OFOS Butches & Femmes

[Linus]

Originally Posted by WicketWWarrick

I call myself old school because I honor and respect the butches and femmes who paved the way for us to be like we are. I value our history. I value chivalry, being a gentleman (or gentlewoman/gentleperson). Manners, respect, loyalty - these are some of the things I strive to exude as a partner. I need to run so will probably add more later, but this is at least a start.

-Wicket

Couldn't have said it better. As a trans brother of mine put it -- I am a man of integrity.

[Rogue]

Just like WickedWarrick said.. I, too, respect those who have paved the way for us, I respect and value not only our history, but our way of life, our way of interacting, the dynamics we share, and the love and respect amongst us.
With that said..
I call myself old fashioned/old school because that is the dynamics of our love, our relationship, and our way of life.. hell you could say that I'm a modern day June Cleaver with a twist!

Rogue

[Jet]

I was thinking how much OFOS comes off as a train of thinking or a set of rules. I don't know if that applies to everyone who considers themselves OFOS. I know it doesn't for me. Although I'm self-described as OFOS. Anyway, I hope this thread will grow with personal stories and experiences or just to bond online with like-minded folks.,

[LieslKate]

*holds up a fresh off the press copy of "The OFOS Rules" *

[LieslKate]

This NEEDS bumping...

[Canela]

I have a question--

In your opinion, do Old Fashioned/Old School and Stone go hand in hand?

Just wondering what interpretations there might be...

[OS Butch]

Originally Posted by HeartBreak Kid

Oh how I love and adore my OFOS Butches...without u all I am only half my potential. *Sigh*
I wish there was a OFOS Bootcamp for some of theese "new school" butches...the smoothness charm and energy is just all wrong..(at least for me).....anyway Thanks Jet for the thread

I have no idea what “new school” is all about. Someone care to enlighten me on their interpretation?

Originally Posted by LittleShug

I have a question--

In your opinion, do Old Fashioned/Old School and Stone go hand in hand?

Just wondering what interpretations there might be...

My short answer: No, they do not.

Opinion….Interpretations…My disclaimer…What you are about to read is totally my opinion and has nothing to do with how anyone else may feel about OFOS. It’s all my opinion and how I interact with the world, not just the realm of the Butch-Femme Dynamic.

What is OFOS? Maybe it would be easier to say what it is not. I believe for some the idea of OFOS is the Ward and June Clever life. It is that idea has caused a rejection of OFOS for some people…That it is outdated, therefore irrelevant today.

OFOS is not keeping the little woman is the kitchen so dinner is on the table when the Butch comes home from a long day at work.

OFOS is not a Butch taking care of everything because the Femme is unable.

OFOS is not just opening the door for Femmes.

OFOS is not about who is on top or bottom.

In my opinion OFOS is all about love, respect, honor and loyalty. None of which should be exclusively OFOS. All of these things should be part of one’s living code of ethics.

For me, OFOS is a way of life. I open a door for a Femme or even a Butch to honor and respect that person, not because I am Butch and that is what I am suppose to do. An OFOS Femme appreciates these gestures because she knows it is done out of love, honor and respect, not because she cannot do it herself.

I walk on the street side with my hand on the small of her back or holding her elbow because I care, honor and respect her. She allows me to do so because she knows it is how I honor her.

I walk in front of her, grasping her hands behind me as we wander through a crowded room. This keeps her from getting bumped and she allows me to do so because she respects that this is how I show my caring and respect for her.

For the life of me, I don’t understand why simply courtesy has dropped to the wayside and are called old fashioned. For me, it is anything but old fashioned. It is the way I choose to move through this world. Why do I feel so alone?


OSB