Dating vs. Mating

Soft*Silver · 01-15-2011, 01:36 PM

Interesting, Kobi. I know I have gone into relationships looking to mate. I wanted a long term stable family setting. I assumed who I was with, wanted this also. In fact, I always spend a great deal of time in the courtship stage discussing what we want out of a relationship. Unfortunately, not everyone knows what they want or is capable of achieving what they want. Me included. No finger pointing that isnt also pointed at me as well. Its why I remain single.

Starbuck · 01-15-2011, 02:09 PM

Interesting thread, Kobi! No matter the relationship I've been in, I've 9 times out of 10 been a I guess what you'd call a "mater"... looking for the one. The one time it was just for fun, it just didn't feel right. I guess that could preclude me from having some fun if I'm not actively in an active relationship. Who knows, maybe I just need to get to know more people and get out there more.

citybutch · 01-15-2011, 02:36 PM

When I met my wife I was ONLY into dating... fun, play, sex, no strings... Little did I know we would mate... It took YEARS for me to catch on... Even though I knew I loved her within a year of meeting... We weren't ready to get married until YEARS later. Both of us acknowledge that.

For ME, I think one should date and not necessarily look for a mate. The mating part only comes after a period of time after you get to know each other. My wife and I are truly married in all aspects. If something ever happened to her, and we have discussed this, I wouldn't be interested in another mate. Not at my age. We are a perfect "fit"... and I am not interested in any other... There are too many OTHER things in life to experience...

01-15-2011, 01:36 PM	#1
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01-15-2011, 02:09 PM	#2
Starbuck Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Soft Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Oklahoma City Posts: 2,436 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,378 Thanked 2,148 Times in 756 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Fun v/s Mater Interesting thread, Kobi! No matter the relationship I've been in, I've 9 times out of 10 been a I guess what you'd call a "mater"... looking for the one. The one time it was just for fun, it just didn't feel right. I guess that could preclude me from having some fun if I'm not actively in an active relationship. Who knows, maybe I just need to get to know more people and get out there more. __________________ To forgive is to set the prisoner free, And then discover the prisoner was you.

01-15-2011, 02:36 PM	#3
citybutch Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: I answer to "hey you" (either works for me!) Relationship Status: 19 years together- Very Married for 10 years Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: San Diego Posts: 557 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 835 Thanked 1,194 Times in 355 Posts Rep Power: 6434867	Great idea for a thread! When I met my wife I was ONLY into dating... fun, play, sex, no strings... Little did I know we would mate... It took YEARS for me to catch on... Even though I knew I loved her within a year of meeting... We weren't ready to get married until YEARS later. Both of us acknowledge that. For ME, I think one should date and not necessarily look for a mate. The mating part only comes after a period of time after you get to know each other. My wife and I are truly married in all aspects. If something ever happened to her, and we have discussed this, I wouldn't be interested in another mate. Not at my age. We are a perfect "fit"... and I am not interested in any other... There are too many OTHER things in life to experience... __________________ Take care of your body, take care of your health... You never know when the walls cave in and it all changes for good.