out any kind of romantic connection. I salute those who can make it *work* but for me geographic proximity is necessary.

me too, for ME that is the only way to know someone..

[wahya]

Understanding, patience, and must LOVE affection. All the rest are givens. Oh forgot must laugh at MOST of my corny jokes. Lol

[kittygrrl]

don't lie to yourself or me

[Library_girl]

Affection, honesty, good conversations, fidelity, support of my life and my choices, sense of humor, intelligence, love, passion, stability, open-mindedness, in no certain order........

[SleepyButch]

In a relationship.....

I need someone who is not constantly on their phone looking at facebook , email, texting, google hotspot or whatever. I used to be that person and have seen it in someone I was with as well. I think that is so annoying!

I need someone who loves dogs.

I need someone who is affectionate. I crave touch and want to touch. It feeds my soul.

I need honesty and open communication. How can you have a relationship without these?

I need someone who is not already married in any way, shape, or form, whether you consider yourself queer or not.

I'm sure there are a lot of other things but that's it for now.

[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by girl_dee

at the risk of sounding needy I would rather say is that I do best with someone who is not afraid and can handle me! Someone who wants the same things in life as I do, someone who is not afraid to lock the chains to me...someone who is not afraid to cage me. Someone who is interested enough to see past the crap and to the next layer. Someone who is not afraid to give me what I really need especially when I need it. Someone who is real and lives and walks their own truth. Someone who is not afraid to tell me what they need and want. Someone who challenges me and puts me in my place when I push the line. Someone who is tender when it's needed and also throw me to my knees when it's time.. Someone who is not afraid to commit and capable of loving themselves enough to take care of themselves.. someone who takes responsibility seriously and acts accordingly. Someone who I can't live without. Someone willing to walk the walk... not just talk the talk.

and oh, must love dogs.

Seven years later, still true.