Married/Partnered Planeteers - Combining Your Life - Page 2

Bard · 08-08-2011, 08:00 AM

Ok this is kind of timely for me as Desd moved in to my bachelor pad almost a year ago. before she make this pad a home it was just me and my daughter (we have her part time) I can be a pack rat and my desk tends to get covered with paperwork(getting better with that) I have a lot of baseball hats and cowboy hats and there were saddles bridles and such kind of randomly stored. Desd came with stuff not a whole lot and we just kind blended she is much more organized then I am and that is a good thing. over the past year we have made this a home new bed that we both loved new couch and BOOKCASES we both love books and if we could we would have a floor to ceiling book case but that will be in time when we have a house (someday) She suggested putting hooks up for all the hats and she really has a eye for things like the putting up curtains in the doorways I got lucky we just fit and we talk about everything so the home is a blend of us both .. the best is that we have added pictures of us on my wall of back and white pictures now I just need to get a black and white one of her as a baby to add to it

PumaJ · 08-23-2011, 12:43 AM

My boifriend & I are still busy making what has been my space for the past 8 years, into our space. Hy has sort of taken over the guest room as hys TV room, now calling it the "bro room" because hy & my Butch cat hang out in there together to watch TV. We femmes, meaning me, my other cat & the dog are invited to visit the "bro space" any time, LOL. I'm not much of a TV watcher so my visits are short. Today, we finally purchased a new bed, hooray! Making the move from my old Queen size to a new King size. Now there will be room for me & hym, my two cats, & hys dog. The family:-)

Last week we took the big step of registering our Domestic Partnership with the state via the county registrar's office. Very quiet, no ceremony, no party. It was just something we wanted to do without any fuss. Funny though that we still refer to each other as boifriend & girlfriend…

we are slowly settling in to domestic bliss.

Medusa · 08-24-2011, 04:14 PM

Still in the process of "nesting" in the home we have been in for 2 years.

We purchased this home together in July of 2009 and have redecorated 3 bedrooms, the hallway, a bathroom, and the greatroom. We still have to do the master bathroom, laundry room, library, and kitchen area. Lately we've been doing lots of painting and laying new floors.

We mostly have the same love of color but I have had to convince Jackhammer that red and aubergine are not scary

I'd love to hear how other couple have incorported color into their homes. Anyone encounter a partner who HATED a color that was a favorite of yours? Or do you mostly agree on neutrals and go from there?

I have to admit, Jackhammer has been pretty easygoing and just kinda let me run wild in the house. That has resulted in color on every wall and a house that feels very warm! LOVE THAT!

Dean Thoreau · 08-24-2011, 05:20 PM

Well we are on our fourth home in our 35th year of our on again we were off for a bit relationship....
Now that all of our kids are over 19 we decided to sell the big huge cardboard box and go for smaller...so we downsized to 5 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms.. ( I should have held out for 3 bathrooms)

In our downsizing to a smaller cardboard box,,,we tossed (actually let the kids take everything cept the dining room) and started again from scratch....We decided we deserved it since for 27 years its been all about the kids..and kid friendly.

Well it is over a year and....we are still decorating..and all that stuff and things have changed....

Originally the plan was a seafoam with black piping sofa and chair...accompanied by this vast collection of oriental black lacquer carved end tables coffee tables,,,etc etc...in the living room to: OMG we have grandkids we r watching all the time.....it changed to:
leather sofa, love seat and chair......still no coffee table or end table cause we can not agree on what we want, nad what we like just is not feasible with two grandkids playing in the living room......but we did agree on a new yamaha clarinova piano for that room.....

we bought beds..for all the bedrooms but not the furniture stuff except for lissy's room cause we still havent found what we are looking for.
in my case the antique burl mahogany I want....in Jen's case the shiney modern but oh gee that looks nice...i cant make up my mind.....
Luckily,
colors of the walls are all agreed and done....thos someone thought the shade of yellow in the Dining room was ugly,,,,she came around when i hung the drapes and found just the perfect wall hangings..

We both like color..

my bedroom is pumpkin a little more pumpkin than planned...with white trim...and with7 windows in the room a large double closet door and a door the walls are well broken up...so it is not overwhelming...but..finding drapes and bedding stuff that is not all fru fru that goes with this color....has not been easy..

jen's bedroom is a rose pinkish color with hardwood and tiled rose floor.....with 4 windows nice and bright and airy....a lot like her....we found a wonderful chair on sale at laZboy that is sort of reddish pinkish that goes perfectly in her room..now if she will just decide on the actual BR furniture...

lissy's bedroom is a ripe avacado with an antique green stained wodden poster bed...white trim and bright 70's style curtains and all her furniture is white ...it sounds like...but it is beautiful...and perfect for a 19 year old. as she says especially the giant flat screen on her wall....

the lounge was wedgewood blue and white...but with all the oriental furniture in there....it needs to be changed....ro something that goes with seafoam....in all probability a light muted steel

living room is 3 colors,,,white trim the fireplace wall is a muted blechy cream/tan but not quite...and the large wall is a sort of pomegranate
with the fireplace being off white antique whatever... and the marble surrounding it and then the deep hardwood flooring....this was not an easy room to contemplate....but luckily there is only one full wall not broken up by windows or doors....

And since prior to obtaining this home we did agree that,,red would be in it somewhere....jen loves red..pomegranate was a great....color we could agree on....(I dont like red)

This is the first house where we really had to be concerned about window treatments/blinds etc......and the only thing we agree on is we both do not like window blinds etc...but out of necessity (we live in town on a busy street now) we have submitted to drapes and treatments and other icky stuff as opposed to hanging large stain glass and calling it a curtain

Luckily our 2nd floor has lots of windows for the stain glass and the third floor...has a wonderful landing area for some crazy art work and my definition of window dressinga....stain glass....and sheers tho all the BR windows had to get window treatments and drapes and crap...

I guess some of it has to do with our knowing each other for sooooooooooooooo long and the fact that we have lived under the dame roof for the majority of the past 35 years... ...we know each others tastes ..and bluntly we have very different style and taste...but there is enough common ground on color...and wackiness.that a room all comes together.with the colors, styles and interesting piece of...that goes with nothing but damn it looks good there...

dean

DapperButch · 08-24-2011, 07:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Medusa

I'd love to hear how other couple have incorported color into their homes. Anyone encounter a partner who HATED a color that was a favorite of yours? Or do you mostly agree on neutrals and go from there?

I pretty much told my partner that if she ever moved in here nothing else mattered to me but the colors on the first floor walls.

Problem is, she is not so keen on them (not AT ALL)!

08-08-2011, 08:00 AM	#1
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08-23-2011, 12:43 AM	#2
PumaJ Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Queer Feminist Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Portland Metro, Oregon Posts: 200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,419 Thanked 500 Times in 147 Posts Rep Power: 1652642	My boifriend & I are still busy making what has been my space for the past 8 years, into our space. Hy has sort of taken over the guest room as hys TV room, now calling it the "bro room" because hy & my Butch cat hang out in there together to watch TV. We femmes, meaning me, my other cat & the dog are invited to visit the "bro space" any time, LOL. I'm not much of a TV watcher so my visits are short. Today, we finally purchased a new bed, hooray! Making the move from my old Queen size to a new King size. Now there will be room for me & hym, my two cats, & hys dog. The family:-) Last week we took the big step of registering our Domestic Partnership with the state via the county registrar's office. Very quiet, no ceremony, no party. It was just something we wanted to do without any fuss. Funny though that we still refer to each other as boifriend & girlfriend… we are slowly settling in to domestic bliss. __________________ PumaJ

08-24-2011, 04:14 PM	#3
Medusa Mentally Delicious How Do You Identify?: Queer High Femme, thank you very much Preferred Pronoun?: Mme. Relationship Status: Married to JD. Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Atlanta Posts: 10,446 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,995 Thanked 42,692 Times in 7,831 Posts Rep Power: 10000026	Still in the process of "nesting" in the home we have been in for 2 years. We purchased this home together in July of 2009 and have redecorated 3 bedrooms, the hallway, a bathroom, and the greatroom. We still have to do the master bathroom, laundry room, library, and kitchen area. Lately we've been doing lots of painting and laying new floors. We mostly have the same love of color but I have had to convince Jackhammer that red and aubergine are not scary I'd love to hear how other couple have incorported color into their homes. Anyone encounter a partner who HATED a color that was a favorite of yours? Or do you mostly agree on neutrals and go from there? I have to admit, Jackhammer has been pretty easygoing and just kinda let me run wild in the house. That has resulted in color on every wall and a house that feels very warm! LOVE THAT! __________________ . . . Buy ButchFemmePlanet Merch Here: https://teespring.com/stores/butchfemmeplanetcom-merch

08-24-2011, 05:20 PM	#4
Dean Thoreau Member How Do You Identify?: Ftm - Male- exfemale Preferred Pronoun?: He’s Him Relationship Status: Has a gf Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Philadelphia pa Posts: 889 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 251 Thanked 760 Times in 219 Posts Rep Power: 4529749	Well we are on our fourth home in our 35th year of our on again we were off for a bit relationship.... Now that all of our kids are over 19 we decided to sell the big huge cardboard box and go for smaller...so we downsized to 5 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms.. ( I should have held out for 3 bathrooms) In our downsizing to a smaller cardboard box,,,we tossed (actually let the kids take everything cept the dining room) and started again from scratch....We decided we deserved it since for 27 years its been all about the kids..and kid friendly. Well it is over a year and....we are still decorating..and all that stuff and things have changed.... Originally the plan was a seafoam with black piping sofa and chair...accompanied by this vast collection of oriental black lacquer carved end tables coffee tables,,,etc etc...in the living room to: OMG we have grandkids we r watching all the time.....it changed to: leather sofa, love seat and chair......still no coffee table or end table cause we can not agree on what we want, nad what we like just is not feasible with two grandkids playing in the living room......but we did agree on a new yamaha clarinova piano for that room..... we bought beds..for all the bedrooms but not the furniture stuff except for lissy's room cause we still havent found what we are looking for. in my case the antique burl mahogany I want....in Jen's case the shiney modern but oh gee that looks nice...i cant make up my mind..... Luckily, colors of the walls are all agreed and done....thos someone thought the shade of yellow in the Dining room was ugly,,,,she came around when i hung the drapes and found just the perfect wall hangings.. We both like color.. my bedroom is pumpkin a little more pumpkin than planned...with white trim...and with7 windows in the room a large double closet door and a door the walls are well broken up...so it is not overwhelming...but..finding drapes and bedding stuff that is not all fru fru that goes with this color....has not been easy.. jen's bedroom is a rose pinkish color with hardwood and tiled rose floor.....with 4 windows nice and bright and airy....a lot like her....we found a wonderful chair on sale at laZboy that is sort of reddish pinkish that goes perfectly in her room..now if she will just decide on the actual BR furniture... lissy's bedroom is a ripe avacado with an antique green stained wodden poster bed...white trim and bright 70's style curtains and all her furniture is white ...it sounds like...but it is beautiful...and perfect for a 19 year old. as she says especially the giant flat screen on her wall.... the lounge was wedgewood blue and white...but with all the oriental furniture in there....it needs to be changed....ro something that goes with seafoam....in all probability a light muted steel living room is 3 colors,,,white trim the fireplace wall is a muted blechy cream/tan but not quite...and the large wall is a sort of pomegranate with the fireplace being off white antique whatever... and the marble surrounding it and then the deep hardwood flooring....this was not an easy room to contemplate....but luckily there is only one full wall not broken up by windows or doors.... And since prior to obtaining this home we did agree that,,red would be in it somewhere....jen loves red..pomegranate was a great....color we could agree on....(I dont like red) This is the first house where we really had to be concerned about window treatments/blinds etc......and the only thing we agree on is we both do not like window blinds etc...but out of necessity (we live in town on a busy street now) we have submitted to drapes and treatments and other icky stuff as opposed to hanging large stain glass and calling it a curtain Luckily our 2nd floor has lots of windows for the stain glass and the third floor...has a wonderful landing area for some crazy art work and my definition of window dressinga....stain glass....and sheers tho all the BR windows had to get window treatments and drapes and crap... I guess some of it has to do with our knowing each other for sooooooooooooooo long and the fact that we have lived under the dame roof for the majority of the past 35 years... ...we know each others tastes ..and bluntly we have very different style and taste...but there is enough common ground on color...and wackiness.that a room all comes together.with the colors, styles and interesting piece of...that goes with nothing but damn it looks good there... dean __________________ Dean Thoreau